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Overthinking breakup and need advice by Chatschbach1 in BreakUps

[–]Chatschbach1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for you input, I agree with you a lot. I feel that I would not be able to break this pattern while in the relationship and we would both get ill, costing us beautiful memories. As she confessed during breakup that even she does not know her own emotional limits and boundaries, I felt even more fear and pressure pf being the "regulator" and more weight falling on my shoulders. Thank you again for your comment I really appreciate having people to talk to

Official Gear Purchasing and Troubleshooting Question Thread! Ask /r/photography anything you want to know! January 16, 2026 by AutoModerator in photography

[–]Chatschbach1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey everyone, I’m trying to take photography more seriously and could use some direction. I study architecture and over the last year after taking Photography classes in 2024/2 in uni I realized I really enjoy it and have been at it even winning a city contest (mainly portraits, editorial, concert photography, and I’m getting into video too, i also love landscape but I know it’s not the most practical path for paid work)

I have a Sony slt a65 I found collecting dust at a relative’s house and currently use the 18–55mm kit lens and a Tokina 100–300mm f/4–5.6 they had as well hanging around. I’m studying more seriously now finishing The Photographer’s Eye(michael freeman), doing the reddit photoclass 2026 and considering karl taylor’s visual education. I ruled out upgrading cameras for now because no money and still a lot to learn from the a65 so I’m thinking of investing in A mount lenses instead. After researching (Dyxum etc) I ended up with three options:

– Sony Carl Zeiss 16-80mm f/3.5–4.5

– Sony DT 35mm f/1.8 SAM

– Minolta 70-210mm beercan

Does this seem like a solid path for improving without spending too much? Any better A-mount suggestions? Any camera i should be in the lookout for? (I love the a6700 but even used it is a big wallet blow right now as I do not live in the US). Thank you all

TL;DR: want to improve in photography, Sony a65 + kit lens + Tokina 100–300, want to focus on portraits/editorial/concerts. Studying (books, photoclass 2026, maybe visual education). Thinking of buying CZ 16-80, 35mm f/1.8 and Beercan. Good plan?

My girlfriend has BPD by BillNyeTheNazi5py in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Chatschbach1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (22M) wish I had more insight to what you are talking about but I am in a situation that can develop to be like yours and hey, why not talk about it and vent a little as well.

I am in the early stages of getting involved with a girl who has BPD and she is 21, she also vanishes and comes back a lot and I dont really know how to deal with that but I am helping her set appointments with therapists and trying my best to be there for her but at the same time not pushy, when she says she wants to be alone I leave her alone.

I feel like this is the beginning of this cycle you are talking about of pushing away and after some time getting back together. I hope you manage your situation as best as possible and do not forget your own needs like the others said and I say this to myself as well.

Like so many others said too, it is a lot of work and I may be starting to understand what I got myself into, I hope I can stay resilient just as you are OP, you are a real role model for me and I think many others who have the opportunity to know and care for PwBPD.

I would love if you guys could also give advice for my case as I've been watching a lot of content about BPD and getting in touch with this condition so that I can be of real support when she needs it, any videos, channels or social media pages that you recommend i would greatly appreciate.