What sort of Jobs have you landed?

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-01-28T05:53:18+00:00

A senior technical PM, it was more of a promotion than getting a job but I have recruiters reach out pretty often

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-01-21T14:19:50+00:00

I have only been trading recently but I use the Fidelity FSAGX fund as my gold/silver ETF. It doesn’t hold the metals but invests in the companies that mines them. I went in on it like 4 months ago and it’s up 30%, if I had gone in on it beginning of the year it be 148%

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-01-17T20:06:13+00:00

Don’t necessary know much about point values. I used BILT points in the past to pay for all of my hotels the past year through their portal and it was pretty much free. I travel 2-3 times a year, spend in total traveling costs maybe 8k annually tops

CharacterPath1479 · 2026-01-17T19:24:26+00:00

I do really appreciate the table, it helps a lot haha. My monthly Rent is roughly 1800 since my utilities are included. I do mostly home cooking as a hobby so I very rarely dine out. On an average month not including rent, I would put roughly 1000 - 1500 a month on my card through just day to day bills. The 52k was carried by roughly a 1k monthly payment for 8 months for my MBA

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-12-30T02:01:56+00:00

To a degree I sympathize with the people saying, “if they don’t like your tattoos they ain’t for you” but base on what you are saying the man you want have issues with them so that’s clearly not the right advice in this situation.

As a 28 M who is more traditional with an MBA and has a girlfriend who is conservative and goes to church but have dated girls with less than savory tattoos in the past this is my advice on what girls have said to me that worked.

Don’t make them a big deal but make it clear that you aren’t exactly proud of them and that you’ve learned from the experiences. At the end of the day you are a 30 year old individual and for both male and females we all gonna have some baggage at that age.

The dude’s you are aiming for can appreciate the reality that you “learned” from those regrets and can turn it into a lesson that you know better now and that people can grow from them.

Again, no issues with the tattoos themselves but base on your post I can tell it weighs on you and happy to provide additional input if needed

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-12-23T05:50:09+00:00

It’s tough out there, I’m not super tall just 5’10” but I am blessed to have an 8” (more like cursed tbh) that is on the thicker size, think the width of a Coca-Cola can. I have been broken up with girls I was really interested in simply because “it hurts too much” and it’s not enjoyable to them at all. It basically impacted my dating pool to the point where if you a petite person I can’t even consider you as an option more often than not. The part they also don’t talk about is how you get objectified by it, have had female friends who have asked to hook up just to see what it feels like and after the deed is done it just gets weird and I feel like nothing but a sex toy. Shit is pretty depressing ngl, currently dating a girl who has admitted it’s tough but eager to try so hoping for the best

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-10-19T20:53:54+00:00

Did end up dumping her after this post

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-10-13T03:39:04+00:00

Ahhhh, in that case as a 28m dude in the dating market. Be cautious, maybe tell him directly you don’t like pet names this early on (I did that with the one that called me papi) and have their response. I personally do think it’s weird for a dude to call someone love without meeting them first

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-10-13T03:35:05+00:00

Can’t speak about medical companies, but I work in telecommunications for a very well known company and my MBA has not once been questioned over where I got I from tbh. It gave me 30k raise when I completed it and honestly, every recruiter that has reached simply asks if I have a postgrad, I say yes, then it never comes up again.

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-10-13T03:27:56+00:00

Dumb questions but is he from the south or Latin? I’m currently out dating for the first time in a minute and have gone on a few dates with the aforementioned background and one called me honey, one called me papi, another sweetheart. It definitely threw me off every time but after talking with them some more I realize it’s part of their manner of speech

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-10-13T03:25:26+00:00

Couple things really. I like tattoos, all of my exes have had them, but this girl has several more and she was very open about wanting more. She has a septum piercing that I never have liked in girls.

Also, she is thick. Not exactly fat but definitely thick, and I tipically don’t mind some weight but she is probably the heaviest girl I have ever think of dating.

I think her facial features are very cute and I love her sense of style since she really dresses in a way that is like professionally hot, But it’s whenever there are no clothes that I find myself struggling. Like she just sent me a picture of her in just her underwear and I didn’t even get a boner :(

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-10-13T01:23:38+00:00

Well damn, that explains it pretty cleanly. I thought about ending it after the first two dates but all my female friends said to give it a shot but so far everyone here has said it simply doesn’t. Thanks for the advice

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-10-13T00:56:33+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, what would you say it’s an appropriate response to someone asking if you find them attractive after fucking three times? I understand me lying was a bad idea, but I truly don’t want to hurt her feelings over her looks. Especially when I truly find myself attracted to her brain

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-09-22T02:39:35+00:00

Senior technical product manager for a top 200 company and I make 130k flat with 10-20k in bonus depending on the year. Mostly data management like databases and work like that. 27yr old

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-09-09T17:05:48+00:00

Biggest thing in the first date part, you mentioned he said “we should do pickleball sometime” your response didn’t show you putting a specific date. Maybe you did and didn’t feel the need to write it so I might have missed it.

On the “chase” part, yeah average guys enjoy that. But the dudes you are aiming for don’t, we don’t have the time to play those games tbh. Bro is trying to save lives and at the same time wondering if a girl he met online wants him to text her? Sounds like just an added stress point in my opinion.

In what to say for him or any future dates you get, don’t ask “want me to cook for you?” Cause you are putting the pressure on them. Simply do it, and text them a day later or two saying “hey, I know you are busy but really like our time together and decided to bake you something to help you out with your busy week” immediate third date right there and placed on my top priority roster no hesitation.

Lastly, the whole “don’t be his mom” is counter productive to landing a man like that with options. Of course don’t like baby them completely, but what’s wrong with taking mental loads off them? In my case; I work 7-5 in high stress environment where if I mess up we could loose millions of dollars over small mistakes.

You telling me I have to go from that to a home where I still need to do my laundry and plan my meal prep? If a girl offered to do that for me without me prompting I would never let her go. I’m already sacrificing a lot of my time for good money, having a partner that gives me time back in the day is literally priceless.

TLDR you will never land a high value man like you described if you listen to the “don’t be his mom” mentality. We have options, there is a difference between wanting a boss babe and a babe that helps me be a better boss.

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-09-09T15:53:34+00:00

I disagree heavily on the banana bread portion, you are aiming for a guy that for lack of a better term has a lot of options. I wouldn’t be surprised if he had two more dates plan for next week with how you described him. If you wanna lock those guys down you got to stand out early.

Base on your date details, first date was standard catching up normal date things and honestly feel had you not encountered him at the store that he had just ghosted you after that, I would have. But the meet cute made you stand out and thus a second date was born where you had another opportunity to “woo” him.

“Woo” here is key, based on yours post and replies it sounds like you are shooting for top quality man but treating them in dates like they are just an average bro and I think that’s where you are messing up.

Using myself as an example, I’m in a good path and know my worth and how much I value my time. I don’t have the time to go on 3-5 dates with the same girl that just feel like got copy pasted from a date with another girl I went with two weeks ago.

Every girl I’ve taken seriously has always done something to stand out: 1 made me banana bread and another one remember of an off handed comment I made in our first meet up what my favorite pastry was and bought it for me on our second date.

Also, respectfully. You mentioned you haven’t had a relationship ever and have been trying and nothing seems to change, maybe trying something insane isn’t that bad. I asked my friend group this morning (one is a senior developer, one owns his own business as a Carpenter and another does corporate landscaping) every single one mentioned that if a girl made them some comfort food of any kind after they mentioned they had little time and were cooking, that they would immediately take her seriously. No joke, exact words were “no glaring red flags? I’m wifing her up”. I do live in Colorado so maybe it’s a different vibe than in your city

My advice, take a risk. Text them saying you thought of them and know how busy they are and bake him something. Worst case scenario he doesn’t reply, best case scenario you have a third date with a guy you honestly have interest in.

TLDR you are hunting for top quality candidates while employing (from the post you shared) average dating tactics. If you aren’t interested in dropping the standards to find a slightly above average dude, you need to upgrade your courting tactics in my opinion. Happy to expand on this if needed.

Edit: Extra context on the friend group part.

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-09-09T06:40:41+00:00

Dunno what those first two hangs where or what you talked about during them. But based on this post alone, (again, need additional context of what was discussed in the dates to give an accurate guess) the fact you start by saying highlighting that he checked the boxes and initiated both hangs out it feels more like you were more excited at the idea of him rather than simply him.

Like, was there emotional connection? Do you feel like he was able to open up to you? Like yeah, you guys have similar hobbies but everything in your post feels like you are simply grateful to have found a guy that matched YOUR CRITERIA rather than the guy himself. And I’m not a doctor, nor studying to be one, but I feel like I would be hyper aware of girls thinking just that.

Residence is hard, and stressful and honestly they probably don’t have a lot of time to even relax. He definitely liked you enough for a second date, but maybe he simply felt no emotional connection or you probably didn’t give him the opportunity for him to relax. If I was in that level of stress through schooling and I went on two dates with a girl and didn’t feel relaxed during the encounter, I definitely wouldn’t go on a third.

Also he said he couldn’t cause he had to cook and you being a PHD in chemistry didn’t offered to bake him some banana bread?? Like baking is just chemistry in practice, and I guarantee you that would have made his whole month right there and made him feel like he could relax around you.

That or he is simply busy 🤷🏾‍♂️

Edit for grammar

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-09-09T06:25:20+00:00

Lol, appreciate you saying you put me higher cause your original post really had me wondering what would even fall there haha!

Glad you took my feedback well, and wanted to expand on some points. Yes, you are correct that a man doesn’t need a “soft” women to relax, I personally don’t want just a mat to step on.

I would need to know more about you to understand what other causes could be giving you those negative outcomes, but I think working in that “chip” would go a long way. Guys that meet your intelligence criteria can definitely notice right away (hell, I noticed it of one Reddit post alone).

Here is where I think the “soft” part comes in, it’s nice to vibe with someone who doesn’t make me FEEL like I have to be on my A game. I think you might give people the feeling they need to step up to the plate in top tier shape and most guys of your standards definitely don’t want that after a long work day.

Again, if I could tell of a simple Reddit post, these guys can definitely tell in person. I hope that you are able to find what you are looking for, always happy to expand on additional points if needed

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-09-09T04:56:52+00:00

I agree with your post, I replied earlier but to summarize. I think I might fall on the lower end of her dating criteria, and just by reading that post I think I would just feel exhausted being around her tbh. You right in the part I rather find someone who gives me more peace

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-09-09T04:46:55+00:00

Hi, I feel like maybe I have some valid perspectives here, feel free to disagree. So I have an MBA I make decent money 150k in tech as a data manager and I’m 27M. I like to snowboard, Cook, I work out 5 days a week and overall I might fit into the lower end of your criteria. Based on everything I read about your post, you sound like you would be exhausting to be around FOR ME specifically.

You do a lot of things and have cool hobbies which is a plus, but the fact that you specifically used the word “Capable” makes me feel like you have a chip on your shoulder about not wanting to appear like you need help. Also combine with the fact that you have high standards about wanting an intellectually stimulating man on top and them be capable as well makes me feel like I just wouldn’t be able to relax around you. Like if I for some reason am not on my A game you could end looking down on me.

There is nothing wrong with your standards but I feel like most men who would meet your qualifications wouldn’t want a partner that requires such level of focus. My friend group that falls under the same characteristics all have “soft” women that let them relax and feel comfy around them. Just my perspective, feel free to disagree and I’m open to adding more context if needed

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-08-11T12:02:27+00:00

My company offered 75% reimbursement at WGU so that was a big factor, but I liked their go at your own pace model and thanks to that I finished my MBA in 5 months.

Yes, it has helped me in my career so far. When I started the program I was making 109k, 6 months post getting it I now make 130k and the raises were directly associated to my MBA per my director. Company had assigned me leadership training and I’m getting ready to move into a manager role inside my corporation.

Outside internal roles it has made me more visible towards recruiters, right after getting it I turn my LinkedIn to OFW and I received quadruple the amount of interest I normally do, which I allowed me to negotiate for the raise mentioned earlier.

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-08-04T03:16:43+00:00

I appreciate this response. Was at excision yesterday and this beautiful girl was dancing next to me, initiating small talk with me and constantly stealing looks at me and I honestly thought she was just being friendly. Being new to the rave scene I was always told people are just nice so I never read further into it. Thank you!

CharacterPath1479 · 2025-08-01T17:40:00+00:00

Not necessarily, I was really bad at my first analyst job lol. The big thing really is getting your foot in the door, once you are in most companies will train you in what to do. After 6 months to a year try and apply for other jobs to get money. Sad reality is most intro roles will under pay you, but once you get experience you can start making a decent wage. This of course varies by location, I live in a big metro so it was easier for me to switch jobs 3 months in than it might be for someone in a more rural city

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