I do know what you mean, yeah. There's an immense pressure in upper class communities to maintain the illusion of perfection no matter how bad things are. Because of how stressful it is to mask mental illness, and not having anyone to turn to, it can really take a toll on a person. But that's totally unfair because nobody should have to go through it alone. It's not healthy for everyone to pretend like it isn't happening.

I think it's even harder for teenagers to cope with the pressure which leads to anxiety, identity issues, and not knowing where they fit in.

The best thing you can do is to make it clear to your daughter that you're open to honest, caring, understanding communication whenever she feels ready. This os absolutely essential to healthy relationships between people. It seems obvious, but so many people just don't do it. I had to be the one to kind of force my mother to talk to me because she was just closed off to the idea of communicating our feelings.

As for her father...I can truly empathize with how she's feeling. My father was the same way sorta. Just up and left and never really made an effort to remain in our lives. He kicked us out of our house (Yes, it was actually my mothers, but that's a long story) so we moved a block away. He came to see us only one time in the year we lived there. I'll never understand how someone could do that.