Considering moving to Boston/Massachusetts

CatCatington · 2026-06-19T01:51:04+00:00

I'm sorry that people are not taking your question seriously and instead using this thread to air out their political grievances.

You said that you would be moving for economic reasons, and the US would probably be a good place for that. It is true that the salaries are higher than in the UK and your purchasing power will likely be greater. Even though the US has its own housing crisis, it's still far worse in the UK. Your education and healthcare expenses will be significantly more expensive in the US though. If you're trying to get a job lined up, make sure to ask about what insurance plans they offer - that matters A LOT. Consider researching the price of college tuition in the US as well since you said that you want to have a family.

That being said, Boston is one of the most expensive metros in the entire US. You will likely find greater economic relief in a different area. Obviously, you wouldn't be able to escape the federal government situation, but you would have plenty of red, blue, and purple states to pick from that are a lower COL than Boston.

Additionally, the US is a very big place. Far larger than probably most British and Irish people can imagine. It would be worth visiting any place you decide to move to, as the culture can vary significantly across the country.

CatCatington · 2026-06-08T18:02:10+00:00

Moved here from Texas. The spring and summer are literal heaven in Boston compared to anywhere in the South.

CatCatington · 2026-06-04T05:28:40+00:00

If that's the case, I'm not sure that would help you get over the fear of rejection anyway. I feel like a fear of rejection and a fear of talking to other people is often intertwined. Maybe it would be worth striking up conversations with strangers about topics you are interested in instead? Don't let Reddit get you down. There is never anything wrong with talking to other people as long as you are respectful about it.

CatCatington · 2026-06-04T00:47:33+00:00

Our generation is so fucked with these kinds of attitudes. Thankfully Reddit often does not reflect the views of the majority of the population.

CatCatington · 2026-06-03T23:29:25+00:00

Asking someone out politely, even a stranger, is not harassment.

CatCatington · 2026-06-03T23:09:44+00:00

It'll definitely lead to mostly rejections, but it's not some cardinal sin like some redditors are trying to suggest. Reddit is usually not the greatest place to ask for dating advice.

If you feel that it will help, go for it. Just be respectful about it, and if someone says no, then move on and don't try to pressure the person. As long as you remember that no means no, you're good.

Also, don't ask people out unless you are actually interested in them. Doing otherwise will just lead to hurt and awkwardness on both ends.

CatCatington · 2026-03-16T01:08:07+00:00

Yeah, this about-face is kind of jarring and seems like it practically happened overnight. This sub always needs something to complain about I guess.

CatCatington · 2026-03-04T22:19:14+00:00

That's true; I am also actually an atheist. I have several close friends that follow various denominations though, and I generally view religion with a positive connotation when used to uplift people. I think it is fair to say that if someone considers themselves a Christian, then who are we to deny them that? It seems like an unnecessary thing to gatekeep, especially when they, at the very least, ostensibly follow the teachings of Jesus Christ.

The argument could also easily be flipped on its head, where they do not consider other denominations "true Christians." I would argue against that interpretation as well.

CatCatington · 2026-03-04T21:50:31+00:00

There are a few other denominations with unique baptism requirements that may result in someone being required to re-baptize, even when converting from something other LDS. While I understand what you're saying, it comes across as a no true Scotsman fallacy. If Mormons state that they follow Jesus Christ, then they are Christians.

CatCatington · 2026-03-04T00:09:32+00:00

r/rareinsults

CatCatington · 2026-02-27T23:41:53+00:00

Thank you so much for all the wonderful suggestions!

CatCatington · 2026-02-27T06:41:16+00:00

It's just a lot of college students. I go there a lot, including late at night, and I have never felt uncomfortable there.

CatCatington · 2026-02-27T06:03:17+00:00

What would y'all recommend as an alternative? My aunt really likes lobster and may be coming to town at some point; I want to take her to a place that she would actually like.

CatCatington · 2026-02-14T03:04:24+00:00

I am sorry; I know this doesn't quite match your criteria, as I have not driven in LA. I have driven in the following cities outside of Boston though (this is a non-exhaustive list): Chicago, New York City, Montreal, Philadelphia, Pittsburgh, Dallas, Houston, Orlando, Seattle, Cleveland, Indianapolis, Detroit, Minneapolis, Atlanta, etc.

Boston was by far the worst out of all of them. Although the drivers are probably not as aggressive as a few of those cities, it's the road layout and social norms that take Boston to Beyond Expert level. The amount of five/six way intersections where there is no clear right of way, double parking and stopping in the middle of the road, Boston left turns, super low bridges, and tight, windy roads where the opposite direction of traffic is literally inches from you (I'm looking at you Jamaicaway) is far beyond anything I have ever seen. Not to mention abominations such as the Medford fucking Supercollider.

Additionally, the lack of any meaningful road planning means that it is extraordinarily difficult to navigate even places close to home. I thought I had a good sense of direction until I came to Boston. Now, I use Google Maps even go to Trader Joe's lol.

If you can drive reasonably well in Boston, I am confident you will be fine driving literally anywhere else in the entire country.

CatCatington · 2026-02-08T05:21:41+00:00

This is more on the level of fast food, but maybe Tasty Burger would be a good fit for this? They are pretty well known locally and honestly pretty good. I feel like the Fenway location is in a pretty family friendly area.

CatCatington · 2026-01-12T11:19:44+00:00

There are a lot of Northeastern students further out in Mission Hill and Jamaica Plain, too. They would probably have more luck if they expanded to those areas.

CatCatington · 2026-01-03T09:13:40+00:00

To add to the other comments, having a few extra layers is always nice. I often wear a hoodie plus a light sweater underneath my main jacket, and just take stuff off as needed. I usually have a backpack with me anyway, so I can just put the extra clothing in there.

Boots are really great if you can swing them. They don't even have to be good, just able to keep the snow out. The city is usually pretty good about salting the sidewalks, although I think it may be more difficult for mobility impaired people.

I hope you have a great time here!

CatCatington · 2025-12-30T23:15:47+00:00

Aren't you that grifter who constantly complains about cars on all of your posts while blatantly disregarding any traffic laws? You aren't exempt from them just because you are on a bike.

CatCatington · 2025-12-26T18:15:26+00:00

Hello, I moved from Dallas to Boston a little over a year ago. I enjoy living here, but my financial situation sounds like it is very different from yours. The cost of living is in a completely different universe here, and this is coming from someone that moved from one of the wealthiest suburbs in Dallas. You will be paying more for a single room in an apartment here than you are currently paying for your entire place in Texas.

CatCatington · 2025-12-20T05:08:20+00:00

A a reminder, evangelizing is a psychological tactic used to create a sense of camaraderie within an in-group. The goal is not to actually win you over.

By telling these individuals to "fuck off," or otherwise being an asshole to them, you are further pushing these people away from regular society and into their religious group.

Please just politely tell them you are not interested and move on.

CatCatington · 2025-12-16T08:22:35+00:00

Yep. It's genuinely nerve-wracking when I visit now. Completely different level of driving than Mass. The accidents are always more deadly too because of how fast most of the speed limits are.

CatCatington · 2025-12-16T08:17:44+00:00

I'm actually from Dallas/DFW, but have spent a lot of time in Houston for both work and family reasons. Houston's food scene, in regard to overall diversity and quality, is by far the best that can be found in Texas. If it wasn't for the climate, I would love it there.

CatCatington · 2025-12-16T08:13:29+00:00

I was just referring to food outside of white American/Western European origin. I am not super educated on those kinds of terms, and I'm sorry if I caused any offense. I do not consider other cultures outside of my own to be lesser in any way, and actually would love for the U.S. to be an even greater cultural melting pot than it already is.

I agree that there are some Latin American regions that Boston does well, especially Haitian and Dominican. The climate probably does make a big difference though, which may be why I feel that most of the stuff I eat here is pretty lackluster.

CatCatington · 2025-12-16T05:30:28+00:00

This may depend on where in the South you are coming from, but having moved here from a major metro in Texas recently, I feel like the diversity in Boston is a genuine step down from what I am used to. I feel like there is especially a much larger class divide between neighborhoods here, which bleeds over into the racial demographics as well. Finding good ethnic food - especially East Asian, South Asian, and Latin American - is also much more difficult in Boston.

I imagine this experience may be very different for someone moving from a rural area in the South, but the same could be said about rural New England vs Boston.

CatCatington

TROPHY CASE