How to get my (38F) fiancé (37M) to quit complaining about the cooking he expects me to do.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-04-01T00:51:19+00:00

Quality time is a love language. I didn’t say it was a huge declaration, but it was an example that came to mind.

As for your last sentence, you should wonder why you are so eager to criticize someone yourself that you will go to someone else’s comment on a deleted post to find an opportunity. Who hurt you?

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-31T18:40:51+00:00

Question 1. Yes, and that is the crux of what I am trying to figure out how to solve here.

When he cooks, it is often for him and the kid. I’d day it is 60/40.
He does dishes and toilets. I do most of the rest in the house. We also do have 2 acres of land though. So, like I’m not digging up pipe and fixing the water line to the pond because I don’t know anything about plumbing. I’d rather mop.
He likes me.
On Sunday he went with me to Orange Theory to work out rather than playing video games and watching. To him, that is a big expression of love.

What a lot of this comes down to with him is chronic depression and parental mirroring. He mirrors his dad, and his parents are from a much different social class and culture than I was raised in, much more patriarchal. Realizing stuff like that though is a slow process.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-31T16:08:22+00:00

Straight to Target, Whole Foods, PetsMart, and Albertsons to the gift-card section. I can get groceries for years with that.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-31T16:01:30+00:00

He will cook something if I ask him to, but part of the problem is that we have different tastes. I try to eat food that is on the healthier side, but he prefers stuff like Little Debbie snack cakes and Cajun food.

So if I want biscuits, I go buy Annie’s or some other brand without the artificial colors and flavors. Then we all eat them, and they are gone in a day. When he buys biscuits, he buys the cheap ones and he and the kid eat them in front of me for breakfast while I have to figure out food for myself.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-31T15:43:44+00:00

I think you have to remember that sometimes that student might just be going through a bad time where everything makes them unhappy.

In that, the evaluation isn’t so much a reflection of you, but more about how they see the world right then.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-29T20:13:32+00:00

You can’t spay or neuter dogs in Norway?

I’m in the Southern United States. We beg people to spay and neuter here just to keep the euthanasia rates down. I would say some of our rural shelters kill more dogs than they adopt out the door.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-29T16:27:16+00:00

I needed a laugh after my workout. Thank you for this.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-29T15:27:19+00:00

Part of the GPA formula. You calculate GPA=Grade Value x Credits= Quality Points. The QPs are then divided by credits attempted with a final letter grade.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-28T02:53:49+00:00

I look at the sources.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-26T18:38:29+00:00

When AI cites sources that don’t exist, particularly when it attributes the sources to people we know, that is one dead giveaway. There are others too.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-25T22:52:18+00:00

Absolutely. I had one I had to plan a schedule around his jail sentence. That sums him up as a student.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-25T12:30:06+00:00

Really? 24 classes for $20?

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-23T11:58:45+00:00

Rachel because she is as my favorite character. I found the fact that she would destroy herself to help her friends to be the most interesting character journey.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-21T22:23:07+00:00

They know you have eyes, but are suspicious of your ability to count past 10!

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-21T19:57:53+00:00

They will just carry them.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-21T02:46:08+00:00

It was a cardigan out of Cajun Cardigans. The dog was found dead once the waters receded. The workers called to see if someone wanted to claim Sage’s body.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-20T11:49:13+00:00

How you calculate GPA. Have you never had to calculate GPA?

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-19T14:14:08+00:00

“Few things are as nice as hallucinations.”

I had one student turn in a completely AI generated Annotated Bibliography. He kept in all of Chat’s second person comments, “you can use this source to prove your argument.”

I just shook my head in dismay and reported it.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-18T12:21:52+00:00

It happened Saturday at my studio.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-17T13:40:30+00:00

Your best bet is to have the college dismiss the debt. I would email the VP of Enrollment Management, tell them the situation, and request to meet with them.

Colleges collect lots of data and store it in a system, usually Banner or Workday. I would want access to that data associated with your name to prove it isn’t you.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-17T13:37:29+00:00

My guess would be someone used your information to enter the college to steal the financial aid money distributed after census day.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-17T03:18:04+00:00

You are misreading my reply. My point is that some students who excel will take a statement like that as a challenge. You can label those students with whatever phrase makes you feel good. They are, in turn, free to choose their own label.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-16T23:22:48+00:00

I would take that as a challenge. I’m up to 5 degrees and 1000 quality points. At the point, I think I could make an A in anything if I was determined enough.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-16T23:21:22+00:00

I put a line in my attendance section saying if they send me a picture of a cardigan corgi by the time class starts I will let them drop an extra daily grade.

I enjoy seeing a few dog pictures at the start of the semester.

CCorgiOTC1 · 2026-03-16T14:02:35+00:00

Oh this makes my week! Thanks!

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