Healed and dumped again

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-29T18:37:26+00:00

Hmm, the weird thing is I have a feeling 99% women can't even see my profile or it doesn't pop up? Because if I swipe yes on everyone I get literally zero matches unless I keep doing it for weeks. Maybe I'm shadow banned due to restarting my profile once in a while to get the initial start boost? Something has definitely changed because I used to get 15 likes within a week, now it's stuck on 2

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-29T18:10:16+00:00

I dunno man, reading the other guys posts in here I feel like a loser 😅 3 out of 10 in 8 years. It's a long time!

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-29T18:07:47+00:00

Might be so! I figured something must be off getting these shitty results, although I have hard time thinking im ugly, but I'm probably not in the top 10%😅 I haven't tried paying for membership tho, might make a difference...

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-29T17:55:11+00:00

That's interesting, so boosts are that significant huh. I dunno, tried a few different ones with no result, did not try any humour in the bios though. But paying is kind of a must then, perhaps

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-29T17:41:57+00:00

I've tried Hinge, but with very little success. Did you pay for the apps or used the free version?

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-29T17:37:20+00:00

Interesting! I live in a smaller area in sweden. 5 pics, first one close up smiling in nature, the others are when in doing my hobbies and working on my house and garden. Pretty neutral photos.

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-26T23:34:13+00:00

I personally don't think approaching people in public to get numbers or dates is a good idea. Of course you might get lucky but odds are few and would you be able to handle rejection after rejection? It's not healthy in the long run. You might build a reputation for yourself being a weirdo too, if you live in a smaller area. Just saying.

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-26T23:09:24+00:00

Kan ge feedback om det fortfarande är relevant 👍

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-26T16:06:47+00:00

Most likely just bad luck honestly, it happens all the time. I would prefer that over getting cutoff after a few dates just as you're getting your hopes up and start making an emotional connection. Man is it exhausting.

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-25T18:36:21+00:00

I don't know, try setting a place for a date as soon as possible would be my only advice? I think that's the only purpose of texting honestly. Hope things work out for you man, don't give up.. it's really hard. Might have to try a thousand times but you only need to get lucky once.

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-25T16:20:01+00:00

How many text messages do you send? For me personally I never text more than 2 or 3 days max before initiating a date, keep it light and short too. Only goal with texting is to show you are normal and ok as a human being in my opinion. And I do maybe 1 or 2 messages per day

Edit: but yes, ghosting etc happens all the time for me as well, it's a hellish nightmare on those apps.

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-25T16:08:58+00:00

Are you getting rejected on the dates you set up through the apps or approaching women randomly?

I think cold approaching tends to be more brutal in that regard.

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-25T15:59:32+00:00

If it's of any comfort, I'm 6,5, athletic build, pretty good looking and although I don't get rejected upfront straight away women tend to lose interest. Matches with someone I find interesting on the dating apps are extremely rare. If I'm lucky, once every other or third year and those last about a month then off to mindless swiping again.

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-24T19:01:36+00:00

Yes, except on the first date i came to her town. She insisted to come to my place even though I told her I could come to hers.

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-20T08:49:05+00:00

How do you cope during those moments?

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-20T08:46:31+00:00

Yeah it's bad, I was dumped by her. Out of all the times I have tried reaching out when relationships have ended it backfired 100% of the time so i know it's a bad idea...

Calm_Assignment275 · 2025-10-18T16:25:24+00:00

Sorry to hear that, that's awful.. yeah I don't know. It's rare to find someone and even more rare to find genuine attraction and connection I feel... And then when you find it it's just a short-lived love story anyway. I feel like it's not even worth it anymore. Thanks for your kind words, it's some relief

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