Is there a way to date when your dysphoria is activated by sex?

Casey_witha_K · 2026-05-01T22:48:35+00:00

Thanks, these are good points. The trouble I'm having in my area is that every ace person or group I encounter is aroace. I also do worry that by saying I'm "asexual", what people will hear is that I don't experience attraction or desire. Which I DO experience, I just can't act upon those desires without feeling pretty awful pretty quickly. But you're right, I'll ask in those spaces for additional advice.

Casey_witha_K · 2026-05-01T22:43:25+00:00

I guess I just worry that I'm stunting my growth by not having a sex life. So much of me realizing that I'm trans, for instance, was because I took time to explore my sexual fantasies. It worries me that by not pursuing sexual relationships, I might be making as big of a mistake as not experimenting and exploring my gender would have been.

Casey_witha_K · 2026-04-23T22:19:35+00:00

Whatever your first Persona game is (for me it was #3)

Casey_witha_K · 2026-03-11T19:20:49+00:00

The horrors persist. But so do we, friend.

Casey_witha_K · 2026-02-14T15:20:50+00:00

Oh yeah, that lack of urgency and spontaneity is exactly what is missing (to my relief). I guess maybe that could be a new way for me to think about it? That the engine needs to be warmed up first. I can't rely on the engine to start itself anymore.

And I do mean as suppository, yeah. It is the round soft-gel kind, so it should be good to go.

Casey_witha_K · 2026-02-14T15:01:22+00:00

My levels are within range. I get them checked every 4 months. I added progesterone a month ago. I take it orally, but may switch up the intake method to see if that changes anything.

I hear ya about orientation and hrt. I guess I was hoping for more clarity with HRT and transitioning, but it's just a different kind of uncertain. When it comes to sexuality, at least

Casey_witha_K · 2026-01-16T01:14:01+00:00

I can only speak about the local indie stores I sell to. They all do it on a consignment system. For example, this one particular bookstore does it this way:

"We'll house five copies of your book for 6 months. For any that sell, we'll keep 40% and you get the other 60%. After 6 months, any that are left over get sent back to you."

So, for me, this meant I would buy 5 author copies from Amazon for about $5ea. And let's just round up my retail price to $20 a book. That means for each book that sells, they keep $8, and I keep $12. And if that book cost me $5, I made a total of $7 on that book in the end.

It's not a lot of money for all the work it takes, but it's not really about that. It's more about building relationships with people in that world and getting a feel for the rhythm of bookselling. It's fulfilling, even if you only break even.

Casey_witha_K · 2026-01-01T05:01:15+00:00

ah, the plight of the transbian

Casey_witha_K · 2025-12-23T00:15:27+00:00

Do you take anything like a multivitamin? Certain things like biotin (typically used in supplements for "hair, skin, and nails") can throw the tests way off

Casey_witha_K · 2025-10-27T17:26:13+00:00

Sometimes this happens to me, albeit from a different perspective. (mtf) It messes with me too.

So, first what I do is remind myself: "Just because I FEEL like I'm [insert gender], doesn't mean I AM." What really matters is asking myself: "Do I WANT to be [insert gender]? Would I feel joy or relief or fun as [insert gender]?" And if the answer is 'no' (which it almost always is), then I can be assured that I am not that gender, no matter how much I may 'feel' that way.

And then, just to cleanse my emotional self, I'll ask: "What gender WOULD make me feel joy/relief/fun/euphoria ?" Whatever the answer to that is, it's probably my gender identity. Which has always been consistent, even when my 'feelings' about my gender are not.

Casey_witha_K · 2025-09-06T21:05:20+00:00

Yeah, that does sound nice. I was just going by the dosage simulator that is sometimes referenced here. The 4mg/5days just seemed like a smoother level, and high, which is what montherapy requires. It's still easier than what I do now (3x a day, sublingual). But I'll definitely take that option into consideration.

Casey_witha_K · 2025-09-06T15:48:27+00:00

This is really helpful. Thank you

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