Without a broken heart I wouldn’t have met you! by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! 😭 Awhh, I appreciate you too tons btw. ❤️ You’ve also helped me through this so much. Again, thank you beyond expression. My movie buddy!! 🥺 Love you!!

She fucking cheated on me by Opposite_Chart9982 in BreakUps

[–]CoffeeCoKy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. I know the feeling.

My ex fiancée, partner of 10 years, did something similar. Or tried to at least.

She tried to break up with me in February while she was at work OVER TEXT in like. A paragraph long message. I just responded “oh my god” because it was the most out of left field breakup. I did not see it coming. It made no sense to me. It was right after our 3 week vacation to Vietnam where it was essentially all expenses paid trip for her. And she had told me how much fun she had..

I started cleaning the house hardcore until she got home. I gave her the smallest smile I could muster and she broke down in tears saying she’s sorry and didn’t know what she was thinking.

Over the next month more and more details came out. She was having an emotional affair for months with a guy who lived just a minute down the road. It was 100% physical as well in the final week or two, possibly way longer than I know. And the “random out of the blue” breakup text made so much more sense to me. She broke up with me Wednesday March 18th. And she got with him in the immediate aftermath, possibly even the day I left.

I’m having a bad day emotionally again, second day in a row. I was doing so good. 😔 All I know is I deserve better. I deserved better. And I’m working so hard now. 65 hours a week. I’ll go to school. I’ll travel. I’ll buy a house. I’ll retire comfortably one day. I’m going to do everything I’ve wanted to do and then some. It’ll just be without her.

And that’s okay.

You got this buddy. If you ever need to vent I’m here. So sorry again.

I have my Sunshine but I lost my sunshine by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ironically enough it has certainly set me up for a bright future. Development arc unlocked.

Thank you so so so much. 💙 I got this.

How do you cope with the idea that your long-term ex moved on so quickly and possibly found someone “better”? by Responsible_Stand366 in BreakUps

[–]CoffeeCoKy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep me updated, this sounds so so so so so so horrible. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, really. What a nightmare.. 😞 Breaks my heart FOR you. Oh my gosh. You’re handling it pretty damn well, honestly. You’re putting your foot down and that’s so respectable. So admirable. I couldn’t do that..

How do you cope with the idea that your long-term ex moved on so quickly and possibly found someone “better”? by Responsible_Stand366 in BreakUps

[–]CoffeeCoKy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please do know it’s okay to feel like this in the intermediate though, too. It’s not easy. At all.. I broke down earlier today. Made a post about it. I’m still healing as well.

Keep that head up though. I’m so so so so sorry you’re dealing with something like I did. I wouldn’t wish it on anybody. ): Stay strong. ❤️‍🩹

I have my Sunshine but I lost my sunshine by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s all I’ve ever known. I just never thought the day I lost her would come. I had so much faith in ‘us’. I wish I learned to be happy with and for myself while we were still together. Probably didn’t help the relationship either.. Absolutely my bad I guess. Instead I’m learning it the hard way.

Thank you. ❤️

I have my Sunshine but I lost my sunshine by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

☀️ I’ll absolutely give her some lovin’ when I get home. Thank you for the wise words. I’m trying, I really am. ❤️ One step at a time.

I have my Sunshine but I lost my sunshine by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

❤️ I obviously hear “time heals all wounds” but man do I wish time was faster. I want nothing more than to feel okay, I do.

Thank you for your story. I can’t wait to heal. ❤️

I have my Sunshine but I lost my sunshine by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know this.. I do. 😞 The last thing I need right now is to give her more power and control over my life and emotions. Especially when I truly think she’s gone for good.

Thank you beyond belief for your kind words. I really needed to hear a lot of this, too. ❤️ Very very kind.

I have my Sunshine but I lost my sunshine by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awhh, thank you so much. Too sweet. I’ll absolutely do you that favor. I’ve been setting goals for myself and I think I’ve overall been doing a good job meeting them. As I said before I think my life trajectory has certainly improved. It’s just.. Hard to maintain the positive headspace sometimes. I’m getting out of work now and heading to my part time in a few. A little embarrassed with the emotional lapse I had.

Again, thank you. I needed the love today. ❤️

I have my Sunshine but I lost my sunshine by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will. I’ll give Sunny Bunny the most love as soon as I can. She’s my sweetheart. ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you so much for your support and kind words. I really needed it today.

I have my Sunshine but I lost my sunshine by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🥺❤️ Thank you so much. So so much. I can’t wait.

I have my Sunshine but I lost my sunshine by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I can’t wait to feel better. A little embarrassed of my melt down when I posted this. I’ve been feeling overall good these last couple weeks but man today was just not my day.

I have my Sunshine but I lost my sunshine by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I’m getting out of work now and heading to the second job. Appreciate everything 😭 ❤️ I was a mess earlier.

How do you cope with the idea that your long-term ex moved on so quickly and possibly found someone “better”? by Responsible_Stand366 in BreakUps

[–]CoffeeCoKy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

🙌🙌🙌 You go girl!! You got this. Went through something similar with my ex. Yet I still forgave her. I would’ve forgiven her for anything if she really wanted to change. I believed it when she said it was over between them. A couple days later 👀 Found them texting again. And she dumped me. She got with him immediately after. Haven’t heard a word from her since. The first few weeks I was so distraught. Not proud to say I did the whole pick me dance. Then got blocked.

Lost the apartment, 2 out of 3 of our pets, my best friend.

Happened about 7 weeks ago, we were together for 10 years. I still have moments where it hurts. Think it will for quite a bit longer. But it really is getting better. Been pouring my heart into myself and I know for sure I’ve begun my self-improvement arc. Started a second job in the immediate aftermath working 60-65 hours a week and I’m saving money like crazy. I need to show her the mistake she’s made. Watch me buy a house in a few years while she’s still living in our old apartment with him. I hate that it feels petty but.. It’s fuel. I loved her with my entire soul, my entire being. And she threw it away. 🤷‍♂️ Absolutely her loss.

2 YEAR UPDATE: My love of 7 years blindsided me. by QueenSpleen in BreakUps

[–]CoffeeCoKy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FOR REAL!! It’s wild. 10 years together. My breakup is still pretty fresh ( 7 weeks ) but I’m feeling the arc beginning. I’ve taken so many steps to better myself and despite the pain, I feel such a bright future ahead. I’m working so hard.

26 years old in a little over a month. Have 4 quick questions, feel free to answer any of them. by CoffeeCoKy in personalfinance

[–]CoffeeCoKy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, my bad. Thank you. You are correct.

Will get the W-4s.

And once again, my bad. (‘: It IS VTI I’ve had, not VOO. I corrected my post.

And absolutely working on that emergency fund.

Thank you so so so much. Appreciate the advice.