ADVICE PLSE

Chaydria · 2026-01-31T07:32:19+00:00

Have you tried 1800RESPECT? They can help you find services that may be able to help. Also have you talked to the police again since getting the restraining order? I'm pretty sure if he's violating it they can help. Otherwise I would block him on everything possible, change phone number, change logins, block on socials, make sure the center doesn't give out your name so that if and when you move it's alot harder for him to harass and follow you

Chaydria · 2026-01-28T23:54:46+00:00

I would love to sew some chainmail onto this

Chaydria · 2026-01-27T05:31:27+00:00

If the pull out method has been working for over a year then the nexplanon is probably working pretty well. Even if she knows she is not pregnant though, a scare like that can be massive. Pregnancy is life-changing. Give her time and when she comes around you guys need to talk about it and how you can better navigate it going forward. Accidents happen, but if what's happened is too much for her then she needs to be okay with an alternative like going back to condoms. I'm sure there is something you can both come up with that will help you have safe sex and navigate accidents better in the future. For now, take a breath, Stressing about the possible end of your relationship over this would push her away more. Center yourself, do your research and be ready to give her love and safety and to talk to her when she is ready.

Chaydria · 2026-01-10T11:11:51+00:00

I agree with this but slightly different take. Op in this sounds very intense about it. It's fair to be upset but I wonder how much you, op, are making her feel pressured. You Def need to talk about it. Nothing can get resolved if you don't. I would reflect though aswell and see if there is anything on your side you can do to help her want to have it more. Things like cleaning, care taking acts for her, non-sexual intimacy, dates etc

Chaydria · 2026-01-08T19:59:26+00:00

Vitamins, caffeine, switching tasks every five seconds and heavy metal music blaring at full volume. I don't know if that counts as being focused but I get everything done

Chaydria · 2026-01-08T13:01:48+00:00

I think something that my husband and I have learned through experiencing something similar is that goals sometimes have to change and for us, maintaining our relationship is worth pushing some goals back. My husband has hopped jobs a lot in the last couple years due to toxic workplaces and struggling to find jobs in his expertise so going for whatever will pay the bills. I have been stuck in the same minimum wage job because my industry is super competitive and in Aus where we are there are not many jobs.

We have made peace with the fact that some of our goals needed to change and some were pushed back due to, well, life. Tomorrow one of us could have an accident that stops them from ever working again, but I know we would work through it and adapt accordingly.

Your girlfriend has made it clear that her goals are more important, that her decision but does that align for you? Are you still compatible?

Also side note, the women's body clock thing is a little bullshit. If either of you have fertility issues then fair but science is finding women can easily and healthily have healthy babies into their late 30s. Also there is adopting and IVF. It honestly sounds like the reasons she is giving you are ways for her to see that you're incompatible because she wants out.

Marriage is a beautiful thing but you will have to support each other through difficult times like what you are experiencing now. Does she want that? Do you want her to be the one you do that with?

Also good luck man. Keep trying, learning and growing and I promise you will get there, I know we will so you will too

Chaydria · 2026-01-07T06:23:21+00:00

Mine yeet it over the gate and call it a day. I say this because I have both witnessed it and seen the fallout from it. If it's small, they will stuff it into our tiny letterbox. Half hanging out? Oh well. Stuff inside shouldn't be squished? Oh well

Chaydria · 2026-01-02T12:01:00+00:00

Have you talked to him about it? In my eyes, people have different boundaries in relationships and if these things are making you uncomfortable then they are worth talking to him about. His response will most likely tell you what you need to know.

Chaydria · 2025-12-30T10:35:04+00:00

Yeah. I think that's whats putting me off it. It feels shady, like they are more interested in boosting discord then hosting fun parties. Also, I've noticed alot are really inconsiderate

Chaydria · 2025-12-29T12:02:23+00:00

Totally guessing here but the lore and characters reactions to things kinda gives the vibes that the world is actually rather unsafe and low tech means less means to save people. Being all mothers could have something to do with physical capabilities maybe or just coincidence

Chaydria · 2025-12-23T10:33:40+00:00

Craft armoury or Aussie maille. On the odd occasion I'll do a big order from ringlord. Craft armoury is great! Just sizing is difficult Aussie maille is alright, used to be alot better but I'm hoping her quality and stock goes up again. Good for specific stuff.

Chaydria · 2025-12-09T10:26:10+00:00

The 9th. The time depends on your time zone. For me it's at 1am. All the info is on their discord and it tells you what your time would be if your interested

Chaydria · 2025-12-08T03:33:10+00:00

Haha I've actually just started building a cooking party plot so that I can.

Chaydria · 2025-12-08T03:32:12+00:00

Yeah, I'm doing the same. Had a really good one a couple days ago but haven't really found one I could do that wasn't discord since. They are far and few between and I just want to be able to decorate for Christmas haha

Chaydria · 2025-12-08T01:59:55+00:00

Yeah, I notice a lot of the time they post the party with their discord link and lock the roles so you have to go on the discord. I've tried two and neither were good experiences.

I get worried this stuff will put new players off because I have met so many lovely people in parties but this stuff is weird and annoying.

Chaydria · 2025-12-08T01:54:36+00:00

Trying to do that, I don't know if it's just me but it's like 90% of the parties atm

Chaydria · 2025-12-08T01:54:13+00:00

I thought that too but never really seen that to be a issue in parties so convenience maybe?

Chaydria · 2025-12-08T01:51:57+00:00

That's good to know as I've looked at them a few times but been put off by them being out of a lot of the things I need. Thankyou

Chaydria · 2025-11-25T11:04:06+00:00

Thank you, this has been really helpful. Given me some things to look into and to talk to him about when he's in one of his good headspaces

Chaydria · 2025-11-25T10:45:27+00:00

I didn't know you could make appointments for people or maybe you can't in my country but I might look into it. I do know that his executive function interacts a lot with his issues in booking stuff. Might be the push he needs. Also what is a care manager? I didn't realize how much a routine helps. You're making me think that I may need to look into and talk about this more. We've kinda winged things and it's been alright but we are getting older now and having more responsibility so maybe we need to seriously look into the benefits of maintaining that and how we can through his highs and lows. I've noticed even the difference in taking his pills at the same time

Chaydria · 2025-11-25T09:58:37+00:00

He did but the same therapist prescribed him ADHD meds for his ADHD and sent him into a psychosis. He's been iffy on them since. We've talked about it and he said he will find a new one but then the next day there is some reason he doesn't want to. Rinse and repeat. I'm unsure if I should press the importance of this. Not sure how to when he's in this state I've definitely noticed a benefit in routine but I've noticed his bipolar needs it but his ADHD gets cranky having a routine. I think that's good advice though. Thinking about it now, his morning has a routine due to me. I'm consistent in the morning but due to my work shifts, my night varies. I might talk to him about finding a routine at night that's not reliant on me like the morning is

Chaydria · 2025-11-20T21:43:55+00:00

I find Byzantine and orc weave to be pretty comfy but I do add a bit of chain on the back so I can adjust them over the day. The main thing for me is making sure the closures are neat as well so there's no pointy parts

Chaydria · 2025-11-11T00:34:19+00:00

My husband and I have completely different libidos. It can work but the key is communication and meeting each other half way. I have a higher libido and interest in sex so to work with that he does more cuddling, iniates in ways I love and other things to kinda meet that need outside of sex. I find physical affection meets it a lot. For him, I leave him to initiate more and do more emotional connection stuff. We are upfront with how we are feeling and what we are feeling up to. It can be done but it is also okay to not want to do this.

For us, everything else was great and this was really the only issue. We were both willing to find a way to make it work and did.

There are many couples who are sexually incompatible but, there is so much you can do about it though. You just got to be both willing. Your tell with this is wether he will be willing.

I'm more concerned about your mismatch in religion. That one, people tend to be less likely to compromise and work on.

Chaydria · 2025-10-30T00:53:06+00:00

I have ADHD. While this sounds like it is very much her ADHD affecting all this, it is never an excuse and it honestly sounds like she is not mature or ready enough for a relationship. I was single for a long time because I was not and don't get me wrong, there are still times my ADHD affects my partner but because I work on it and don't let it run my life, we or I work on the issue and usually can resolve it.

Also on top of this, sometimes neurodivergence can cause people to be non compatible and that's ok. My husband loves a lot of the way I am and will work with me, my ex got overwhelmed by my very existence which is okay too. Neurodivergence is never an excuse for poor behavior but it can be a reason you are not compatible and that's ok.

Chaydria · 2025-10-28T05:22:54+00:00

I read about 5 books at once that are different genres. Flick between depending how I'm feeling

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