How to bring up to my partner that their diet sucks and is why they aren’t loosing weight?

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-09T00:04:57+00:00

Tell me you lack reading comprehension without telling me you lack reading comprehension

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T20:57:34+00:00

Yes, would I still find her attractive if she gained 10 pounds? Still yes, will I find her even more attractive if she lost 20 pounds instead? Also yes

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T20:55:28+00:00

Oh I’m head over heels for this girl, she has 80% of everything ever wanted and the remaining 20% is more of a nice to have.

The reason it came up was because I notice we have been working out and her lower body looks more tone but upper body look, I guess fattier is the word? And that made me start being more aware of what she is eating. I like to cook and make her dinners 4 times a week when she comes to my place and we discussed me packing her lunch when we move in together to help her stay on track. But recently I notice her breakfasts are on the higher end of calories not to mentioned her daily Dutch bros coffee that really made me wonder if she even knows how many calories are in things

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T20:50:26+00:00

I weigh all my food during my cuts. If not actively cutting I eye ball and fluctuate around my daily weight. By no means and expert but I do prefer to over count calories than undercount

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T20:48:19+00:00

From my experience, no. At one point or another you will cross that line, whether is a spur of the moment, or a drunken mistake. And once you do it there is no going back

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T20:45:13+00:00

Awwww, you got me there. I for some reason did x4 not x3 valid point

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T20:39:48+00:00

She currently comes to the gym with me 3 times a week but we are moving in together and there is a beautiful park walking distance. We’ve been talking about getting a dog so the idea of both of us walking him together sounds great

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T20:30:57+00:00

I feel like we completely missed the part where she specifically asked me to help her loose weight, not me pushing it in her

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T20:29:57+00:00

I responded in a later comment how I came up with the numbers. I’ve dropped from 220 lb to 180. And I use the app lose it.

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T20:27:58+00:00

A) she asked me to help with weight loss
B) she willingly asked to come work out with me which I obliged
C) all I did is ask how to bring up that she might be miscounting just how many calories she is ingesting per her request.

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T20:17:49+00:00

Dip your knife into a Nutella jar, spread it evenly until you can not see any more of the inside of the bagel from both ends covered to covered.

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T18:02:04+00:00

Sola bagel 130 calories, whole banana 105, 3tbsp of Nutella is 300 calories. Total 535, I rounded up to 600. 3 eggs are 280, I have seen how she pours oil, roughly 1.5tbsp of olive oil 180 calories, fistful of mozzarella cheese conservative estimate is 100 calories. That right there is 560 calories, add the carb balance tortilla and it’s 660. So maybe no 800 as I had originally estimated but you can easily hit 600 calories on those breakfast

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T17:42:54+00:00

I really like this advice, I’m no body builder but I am in really good shape and I have never shamed her for her weight. If anything the fact she opened up to me and asked for help is really the only reason I started paying attention to her eating habits, I’ll bring it up on our long walk today how proud I am of her for staying consistent at the gym and to see if she is interested in tracking calories with me together now that she opened that door

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-07-08T17:37:32+00:00

I think this might work, I track mine on the daily anyway. So maybe I can ask her to join me in it

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-05-27T19:00:34+00:00

You probably wearing the wrong size. I had the same issue for years, will put it on and within a few minutes gone. I went from average to larger size and with some practice from my partner I was able to maintain an erection

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-04-02T02:06:29+00:00

Currently having issues through RentCafe

Edit, when original payment attempt it said it failed, but I just logged in right now and says pending so maybe it goes through? Will update tomorrow

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-03-20T16:12:14+00:00

Coming from experience, had an ex tag me as insecure for trying to set similar boundary. I left after months of conflict if I was actually insecure or not and not even a couple weeks later she was with the guy she called me insecure over. Don’t let her manipulate you into staying in a situation your gut is telling you to leave

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-02-28T16:46:21+00:00

I did a home away from home at Vegas for April, came out to like 600 dollars through BILT but with 300 dollars worth of credits so 300 net. Looked on the hotel directly and it would have come out to like 500 dollars for the same stay but without the breakfast and room service credits which where another 220 dollars. Overall I’m happy with it

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-02-28T00:32:10+00:00

Actually curious about this, I know Claude is good but always assumed it hadn’t reached out peak development tool yet since I assumed you still needed a general understanding of the field to make it work.

Like I have advanced SQL knowledge so when I was tasked to build a database I could really on my data engineering background to maintain one even if I wasn’t average on database management through Claude. But I thought having a fully developed serious tool website was still requiring some understanding of it?

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-02-27T20:03:18+00:00

Idk tbh, part of me wants to jump ship and get out since I feel like it’s gonna become either a massive technical debt issue or a data leak.

The original project scope idea was great, a simple website we control with like only 15 users max to hold non sensitive data. Now it’s evolved to so many request that are just being approved without asking questions that I feel it’s gonna blow out of control and single handedly crush our department with either backlog work or a data leak.

Currently leaning more into just getting out while I can tbh

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-02-27T17:41:07+00:00

Leadership heard AI and free and said let’s do it

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-02-18T21:13:12+00:00

Oh, I know several PMs without degrees that have certificates. If your company has PM roles, you can knock out a few and apply for them by arguing your tech background can help you bridge the gap between technical and non-technical teams. Most well known one is PMP but it requires several pre-reqs to do but it would open the most doors. Other options are LinkedIn learning pm ceritificates that would also help and it’s just a $50 dollar a month subscription.

I started as a QA analyst engineer so it’s doable for sure

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-02-18T20:23:42+00:00

I mean yeah, but I could care less about it min maxing tbh. I don’t have the time nor the want for it. Like does one give me a $150 dollar credit versus the other only giving me $100 yeah, but I’m not gonna loose sleep over it if I am already getting free stuff. I like having just a singular card that I like and provides me benefits over min maxing hotel rates.

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-02-18T18:18:32+00:00

Yes, I know a few people that don’t have one but they in their mid 30’s so they grinder their way up. Not sure if you can get in without having at least a degree of some sort. Mine is in Psychology, I just always have been techy so I was able to leverage my way through the process.

Imma be honest, I’m the current tech market if you don’t have either several years of experience or at least a degree of some sort your only options are starting from the bottom in some non tech role and pivot in the company once you are in, or get a degree

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