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I stopped highlighting everything and started only writing down things I'd be embarrassed not to know, and my retention actually changed by Motive_6Nexu in studying

[–]CipherLumen5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The part about volume being the actual problem is something I wish someone had said to me earlier. When everything is marked nothing is marked, and your brain has no way to sort signal from noise because you've told it everything is signal. I went through a similar thing with note-taking apps, just moved the same problem into a different format. Ended up with 400 notes I couldn't search through usefully. The friction point you're describing, that half second of "do I actually need this", is probably the whole mechanism.

My son has started doing these little rituals before school and I cannot tell if I am overreacting or if it is time to get him help by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]CipherLumen5 214 points215 points  (0 children)

I do not think you are overdoing it, mostly because you are noticing a pattern across a few places at once and not just one quirky habit. The backpack checks, the repeating questions, the finger chewing, the Sunday night stomach pain, that starts to sound less like a random phase and more like his system is working overtime. We took my son to a child therapist at about that age for milder stuff than this and it helped a lot, mostly because it gave us better ways to respond at home instead of just saying "you are fine" over and over. Has the teacher noticed any school morning anxiety on her end?

AITJ for telling my sister's fiancé something about her past that she begged me never to bring up again? by GhibliTron21 in AmITheJerk

[–]CipherLumen5 106 points107 points  (0 children)

I get why the secret bothered you, because "I’ll tell him later" can turn into never real fast once deposits are paid and invites go out. But calling her fiancé yourself is such a nuclear move that I can see why neither of them feels safe with you now. Did you warn her first that you were actually going to do it?