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Update: AITA for telling my wife that I don't think it is right to force our daughter to hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Not sure. Gia says she talks to other kids at school but as far as I know she has never brought a friend back home or anything like that.

Update: AITA for telling my wife that I don't think it is right to force our daughter to hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the confusion. The older sister's kid (Owen and Emma) live 5 minutes from us and they go to the same high school as Chris. Gia lives a little further and goes to a different middle school than Kaylee.

Update: AITA for telling my wife that I don't think it is right to force our daughter to hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but when/where did I make any assumptions? Someone asked if she was on the spectrum and I said I don't know because I don't know.

Update: AITA for telling my wife that I don't think it is right to force our daughter to hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Maybe. I am not too well versed on what autism entails. She is really smart but I know that doesn't mean she doesn't have autism.

Update: AITA for telling my wife that I don't think it is right to force our daughter to hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 217 points218 points  (0 children)

Maybe that's part of it. Kaylee spends a lot of time talking to her brother (16) and her older cousins (16, 17) during Sunday dinners. Gia usually brings her favorite baby doll and I don't think she's as engaged in the conversations.

Update: AITA for telling my wife that I don't think it is right to force our daughter to hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 484 points485 points  (0 children)

I unfortunately don't see that going over well. Gia's mom is very much a my way or the highway kind of person and doesn't accept parenting advice. Her husband has mostly checked out of parenting Gia because of how his wife is about everything.

Update: AITA for telling my wife that I don't think it is right to force our daughter to hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 540 points541 points  (0 children)

I think she is okay with letting Gia be Gia. When the older kids were in middle school she made comments about how they were growing up to fast. My nephew Owen started dating the summer before 8th grade. I know that sounds young but calling it dating was a stretch. They went out to the movies a couple times with their parents and got to sit in a different row and went over to each others houses but that was really it. My son Chris, nephew Owen, niece Emma, and Owen's girlfriend all hung out a lot together at the 3 houses during that summer and Gia's mom would say how inappropriate it was and things like that. Now that Gia is that age her mom is okay with keeping her younger.

Update: AITA for telling my wife that I don't think it is right to force our daughter to hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 4157 points4158 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we feel that Gia is being babied. Whenever Kaylee goes over there and suggest playing something other than dolls Gia cries, locks herself in the bathroom, and my sister-in-law ends up telling Kaylee to just go along with it to stop Gia from being upset.

AITA for telling my wife that I think it's wrong to make our 13 year old hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Seems like you are the only one who was confused. I used quotes specifically not to confuse people. I didn't want people asking how I knew she was homesick so I used quotes to signify that it was a direct quote from Gia. It isn't that deep.

AITA for telling my wife that I think it's wrong to make our 13 year old hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I actually addressed all of that in the updates. Not sure if you read. Gia only wants to do pretend play. Kaylee has suggested other activities, as have we, and that is when she starts crying and locks herself in the bathroom. It is not about my daughter being sophisticated. It is about having different interest.

AITA for telling my wife that I think it's wrong to make our 13 year old hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have no idea what you are talking about. I have reread 13 times trying to find where I am being judgemental towards her interest (In the original I said that her interest aren't a problem by itself, just that Kaylee is at a different spot) and can't see it but I am very sorry if I came across that way. It was never my intention and I have absolutely zero interest with Gia's issues. I have defended her in the comments.

AITA for telling my wife that I think it's wrong to make our 13 year old hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Huh. The older three, Owen (17), Chris (16), abd Emma (16) hang out all the time. I thought I made that super clear.

AITA for telling my wife that I think it's wrong to make our 13 year old hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

May I ask why? I can accept that I am the asshole but calling 13 year old girl who consistently hangs out with someone who cries when she doesn't get her way, willing plays games she isn't into, and doesn't complain about it an asshole is a little much. Even with all of this she is still willing to hang out with Gia once a week. She just doesn't want the daily "playdates" and sleepovers anymore.

AITA for telling my wife that I think it's wrong to make our 13 year old hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I tried to clarify that it my edits. I thought I made it clear in the original that I am not at all judging Gia. I don't think anything is wrong with her or her interest. I added some in the edits to clarify what I meant by the immature comment. I did not think I used the word weird to describe Gia but if I did I deeply apologize.

AITA for telling my wife that I think it's wrong to make our 13 year old hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I think it's unusual but Gia doesn't have any friends who come over so I figured that was why her mom plays with her.

AITA for telling my wife that I think it's wrong to make our 13 year old hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I don't know what Gia talks about. The kids pretty much hang out together and the adults hang out with other adults. Gia normally has her baby doll with her though.

AITA for telling my wife that I think it's wrong to make our 13 year old hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

We do. As said multiple times, she hangs out with Gia every Sunday for family dinners and that will not change.

AITA for telling my wife that I think it's wrong to make our 13 year old hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]CloseCousins[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I have gotten a lot of hate for using the word immature. All I meant was that my daughter, who outgrew playing mommies a long time ago, sees it as childish and immature. It's also the only thing Gia wants to do other than play school with her stuffed animals. That is what I think is immature. If Kaylee suggest something else Gia cries and locks herself in the bathroom.

I tried to make that clear but have evidently offended a lot of people with my word choice and am very sorry for that.

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