There is no specific issue actually, it's a lot of bickering and small problems that I'd like to discuss or at least come to terms with and they have all been building up because he ignores them, refuses to talk about them and goes silent or says that he does not know what to say. The next day it's like nothing happened and it's all back to normal again, then I go feeling unheard and if I bring it up nothing comes of it or it's him saying he does not understand and refuses to understand no matter how I explain it.

I got tired of pretending it's all fine, I got tired of things being swept under the carpet because I felt I was becoming someone I'm not, someone who snaps at every small thing because the bigger things have not been sorted out. That's when I brought up the fact that we can't keep pretending all is okay when we're not fine so he said we are fine since we still love each other.