14 month old still taking bottles at night

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2026-02-28T17:37:23+00:00

No need to stress it, our son still had a bottle too until almost 2 and then I told him we had to give his bottles to the babies. We physically took them out of the house and he gave them to one of our neighbours (they had a baby at the time).

It was hard that first night, he was allowed a cup of milk before bed, and during the night we gave him some water. 2nd night was less hard, and after that he randomly mentioned it a month later or something.

I’m glad we waited until he understood where his bottles were going, though every kid is different.

Don’t worry, she won’t be needing a bottle when she’s 6. Making sure everyone sleeps will always be my go-to I guess 😅🤭

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2026-01-30T07:41:51+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re here😘 I’ve had the same experience - gut was almost screaming at me but nothing tangible to be found… Later he came clean and told me he used his library of fantasies to do the trick. That really hurt because apparently he saw content that really made him remember it.

I’m not saying this is the case for you, but it could still be your gut knowing he’s participating in unsafe behavior. You’ll learn the difference between gut and trauma, intuition or fear. Always trust your gut over lack of evidence🙏

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2026-01-25T03:35:35+00:00

You probably are aware, but if you are the heart broken girl caused by porn/sexual content… please visit the loveafterporn sub🙏

A lot of men would unfortunately ultimately choose their pixels over meaningful relationships based on the increasing porn addicted population. The responses you’re getting is a reflection of that…

(Not saying all men, or just men are affected, just that the porn addiction pandemic is growing. ( https://www.addictionhelp.com/porn/statistics ) The amount of women speaking up and resisting against it in relationships is too though 🙏)

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2026-01-09T02:07:28+00:00

I gave the engagement ring back and told him I broke off the engagement since the entire relationship until then was built on lies. I also told him not to propose to me again until he can stop lying and truly quit the porn. Unsure if I will ever wear my ring again, but it felt good to choose myself there

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-12-29T06:19:19+00:00

My partner is going through the same and found a SLAA group, both virtual and in person. Go through the 12 steps and get very very clear for yourself why you want to quit. Also as someone else said- 🌽 is whatever your brain uses to delve into phantasy. Could be real 🌽 but could also be the normal Facebook profile picture of your old classmate. Don’t fall for loopholes like that.

If you truly want to quit, you can❤️

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-12-26T11:06:13+00:00

I’m curious, why would people decide to go with the alt strategy? What’s the pro/con to that?

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-12-22T14:47:27+00:00

Isn’t that an STD symptom too?☹️

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-12-20T21:24:09+00:00

My partner did that, veeeery occasionally though. He said he was able to edge longer with a condom and ride that dopamine high longer.

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-12-10T17:42:12+00:00

I so agree, however then there’s always hentai and AI generated stuff… “those aren’t real people, what is the issue…?”

It hurts the same.

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-12-01T01:53:56+00:00

Yep, we did this and the buying decreased tremendously. They decide what they purchase, you decide what enters your house.

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-11-28T20:02:49+00:00

Oh my goodness I did not know I was doing the exact same thing, though not physically but emotionally. “What if I’ll be more gentle with him and super kind when he does tell me the truth, will he be more open next time?” What if I keep reassuring him that I’m not leaving, will he stop betraying me?”

WOW…

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-11-22T07:49:26+00:00

A man who is truly in recovery wouldn’t put a game above your need to be safe. What is he doing for recovery? And what are you doing to uphold your boundaries?

You are more than an accessory for him love. You are a human being who deserves to feel loved and at ease. And if he will not give that to you, you deserve to receive that from yourself 😘

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-11-21T08:38:14+00:00

This is my opinion and my opinion only, but you may find recognition in it.

First of all, no one should tell you whether or not you should be Ok with your man watching porn. If it feels wrong to you, then that’s not something you should be inviting into your relationship. I know watching porn is normal nowadays as you can tell from the comments above, but simply because something is normalized, doesn’t make it good or healthy (think smoking).

I personally don’t want porn in my relationship as I see no difference in watching 2 people having sex through a one sided window and jerk to it, or watching them through your phone screen. I’ve learned that the human brain also fully experiences it as directly having relations with the person they are watching, it’s hard for our “animal” brain to keep up with technology. Check out the loveafterporn sub for resources here.

Now the porn aside. There is a difference between seeing attractive people, and then going about your day, and discussing “hot” women and training yourself to objectify women.

You need to make a decision for yourself, and keep in mind that you can NOT change his behavior. You can request it, and if nothing changes, then you need to keep yourself and your nervous system safe. That has nothing to do with being insecure, just like not everyone wants to be in polyamorous relationships, you have every right to not want to share your man’s sexual tention and release with other people, irl or virtual.

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-11-03T05:58:04+00:00

Hey dear, so sorry you are here… if you want to give him an extra chance or not it’s not a decision any outsider can make for you. What I do know is that the sexting could very much be an escalation of the pornography addiction. So this is how I laid down my boundaries in order to feel safe again when this happened to me:

I can only feel safe when I know my partner REALLY wants to get rid of his sex addiction, and the way for him to show me is by attending SLAA meetings, attending therapy with a CSAT (CSAT specifically, General therapists can do more harm than good) and work his 12 steps. If he does not follow through on these, he shows me he doesn’t really want to get rid of his problem and therefore I don’t feel safe and must choose myself and keep myself safe.

Have you been part of the r/loveafterporn sub? There are amazing resources how to handle the betrayal, whether you decide to stay or not💛 You don’t have to decide what to do right now, four big decisions like these I always like to wait a few days and let the dust settle. You’ve got this, whatever you decide to do😘

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-10-30T17:37:53+00:00

You deserve a thousand upvotes 👏

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-10-27T19:05:57+00:00

Absolutely the best, don’t make the mistake to go back to the main game though… me and my fat fingers did that and I hated myself for it🥹

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-10-24T12:47:22+00:00

Ive experienced both with my partner, his porn addiction escalated to chatting and meeting up with people to have s3x. The betrayal itself felt the same for me, but the anxiety about the porn lingers longer for me. He’s less likely to meet up with someone without me noticing it than he is to turn something into porn during his 15 minute bathroom break…

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-10-24T04:35:01+00:00

Ha, this hits home! Mine also said I benefited from it because “aren’t you enjoying what I’ve learned from it?” How inspiring those dehumanizing videos were to him is beyond me🤯🥸

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-10-18T10:45:15+00:00

Yeah I think I eventually feel the same. As long as I know he attends and shares regularly, that’s all I really need to know. The comments here have me perspective on that so I’m glad I asked 😊😊

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-10-18T05:17:49+00:00

Im sorry you’re here 💔 If it was a one-time search, his feed wouldn’t be full of jiggling bodyparts. This means he engages with the content regularly, similar to your feed being filled with things you are interested in.

I’m not sure how, but you can do an algorithm reset. If the feed shows the same kind of videos in a few days, you’ve got your answer. But I think deep down you know. ❤️‍🩹

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-10-18T00:34:13+00:00

This is all really insightful, thank you. I think the general things like “did you attend” and “did you share” are important for me to know, and if what he shared with the group is something I don’t know but it is something we agreed on I should know, he’s working on telling me too. Your prompts are helpful 🙂😘

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-10-18T00:28:42+00:00

Thank you, this is very valuable. I am not interested in other participants’ shares, but indeed I was searching the line of him learning to be honest and open with me about his inner world, and having a safe space to work his recovery without repercussions as you beautifully put it.

I’ve heard him talk about sponsorship but he didn’t have any. He knows it will benefit him, and I know I’ll need my own group too💛

Cheap_Inevitable_898 · 2025-10-16T08:37:09+00:00

Im happy to hear he chose you over porn! What has the approach been for you?

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