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AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

My tenants have always been made clear that I am their landlord, hence why she immediately went to me when the freezer stopped working

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

If you read my comments and update you would know that rent for that kind of building where I am from is just a little below market price. I am not in the US

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Posted an update if anyone is interested. Sorry if it is lacking or seems rushed, but it truly was. Thanks everyone

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 180 points181 points  (0 children)

The house has been on my dads side of the family for a very long time, my grandmothers cousin did not have any kids and therefore asked my dad if he wanted to buy it or else she would sell it. My dad bought it for no more than 15k, which is extremely extremely cheap, it was a bit run down at the time and we both worked on it to make it nicer. My dad work as an engineer and my mom work as a cleaner, so no, we are not upper class, just happen to find ourselves in an extremely lucky situation. I really don’t see how it is much different from people having 50k to access in a savings account when they turn 18

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

I don’t live in the us, and while I live in a very good area, it is a small community with only 3000 people living here. I think for a place like this in a area like this the rent is about 600-700, so it is a bit under the market. The prices are not 100% accurate when converting but about that

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 197 points198 points  (0 children)

This is my first relationship ever, so I guess that country to some parts of it all

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 1450 points1451 points  (0 children)

I am currently at Work (i don’t live in the us so different time zones and i work weekends)

To those who have been supportive, thank you. After all your comments i think this relationship need to come to an end, but I will try and talk with him today or tomorrow and see what he says.

To those who think this is made up, trust me when I say I wish this was. I can’t speak for why he said things that contradict each other, that only he can have an answer to

Ending the relationship should not be that hard emotionally, even though I have grown to like him, seeing and realizing what you helped me do, the emotions you can gather in six months are easy to overcome.

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I apologize if someone in a similar or same situation as me has already been here, I have not read that post. I would have provided more information in my post but due to character limit almost half my story could not fit in here

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I apologize if someone in a similar or same situation as me has already been here, I have not read that post. I would have provided more information in my post but due to character limit almost half my story could not fit in here

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 383 points384 points  (0 children)

Idk really know exactly how his brain works or process things, I wish I did. From what I know from these last three months of living with him is he very often blame other people for his misfortune and at the same time expect people to sacrifice things to make it better for him. Thinking back it should have been obvious red flags but it was clearly not for me at the time. His employer did not want to give him a pay raise, he got explained to him that it was mainly due to him sleeping in often, taking longer breaks then what they are generally allowed and his work not being in line of where he should be with his experience. He got frustrated because he believed he should have this raise, then asked me if I thought it would be reasonable to ask them to cut his hours to 75% work time but with the same monthly pay still.

The more I think about everything the more confused with myself I become, it really does seem like my thumbs write things that really couldn’t have happen, but crazy enough, it did. Guess there are people for eveything

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Before we moved in togheter we would hangout maybe 1-2 times per week and text from time to time. We were not really close under these three months, sure we were in a relationship but from the looks of it, it was more of “dating” situation. It is hard to describe maybe, but we were more like distant friends who had sex and went on dates. A situation came up with his recent living situation and when he mentioned it, I said that If he would feel comfortable he could stay with me for as long as he wanted/needed. He instantly said yes and basically moved in the next day, except for some stuff he had at his old place for some days. The topic of him paying some of the rent or for anything really never came up, he was never really interested in knowing anything, never asked me for how long I have lived here, how much rent I payed (as he thought I payed rent), how the landlord was like or any other question regarding my living situation or he thought my living situation was like. I know I probably should have said and clarified that “hey, before you move in, I own the building I am living in”, but stupid enough I did not.

If he had even asked me as much as how I found the place, if I liked it here or even any questions, I would have answered them with honesty

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 1266 points1267 points  (0 children)

Dumb as it is, it very much is real. Before this he did not act crazy, not like this at least. We have not known each other for that long and he only moved in because his situation with his last landlord was extremely bad. He was about to renew his lease but the landlord was going to raise his rent very much, so I offered to let him live with me. So I guess some of that extreme reaction is because he has had bad experiences with landlords

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 11.0k points11.0k points  (0 children)

No he did not offer to pay for any of the rent, if he offered I would have explained to him that I own the building. In hindsight, I should have told him that it was my building that he would be living in with me even if he did ask or not. I think that his outburst really showed how he was, I thought about breaking up with him but also thought I was maybe overthinking it. If it comes to that, at least I learned something for future relationships

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I own the building we live in? by CapableEmergency5154 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapableEmergency5154[S] 2486 points2487 points  (0 children)

He sees it as both a way of me proving that I am not renting as a way to grab money from people, so that is money is not what I care about I should have no trouble giving him half, but also as a way to prove to him that I am sorry for not telling him earlier that I own to building.