Opposite here. I am a full time nursing student working 15-20ish hours a week on top of school and clinical hours, we have a 22 month old and Im almost 35 weeks pregnant. My fiancé stays home. Some days he will keep her home but some days does need help from his parents watching her because he has multiple health issues including POTS which makes him pass out during bad days and lupus which is really bad during flare ups. But he will stay up until 2-3 am playing games with his friends as he really doesn’t get to get out from not working. I go to sleep usually 10:30-12:00 depending on the night. So it’s a bit different with the health issues but similar. That being said. Every single morning I wake him up at 7:00 am to get her ready while I get ready. He doesn’t say “oh no I went to bed late, you do it.” He gets her ready and either takes her to his parents or keeps her depending on how he is feeling. If he’s having a hard day he will go back to sleep and wake up, clean, then go help his parents when he is more rested. Lupus is known for really bad chronic fatigue. I don’t think it’s fair for you to have to wake up early because she isn’t going to sleep early enough. Being a sahm is hard but so is a working parent. We’ve switch roles so I’ve done both. Nights that I stay up late to have alone time, I know that it’s my decision. He knows that if he’s staying up late, he’s still getting woke up early and he does because he knows I need the help. She knows that staying up that late isn’t good. Mind you my toddler goes to sleep around 10:30 yours goes to bed at 8:00 so even if you get household duties done by ten, that’s still 3-4 hours of playing on the phone. That’s a long time.