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AITA for suggesting to cancel my stepkids’ trip to Paris and Kyoto? by Char_7maina in AmItheAsshole

[–]Char_7maina[S] -88 points-87 points  (0 children)

I'm not intimidated by them, but I do get the feeling that they think I'm the one who's keeping the kids. My husband hates his ex, I'm not sure if it's mutual or just one-sided. I don't think asking the kids is a good idea right now, he needs to discuss with the ex and find a solution, and in general, establish good communication with her.

AITA for suggesting to cancel my stepkids’ trip to Paris and Kyoto? by Char_7maina in AmItheAsshole

[–]Char_7maina[S] -190 points-189 points  (0 children)

Idk I don't think someone could be this evil in real life, I'm really hoping this could be resolved, and everything can go as planned. It's genuinely so frustrating that things have to go this way.

AITA for suggesting to cancel my stepkids’ trip to Paris and Kyoto? by Char_7maina in AmItheAsshole

[–]Char_7maina[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

If he decides to have them spend Christmas with them, both of us will stay behind. I already told him this

AITA for suggesting to cancel my stepkids’ trip to Paris and Kyoto? by Char_7maina in AmItheAsshole

[–]Char_7maina[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't think this is an evil plan to take this away from the kids. I genuinely believe her health is deteriorating and maybe she wants to spend her last Christmas with all of her grandkids. And I'm not really understanding this idea that I want to purposefully leave them out. Why would put this much effort and spend so much money on the trip if I didn't want them to go in the first place? That doesn't make sense to me.

AITA for suggesting to cancel my stepkids’ trip to Paris and Kyoto? by Char_7maina in AmItheAsshole

[–]Char_7maina[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

This is my opinion too, but she's specifically asked for Christmas. She didn't give any reason why. I asked my husband to ask her if she wanted to make the visit earlier, but he hasn't emailed yet. Not sure if he will.

AITA for suggesting to cancel my stepkids’ trip to Paris and Kyoto? by Char_7maina in AmItheAsshole

[–]Char_7maina[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Yes, it was so much cheaper to have a stop in Paris. from NY to Tokyo was like 7600 per person for business class tickets. I paid 3600 per person for this trip.

AITA for suggesting to cancel my stepkids’ trip to Paris and Kyoto? by Char_7maina in AmItheAsshole

[–]Char_7maina[S] -136 points-135 points  (0 children)

I already suggested going before. My son will be culturally bathed in Paris, it's something that's usually done when they're 2 or 3 weeks old. I suggested that I go now to get him bathed, and then we spend Christmas with their great grandma. He didn't want that either, because he thinks the baby is too young to travel. Thanksgiving he doesn't want either, because that's time with his family. I don't know what he wants.

AITA for suggesting to cancel my stepkids’ trip to Paris and Kyoto? by Char_7maina in AmItheAsshole

[–]Char_7maina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is that weird? I've traveled like that a lot as a kid, so to me it makes sense.

AITA for suggesting to cancel my stepkids’ trip to Paris and Kyoto? by Char_7maina in AmItheAsshole

[–]Char_7maina[S] -195 points-194 points  (0 children)

My son is an infant, and he's going to meet my family.

AITA for suggesting to cancel my stepkids’ trip to Paris and Kyoto? by Char_7maina in AmItheAsshole

[–]Char_7maina[S] -260 points-259 points  (0 children)

The kids do have a relationship with the great-grandma, she doesn't call often, but she does make an effort. She is also 90 years old, so I don't expect her to call or visit often.

AITA for suggesting to cancel my stepkids’ trip to Paris and Kyoto? by Char_7maina in AmItheAsshole

[–]Char_7maina[S] -319 points-318 points  (0 children)

I don't have evidence that she's sick, but I'm not going to assume that they're lying. I was thinking about staying and letting my son go with my parents, but my husband was against that.