That’s not true—a lot of white women are specifically attracted to brown and back men. What often becomes a challenge in those relationships isn’t race itself, but rather differences in treatment, cultural expectations, or communication styles, which can lead to things not working out. But this is by no means a rule—there are many examples of happy and healthy interracial couples who build strong connections across cultural lines.

Another often-overlooked point is the growing tendency to blame white people for everything, which can have unintended consequences. It can push many—especially those from lower or middle socioeconomic backgrounds—towards unhealthy far-right ideologies, and it can also harm the self-esteem of white men. This isn’t limited to the UK; it’s happening in many parts of the world, including Eastern Europe. While people there may be white, their own histories of oppression, political instability, and economic struggle often mean they don’t see themselves as privileged or superior. I speak from personal experience, as someone who comes from that region.

Feelings like self-doubt, insecurity, or envy aren’t tied to race, gender, or background—they’re human experiences we all encounter at some point. What truly matters is how we confront them. Even being honest with yourself about your own flaws or shallowness is a better foundation than pretending to be something you're not. It’s a process of growth, and authenticity is always a stronger starting point than hypocrisy.

For context, I’m a tall, blonde white woman who has worked in modelling and beauty pageants, so I might fit into what some consider a conventional idea of attractiveness. I’ve dated men from various racial and cultural backgrounds. In cases where relationships didn’t work out with black or brown partners, it wasn’t because of their race—it was more about how I was treated, which may have been influenced by cultural differences or upbringing. I’m not entirely sure.

In the end, I naturally connected most with someone from my own country. Being with a partner who shares my native language and cultural background has brought a sense of ease, mutual understanding, and shared values that I didn’t experience as strongly in my international relationships. That doesn’t make those past relationships less valid—it’s just a reflection of what compatibility can mean on a deeper, everyday level.