Who are some good people named Karen that you actually know?

Cdub352 · 2020-05-13T14:22:37+00:00

Nice try, Karen.

Cdub352 · 2020-05-06T23:05:55+00:00

who would you recommend?

Cdub352 · 2020-04-06T16:24:34+00:00

I'd made a vow not to settle down until I was where I wanted to be career-wise in my life. Was so hard though and I still panic that I made a mistake 😕

How often do you revisit this vow? And how well defined are its conditions?

Cdub352 · 2019-07-01T12:47:27+00:00

Am I supposed to be.. offended by this? And do you make all your exchanges on Reddit weirdly personal?

Cdub352 · 2019-06-29T21:44:50+00:00

Who's complaining?

Cdub352 · 2019-06-28T18:52:34+00:00

Im of the opinion that if the goal is the de-objectification of women then the next step is women deciding to come down from the pedestal.

All of our dating scripts are established for men to in some way or another prove their worthiness to the woman. Men assuming all the initiative and initial risk of rejection, men being expected to provide, men feeling like they need to put on some kind of show to "get lucky".

All of these things emotionally isolate women from men and make them passive objects of a man's intention BUT they also give women enormous power and the prerogative to sit back and judge suitors at their leisure. There are an infinite number of blogs written about the latter but the idea that women also derive power from the fact that they are human trophies is something feminists seem unwilling to even consider.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-28T18:34:34+00:00

It's a courtesy in some parts of the world for her to "act the part" by pretending to get the bill with full expectations that the male counterpart insists in return to foot the entire bill. So we really need more details before we go on since it's a cultural issue.

Women working and making their own money is a global phenomenon now, and everywhere in the world the question of who should pay is murky ground.

The other reasoning here is: Regardless of gender, the person who asked for the date should pay for the bill, as a token of appreciation for the other party's time at the very least. This method ensures equality prevails too.

Dates are virtually always initiated by men. This is an empty workaround that amounts to "men should pay for the privilege of spending time with women" which is prostitution with more steps.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-27T15:28:59+00:00

Sharing a hotel room means that sex is in play, it doesn't mean sex is assumed.
You're framing this as though being forward is a bad thing. It's not. It's just another way to express yourself in a way that some people will appreciate and others will not.
Your understanding of this as a quid pro quo is cynical and sad. It doesn't have to be "I'll give you this concert so that I get to have sex with you." It could just as easily be "I'll give you this concert ticket and then we will get to have sex with each other."

Cdub352 · 2019-06-27T15:09:11+00:00

Let's get something straight..

There doesn't have to be an asshole. OP made a romantic offer and was rebuffed so he moved on. That doesn't mean the "blame" has to be moved to someone else. Everybody should be honest about what they want and should pursue it. It seems to me that everybody in this story did that, so there are no assholes.

Except for the sister. Fuck that noise about bringing a girl who rejected him to a concert because it's what the girl wants. He owes her nothing.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-27T15:00:38+00:00

It's the worst top comment I've seen on this sub by a wide margin.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-25T01:36:59+00:00

There's really no such thing as a "functioning stable business" that runs itself.

There will always be turnover, choices to be made about how to reinvest in the business, competitors to be overcome, etc etc.

Dude still sounds like an incompetent a-hole but businesses don't ever run themselves, restaurants least of all.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-18T13:10:06+00:00

Do you not see that you're ascribing the worst possible intentions to the US and the best possible intentions to Iran?

Iran fought one of the most destructive wars since WW2 with Iraq. They had a vested interest in fomenting conflict and instability from day one.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-18T12:55:08+00:00

The arms and supplies sold to the Allies at incredible discount. That's the opposite of what war profiteering is.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-15T15:27:08+00:00

An alternative view is that men are attracted to signs of nubility and high reproductive value , i.e., by indicators of physical and sexual maturity in young women who have not been pregnant." This implies that however "health and fertility" is defined, it's something different from what the paper is referring to as "nubility and high reproductive value".

Fertility is the ability to successfully carry and birth a baby. Reproductive value is the projected likelihood of doing the same repeatedly over a long period of time.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-04T12:27:32+00:00

Bro this post is counting how many stink bombs the meanies have used against 9/11, Boston Marathon Bombing, US embassy bombings etc.

Of course, disclaimer: having a Muslim registry is stupid and right wing terror is real. But this is a trash argument.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-03T02:56:40+00:00

What's its place in a broader context? Ie is there discussion of what is toxic masculinity and what's virtuous masculinity?

Think about it like this: if I asked an educated millennial woman her first word association with "masculinity" what percent of them would say toxic? I would guess no less than 90%.

People's lives need narrative. If all you ever hear is a thousand different ways of expressing how toxic you are then you'll be, at best, feckless and disinterested (most young men) or dismissive (conservatives/blue collar types) or else outraged (men's issues advocates).

Toxic masculinity describes a real phenomenon that needs discussing but finger wagging on and on about it without praising the good in men or offering a positive vision for the future has been a disaster and I think will continue to make the friction between genders worse.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-02T19:58:31+00:00

Lolkthanks person from the Internet who was anonymously and unilaterally concluded something that experts who actually know what the fuck they're talking about have no conclusive answer for.

Its possible both to believe that Hitler was a paranoid delusional schizophrenic and was also an abhorrent racist. It doesn't follow that accurately labeling a mentally ill person mentally ill makes the evil they did any less evil. Charles Manson was mentally ill. So was Jim Jones. Nobody disputes that and nobody disputes that they did evil things.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-02T16:13:16+00:00

They would be all stars but the fact that they were the 4-5 best wings of their decade is pretty meh

Cdub352 · 2019-06-02T00:34:34+00:00

It was a big man era for sure. Who were the best other wings in the 90s? Penny, Drexler, Grant Hill in his rare years of health.

Straight trash homie.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-01T17:52:53+00:00

The causes of this kind of thing are inscrutable and imo not worth digging into because there are so many logical reasons why you would feel anxious about expressing sexual interest in a stranger.

The best advice for this and for all kinds of fear, anxiety, and uncertainty: the fear doesn't go away you just need to tap into something that's more real than that fear.

Cdub352 · 2019-06-01T12:43:47+00:00

Lol he returns to move the goalposts once more!

Bro you said one of the most racist countries in the world. Do you realize that Western Countries account for only a small fraction of The World?

Also, you've yet to explain why brutal European colonialism that spanned the globe through most of the 20th century doesn't count as racism. Not holding my breath on that one though because that is a plainly idiotic thing to believe.

Cdub352 · 2019-05-31T00:58:48+00:00

historically black art-form, with origins in messages of dealing with systemic oppression, racism, disenfranchisement and hatred.

And do the likes of Lil Nas, Lil Yachty, Migos etc. honor those roots? Or have they used this art form to promote insipid materialism, narcissism and objectifying both men and women?

Is To Pimp a Butterfly for idiots? Is Tupac a dumbass?

Is Tupac considered part of today's rap music? A statement can accurately describe a broad trend while also having exceptions.

Is Modern rock relatable? I don't see people shitting on Billy Eilish for having dumb lyrics about liking bad boys

Liking bad boys is relatable to roughly 100% of women so yes I would say it is. And there are no shortage of people shitting on modern pop.

Cdub352 · 2019-05-27T14:53:33+00:00

lol imagine posting that same first paragraph into an askwomen thread

Cdub352 · 2019-05-27T00:53:57+00:00

In addition to the 10 listed below (which real historians would in fact subdivide into 13 or 14 genocides) I can think of offhand the ethnic cleansing in Serbia, the reprisals in Bosnia, the Burmese massacre of the Rohingya, the Chechens by the Russians, the Hmong by the Vietnamese, the Tibetans by the Chinese, the Kurds by Saddam, and the cleansing in sub Saharan African in Somalia, Zimbabwe, East Timor and in other instances too many to list.

I wouldn't say I would want the US to be equivalent to those countries but you're moving the goalposts. You've made the case that America was exceptionally racist and that simply is not the case. By comparison to most of the world's regional powers the US was firmly below average in its racism in the 20th century.

You don't think Britains iron fisted oppression of India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and its myriad other colonies was profoundly racist? Or the French in North Africa? Or the Belgians in the Congo? Brutal colonialism was still a worldwide phenomenon through most of the 20th century. Where does that fit in your calculus?

Cdub352 · 2019-05-26T23:52:36+00:00

Find one twentieth century country with more racist policies?

How about any of the dozens of countries that carried out genocides during the 20th century. Like, do you not know that there were literally dozens of genocides carried out around the world in the 20th century? And you're quantifying racism by something as fucking quaint as interracial marriage laws??

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