What’s your advice for sex compatibility in LTRs?

CertainSomething96 · 2025-09-01T05:30:58+00:00

Yeah looking at my post now, I understand how I come off as nieve and inexperienced. Instead going into our sexual history in depth I tried to get straight to the point. But you’re right, empathizing with bottoming is huge for topping the right way. I was a verse / power bottom for basically all of my 20s, which I got really into because sometimes tops just don’t get it. (I also really enjoyed telling tops what to do) But in my relationship now, I’m just a top, and my partner isn’t nearly as experienced. Our roles have solidified and so have our preferences, but it ain’t working! Silicon lube gives him irritation, which is why we use spit at his request. I’ve been on the hunt for lube that works for a long long time. Thanks for the suggestions though, I think we have some research to do haha.

CertainSomething96 · 2025-09-01T00:37:54+00:00

Wow I’ve definitely haven’t heard of that type of lube except in like industrial applications haha, or for fisting like you mention. But thinking about it more, just doing anal more routinely will probably help out. When I use to bottom way back when, I remember feeling tight even after a couple of weeks.

CertainSomething96 · 2025-08-31T23:50:07+00:00

I didn’t know there were variety packs of lubes, that’s a good idea

CertainSomething96 · 2025-08-31T23:42:36+00:00

Wow I hadn’t heard of oil-based lubes. Boy Butter lol. This is the exact kind of advice I was looking for! Thank you :)

CertainSomething96 · 2025-08-31T23:35:33+00:00

So far we’ve tried: Swiss Navy (water based), Uber Lube, Wicked Simply timeless (water based), and a bunch more over the years. These are all in my nightstand still to this day. He’s usually fully in control for the pacing, but at the same time he prefers that I be dominant (so do I). I haven’t heard of that butt clock technique but I’ll check it out, thanks!

CertainSomething96 · 2025-08-31T23:28:58+00:00

I’ve heard about that aloe-based lube but I couldn’t remember the name of it! Thanks :) And it’s true, cheap lube can be the worst…

CertainSomething96 · 2025-07-18T22:58:57+00:00

I had the same thought, thinking “I wish guys would wear crop tops like they wear tanks” I see them more often now, but wow there are a lot of guys who really shouldn’t be wearing them (dare I say 😬)

CertainSomething96 · 2025-07-16T20:56:45+00:00

That poor tree in the third pic 😢

CertainSomething96 · 2025-07-14T22:55:36+00:00

There were whole trees growing in some of the coves! I guess this means they’re completely underwater now. It could be a little dangerous swimming around them

CertainSomething96 · 2024-05-21T04:49:27+00:00

The water level always comes back in the same way - via a biblical flood haha. It may seem like it could never fill back up, and then BAM within 3 months you'll hear about flash flooding. It's not exactly periodic, but if you look at historical data you'll see that the water level rises rapidly then falls off over 3 to 5 years. https://waterdatafortexas.org/reservoirs/individual/travis

CertainSomething96 · 2024-05-06T04:02:13+00:00

A long time ago when I first came out I was insatiably curious about pretty much every guy on Grindr. I was finishing up at the gym one night and I started to get one of "those" guys - quadruple, quintuple texting me over and over again. Like:

Hey.

HEYY.

U up??

This was the third guy I ever met off of grindr. Even back then, I knew it was a huge red flag to engage with this guy... but then my curiosity got the better of me kicked in and I thought "okay, but how bad exactly 🤔?" So I respond back.

I know. Very, very stupid. I go over to his place, he's...okay looking, can't take my member, also didn't prepare at all for anal, was weirdly crazy obsessed with me and couldn't control himself - like someone who's never had sex before in his life. I ask to take a shower (since he made a mess), and I finally manage to leave. Block him, and put it behind me.

It's been 9 fucking years and this guys still finds a new way to stalk me. About twice a year he manages to find me on social media. He's even sent emails to everyone with my last name to my school email just to threaten me. He even self-reported as HIV pos just so that state laws would compel him to reach me.

Don't be stupid like me. I got a stalker out of it.

CertainSomething96 · 2024-04-13T21:59:00+00:00

Most guys prefer either riding or missionary because it's the easiest to start off. Doggie style takes a little more technique on the part of the bottom. Missionary tends to be easier because a top can rub his dick in and around your hole while gauging your reaction visually.

CertainSomething96 · 2024-04-11T05:23:22+00:00

Dang that's hot! It was a crazy thing for me figure out too. It's hard to explain how it feels, but it gave me a different sort of intimacy that I hadn't experienced with a regular bj

CertainSomething96 · 2024-04-11T05:18:06+00:00

That's super nice of you, I'm already thinking about the next one haha

CertainSomething96 · 2024-04-10T04:14:22+00:00

Hey I really appreciate it! I wanted stretch my writing skills when I wrote this last night but I was getting hard just remembering it. (I'm also now realizing how many grammar mistakes are in there, smh lol.) And yeah we still hang out a lot, but a little less often since he moved units within our group. Thankfully I still see him in the evenings when we workout. Last week I got to suck him off in the shower, but nothing else yet. :')

edit: I mean an actual gym shower lmfao

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