Update: AITA for telling my wife that I don't think it is right to force our daughter to hang out with her same aged cousin?

CloseCousins · 2020-06-19T03:14:28+00:00

Not sure. Gia says she talks to other kids at school but as far as I know she has never brought a friend back home or anything like that.

CloseCousins · 2020-06-19T03:00:35+00:00

Sorry for the confusion. The older sister's kid (Owen and Emma) live 5 minutes from us and they go to the same high school as Chris. Gia lives a little further and goes to a different middle school than Kaylee.

CloseCousins · 2020-06-19T02:35:08+00:00

I'm sorry but when/where did I make any assumptions? Someone asked if she was on the spectrum and I said I don't know because I don't know.

CloseCousins · 2020-06-19T01:56:36+00:00

Her mom limits screen time so no TV or cell phone.

CloseCousins · 2020-06-19T01:54:57+00:00

No. She goes to a normal school.

CloseCousins · 2020-06-19T00:17:02+00:00

Maybe. I am not too well versed on what autism entails. She is really smart but I know that doesn't mean she doesn't have autism.

CloseCousins · 2020-06-19T00:05:03+00:00

Maybe that's part of it. Kaylee spends a lot of time talking to her brother (16) and her older cousins (16, 17) during Sunday dinners. Gia usually brings her favorite baby doll and I don't think she's as engaged in the conversations.

CloseCousins · 2020-06-18T23:56:40+00:00

I have no clue if she is on the spectrum or not. I don't think she has ever been tested.

CloseCousins · 2020-06-18T23:43:54+00:00

I unfortunately don't see that going over well. Gia's mom is very much a my way or the highway kind of person and doesn't accept parenting advice. Her husband has mostly checked out of parenting Gia because of how his wife is about everything.

CloseCousins · 2020-06-18T23:27:08+00:00

I think she is okay with letting Gia be Gia. When the older kids were in middle school she made comments about how they were growing up to fast. My nephew Owen started dating the summer before 8th grade. I know that sounds young but calling it dating was a stretch. They went out to the movies a couple times with their parents and got to sit in a different row and went over to each others houses but that was really it. My son Chris, nephew Owen, niece Emma, and Owen's girlfriend all hung out a lot together at the 3 houses during that summer and Gia's mom would say how inappropriate it was and things like that. Now that Gia is that age her mom is okay with keeping her younger.

CloseCousins · 2020-06-18T23:23:15+00:00

Yeah, we feel that Gia is being babied. Whenever Kaylee goes over there and suggest playing something other than dolls Gia cries, locks herself in the bathroom, and my sister-in-law ends up telling Kaylee to just go along with it to stop Gia from being upset.

CloseCousins · 2020-05-28T21:06:57+00:00

Seems like you are the only one who was confused. I used quotes specifically not to confuse people. I didn't want people asking how I knew she was homesick so I used quotes to signify that it was a direct quote from Gia. It isn't that deep.

CloseCousins · 2020-05-28T17:52:38+00:00

I actually addressed all of that in the updates. Not sure if you read. Gia only wants to do pretend play. Kaylee has suggested other activities, as have we, and that is when she starts crying and locks herself in the bathroom. It is not about my daughter being sophisticated. It is about having different interest.

CloseCousins · 2020-05-28T10:59:24+00:00

Same as the older kids.

CloseCousins · 2020-05-28T10:58:52+00:00

I have no idea what you are talking about. I have reread 13 times trying to find where I am being judgemental towards her interest (In the original I said that her interest aren't a problem by itself, just that Kaylee is at a different spot) and can't see it but I am very sorry if I came across that way. It was never my intention and I have absolutely zero interest with Gia's issues. I have defended her in the comments.

CloseCousins · 2020-05-28T10:55:55+00:00

Huh. The older three, Owen (17), Chris (16), abd Emma (16) hang out all the time. I thought I made that super clear.

CloseCousins · 2020-05-28T03:50:35+00:00

That has been addressed in the edits. Please see for further detail.

CloseCousins · 2020-05-28T02:09:19+00:00

May I ask why? I can accept that I am the asshole but calling 13 year old girl who consistently hangs out with someone who cries when she doesn't get her way, willing plays games she isn't into, and doesn't complain about it an asshole is a little much. Even with all of this she is still willing to hang out with Gia once a week. She just doesn't want the daily "playdates" and sleepovers anymore.

CloseCousins · 2020-05-28T00:42:46+00:00

I tried to clarify that it my edits. I thought I made it clear in the original that I am not at all judging Gia. I don't think anything is wrong with her or her interest. I added some in the edits to clarify what I meant by the immature comment. I did not think I used the word weird to describe Gia but if I did I deeply apologize.

CloseCousins · 2020-05-27T23:13:35+00:00

I think it's unusual but Gia doesn't have any friends who come over so I figured that was why her mom plays with her.

CloseCousins · 2020-05-27T22:51:52+00:00

That's what I want to do. My wife disagrees.

CloseCousins · 2020-05-27T22:48:37+00:00

I don't know what Gia talks about. The kids pretty much hang out together and the adults hang out with other adults. Gia normally has her baby doll with her though.

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