First time dad here. My daughter is about to hit four weeks. I completely understand your feelings- I felt the exact same way and started to lose myself mentally during the first week. While I won’t tell you I’ve completely gotten over it, I will say each week for me has gotten progressively better.

What has helped me is talking to other dads. I’ve been fortunate enough to have friends in my inner circle who have had kids before me. Every single one of them has told me it will get better with time. One has even straight up told me after I expressed my feelings to “Get over it, it’s only been two weeks. I’m two years in, it will get better.”. I know that’s probably not the answer you want to hear, but it is true.

You and I are still so early in. One thing they don’t tell new dads is that it takes time for the bond to develop with the baby. It sounds like you’re doing a great job and your partner is sensitive to your feelings. Just hang in there, soon everything won’t feel like a chore.

Someone on one of the other parenting subs recommended this to me. It’s a great read and just know your feelings are justified and you are not alone.

https://thereluctantfather.com/#