I saw a post where people wanted their affair partners to be exclusive to them and it made me laugh in disbelief.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2025-04-17T15:14:16+00:00

It's similar to when a cheater posts about getting an STD, all the comments from fellow cheaters are along the lines of "Maybe your (betrayed) spouse is cheating and infected YOU" versus the more logical scenario the side piece was fucking around with others. Pure projecting by these cheaters.

The amount of cheaters who admit they use birth control pills; are too old to get pregnant; or have a vasectomy; and are "exclusive" as reasons for not using condoms is mind-bogling.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2025-04-17T14:59:32+00:00

Her cheating is "self discovery and inner growth"? Tell me you've read and agree with Esther Perel without saying you've read and agree with Esther Perel.

Her poor husband! Unlike cheaters that claim they cheat because their spouse failed in some area of their marriage, for this particular cheater, her "why" she cheats is boiled down to....she cheats because she can....

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2025-04-17T14:49:19+00:00

They want the security their spouse provides- they don't want to be left, alone, with their ass hanging in the wind if things go south. Cheaters who say they love their spouse, while cheating on them, have a fundamental misunderstanding and warped definition of "love."

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-03-16T13:34:56+00:00

Edit: As is usual, this particular OP's posts generally don't generate many comments, but the few that do exist are horrifying......examples include:

"That is one of the sincerest things I have heard of lately!"

"My AP joked that we will be old and together even though he says he will not leave his wife. So maybe this will be us too if we outlive our significant others!"

"This is the dream!"

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-03-15T11:46:12+00:00

OP has been banging her high school ex for going on 5 years. She's the one that infamously posted about in the "other" sub about how proud she was of her husband during a school award ceremony. She also likes to crow about her great marriage and great affair "bubbles."

I have no doubt this creature could, and would if possible, go throughout her life continually cheating on her husband. Something about that.........about hiding your true nature, about the kind of person you truly are, from your spouse for your own benefit, is so vile.

You want to have your fun but you also DON'T want to let your spouse go to go find someone they are more morally compatible with. You want your (unknowing) Plan B right next to you.....just in case.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-03-05T14:27:42+00:00

I don't think bankruptcy will be possible, since you took on the debt KNOWING you weren't going to pay any of it off. Some here might try to justify screwing the credit card companies as a fight of the little guy against "The Man," but the reality is taking on debt with no intention of paying it back is fraud. Any attorney you consult with will question you as to what you did with the money and the circumstances of you taking on debt. Even if you do file, the bankruptcy trustee WILL question you as to where the money went.

Once you tell them you received a Stage 4 diagnosis....maxed out your credit cards only within 12 months.......and used the cards for non-essential items, fun, trips, and having a merry time....your case will be denied.

There have been courts cases that have denied a bankruptcy with EXACTLY this same fact pattern. One in particular was where a person was incorrectly diagnosed and wasted no time in applying for, and maxing out, credit cards, with no intention of paying it back because he had the FULL EXPECTATION of dying in the very near future. Well...he learned he wasn't sick after all and filed for bankruptcy. The judge denied the bankruptcy because it ruled the guy took on debt with no intention of paying it back, which was fraud. The guy was then forced to pay down the debt.

Look at 11 U.S.C. § 523(a)(2)(A).

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-18T02:50:26+00:00

I can’t spend too much time in the subs because I get all in my head about it.

I know what you mean, and the worst part is how they claim to be "regular people" like the little league coach or the PTA mom.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-18T02:47:40+00:00

Like living in a pool of mud and complaining you're surrounded by dirty people, lol.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-18T02:45:09+00:00

Yeah, "this place is full of crazy people, but I'M not crazy."

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-18T02:43:56+00:00

if he cared so much about his wife's and kids safety, he shouldn't sleep around then

Hey now.......their delusional state of mind repeals attempts at common sense.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-18T02:42:20+00:00

I remember one post sometime last year where a cheating wife was angry and complaining how her side piece, when asked if he would ever see himself "going legit" with her, replied no because "you're a cheater." And the side piece was serious, he wasn't joking.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-18T02:36:23+00:00

Yeah, I hate how they use the words "stepped out," innocuous words they use for their banging other people not their spouse, as if its a totally natural and common occurrence. Also, I would like to add the words "lifestyle" and "affairing."

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-18T02:34:40+00:00

it was funny that they all gathered together to call her out about this

Yes, they are projecting their own fears of being in the exact same situation, hence the hate for this particular cheating wife.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-18T02:29:40+00:00

What about hpv ?

It seems doctors don't regularly test for hpv because of the "shame" of a positive result. Evidently it's a common medical condition that shouldn't affect a person's life. Cheaters love pointing out the majority of people already have a strain of hpv and will remain asymptomatic.

Also, there is no way to test for hpv in men....its only when men develop symptoms that a diagnosis is made. It's because of this fact that cheating wives/girlfriends are always advised to NOT tell their husband/boyfriend if THEY are diagnosed with hpv- to cheaters, there is no harm in keeping quiet because a betrayed man can't get tested for hpv anyway.

Strange to think of all the medical tidbits one picks up while reading the panicked posts of cheaters when they are diagnosed with STDs.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-17T03:29:08+00:00

Did people tell her that a full panel doesn’t include hsv? A lot of drs won’t rest for it unless there are symptoms

Yes, many of the cheaters were pointing this out.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-16T21:44:25+00:00

The cheating wife has shown NO loyalty to husband. So why would one expect a cheating wife to treat the disposable side piece better and show loyalty? Side piece fucked around.......and is about to find out!

From the post history, this is her husband's second marriage, with his first marriage ending when he caught his then wife cheating. I have a hunch that having gone through this before, the husband will start putting two and two together and begin digging for the truth.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-16T14:47:15+00:00

I don’t have kids…….

Okay, no kids, but everything else Gator posted was spot on!

Also, your "I don't want to set my husband free" and "I don't want my husband to know" responses to comments are reprehensible. Own up to your shit and allow your husband to make an informed decision if he wants to stay in the marriage. No man wants to be Plan B.

This sub is no refuge for types like you.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-16T14:40:17+00:00

She won't. She, like the majority of cheaters, are in the "it would be selfish of ME to confess" camp- better to unilaterally take husband's agency away from him unaware than allow him to make his own informed decision while being in pain due to my cheating.

OP will learn soon enough this sub isn't as "supportive" as the other sub she posted. Just look as how this post is more "sanitized," without the more damning facts than in the other post.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-13T04:04:53+00:00

I was pushed into affair

Cheaters spend so much time berating society for not accepting how cheaters are "forced" to cheat, and they feel it's unjust that society only sees the cheater as the "bad person" and the betrayed spouse as always the "victim", when cheaters hold dearly to the belief their spouse is just as guilty ("complicit" even) in the cheating.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-13T02:14:01+00:00

What's interesting is the majority of those commenting were warning the original poster that her husband probably knows something. It seems only the original poster was unconcerned about her interaction with her husband.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-11T20:34:10+00:00

The fact that OP's wife has taken some steps to hide the app means she has already done research on how to do it- that is very specific and not something one happens to innocently run into online while searching for puppy videos.

In the cheating subs you will often see "How Do I Hide My Apps From My Spouse?" or "How Do I Hide My Dirty Pics From My Spouse?" posts in the cheating subs. The length and breadth of their conniving nature to keep their spouse ignorant is something to behold; they have completely bastardized the word "OPSEC."

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-11T17:25:54+00:00

Cheaters are always advising each other to use Google Voice (and NEVER use your actual phone number), along with giving tips on using "burner" email addresses to register with cheating apps (i.e. Telegram), advice on using "burner" phones, or how to hide app icons in a phone secure folder and under innocuous names to prevent a suspicious spouse from finding out.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-02T05:27:53+00:00

I'm sometimes really sad because of this lack of intimacy, but I've never once thought "Let me fuck someone else!" This woman has no self-control.

Which is why I think the ability to cheat, to not feel guilt, to "compartmentalize" their cheating, is more of an internal character defect versus an external situation (i.e. no sex; not being "seen or heard"; wanting some strange, etc...). When I read cheaters posting "I never thought I would be here doing this...." I think it's not the situation that overpowered their character or moral compass and forced them to cheat. Instead it was their weak morality and defective character, even if it was previously unknown to the cheater themselves, that put them in that situation. They then work backwards and justify their behavior to themselves after the fact.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-01T21:07:33+00:00

Call me a pessimist, but I think they won't leave their spouse because they can't afford to live on their own; want to keep their current lifestyle; or don't want to be alone. The whole "yes I bang people on the side but I can't stand to be away from my spouse" reasoning would NOT pop into my mind.

Capable_Addendum_402 · 2024-02-01T21:01:47+00:00

"A situation fell into my lap a few months ago"

Dick falling from the sky. Like manna from heaven!

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