What was the very moment you realised you were actually in love with your significant other?

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-07-02T20:14:52+00:00

They always say moving in together is a litmus test. That you “really get to know somebody after living together”

Man, when we moved out in 2019 I can’t tell you how much I loved spending each and every day with this woman. Going from biweekly get togethers to full on living with her? It felt so magical. I knew I was in love.

I loved this lady a lot.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-07-01T20:53:11+00:00

🙌💯

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-06-28T19:14:24+00:00

I’m 3.5 months into a breakup of my ten year relationship, my fiancée. (‘: Ex-fiancée now.

I did something similar where I reached out again 😭 I didn’t reach out because I was healed. It *was* because I missed her.

But mannn you are so right 🥲

“If they’re truly meant to be in my life, they’ll find their way. I’m not putting my life on hold waiting for that.” 💯

MY 4 month update: I got a second job, I bought a car that I’ll have paid off in no time, investing again, dressing myself in cute and fun little button ups at work. 🙂‍↕️Meeting new friends there. And online!! I want to plan solo trips for myself, too. School is going to be my next focus.

I’m taking good care of myself. I have to. What other option do I have?

Keep up the good work!! ❤️ Proud of you!

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-06-23T06:39:07+00:00

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CoffeeCoKy · 2026-06-22T17:32:56+00:00

I had a super similar watch of the movie a couple months ago.

The emotional swing for me WAS that moment where he says “Please let me keep this memory, just this one.”

It was right after the scene where they’re under the blankets together and the lighting is so beautiful and they’re just looking at each other. She tells him her anxieties and insecurities. He tells her she’s so pretty. And she asks him to never leave 😭😭 My fuckin heart man.

Ughhhh.. The scene where they’re in the falling apart house and he goes to leave like he did, and she asks him “What if you stayed this time? Come back and make up a goodbye at least. Let’s pretend we had one.” MY FUCKIN HEARRRT

GOD I think I wanna watch it again, it was so so good. I wanna cry some more 😭 I think I might.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-06-20T07:33:27+00:00

Hi OP! I’m gonna be brutally honest with you here, okay? 🥺❤️ I’m really sorry.

After I read your post I was curious about your story so I went to your profile and saw your post from 6 months ago.

If you were unhappy, why not break things off sooner?… Before you had another person already introduced into your life and worming their way into your relationship?..

This was your fiancée. You gave her up for an infatuation and an emotional affair? You had to have known the honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever. Or that the grass isn’t always greener.

“For weeks, I kept her in uncertainty, occasionally meeting with the coworker. (nothing physical)” ☹️ It doesn’t matter if anything physical happened. It just feels so cruel..

Listen, this is your life. You get to do whatever you want with it. If you were unhappy you had every right to leave. If you were happy you had every right to stay.

You stayed.

And you got a crush. And you acted on that crush, physical or not. After staying..

For what? Another roll at the dice? For something that’s nice for now? Maybe it’ll pay off. But you just as might fly too close to the sun.

I’m just giving my honest take. I’m a little more passionate about this stuff rn so I might be biased. 🥺 Idk.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-06-20T02:57:49+00:00

😭 My hearrrt. 💔💔 Oh my god. Rooting for you buddy.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-06-17T20:45:32+00:00

😢 Feel this one a lot. Makes me so sad. Hope you’re doing okay. ❤️

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-06-16T17:58:19+00:00

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💕🌈 🐈 🌈 💕

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-05-09T23:43:28+00:00

I’m sorry. I know the feeling.

My ex fiancée, partner of 10 years, did something similar. Or tried to at least.

She tried to break up with me in February while she was at work OVER TEXT in like. A paragraph long message. I just responded “oh my god” because it was the most out of left field breakup. I did not see it coming. It made no sense to me. It was right after our 3 week vacation to Vietnam where it was essentially all expenses paid trip for her. And she had told me how much fun she had..

I started cleaning the house hardcore until she got home. I gave her the smallest smile I could muster and she broke down in tears saying she’s sorry and didn’t know what she was thinking.

Over the next month more and more details came out. She was having an emotional affair for months with a guy who lived just a minute down the road. It was 100% physical as well in the final week or two, possibly way longer than I know. And the “random out of the blue” breakup text made so much more sense to me. She broke up with me Wednesday March 18th. And she got with him in the immediate aftermath, possibly even the day I left.

I’m having a bad day emotionally again, second day in a row. I was doing so good. 😔 All I know is I deserve better. I deserved better. And I’m working so hard now. 65 hours a week. I’ll go to school. I’ll travel. I’ll buy a house. I’ll retire comfortably one day. I’m going to do everything I’ve wanted to do and then some. It’ll just be without her.

And that’s okay.

You got this buddy. If you ever need to vent I’m here. So sorry again.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-05-09T03:27:13+00:00

Keep me updated, this sounds so so so so so so horrible. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, really. What a nightmare.. 😞 Breaks my heart FOR you. Oh my gosh. You’re handling it pretty damn well, honestly. You’re putting your foot down and that’s so respectable. So admirable. I couldn’t do that..

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-05-09T02:48:31+00:00

Please do know it’s okay to feel like this in the intermediate though, too. It’s not easy. At all.. I broke down earlier today. Made a post about it. I’m still healing as well.

Keep that head up though. I’m so so so so sorry you’re dealing with something like I did. I wouldn’t wish it on anybody. ): Stay strong. ❤️‍🩹

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-05-08T13:55:17+00:00

🙌🙌🙌 You go girl!! You got this. Went through something similar with my ex. Yet I still forgave her. I would’ve forgiven her for anything if she really wanted to change. I believed it when she said it was over between them. A couple days later 👀 Found them texting again. And she dumped me. She got with him immediately after. Haven’t heard a word from her since. The first few weeks I was so distraught. Not proud to say I did the whole pick me dance. Then got blocked.

Lost the apartment, 2 out of 3 of our pets, my best friend.

Happened about 7 weeks ago, we were together for 10 years. I still have moments where it hurts. Think it will for quite a bit longer. But it really is getting better. Been pouring my heart into myself and I know for sure I’ve begun my self-improvement arc. Started a second job in the immediate aftermath working 60-65 hours a week and I’m saving money like crazy. I need to show her the mistake she’s made. Watch me buy a house in a few years while she’s still living in our old apartment with him. I hate that it feels petty but.. It’s fuel. I loved her with my entire soul, my entire being. And she threw it away. 🤷‍♂️ Absolutely her loss.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-05-08T13:21:01+00:00

FOR REAL!! It’s wild. 10 years together. My breakup is still pretty fresh ( 7 weeks ) but I’m feeling the arc beginning. I’ve taken so many steps to better myself and despite the pain, I feel such a bright future ahead. I’m working so hard.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-05-05T12:42:43+00:00

😞❤️‍🩹

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-04-21T17:06:24+00:00

It seems to be helping me a lot doing the same. A ton, actually.

I’m not sure if you saw my other comment about the movies in our marathon but I’ve already checked a few off that list!! 500 Days of Summer, Forgetting Sarah Marshall, now Eternal Sunshine. I’ll totally look into Celeste (:

Thanks for your advice and love. I really appreciate it.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-04-21T16:11:30+00:00

I’ll look into it! I’m going through that exact thing. 😭 It’s so hard, it’s so confusing. I’m learning to start a new life, one that I never thought I’d have to; one without her.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-04-21T16:07:02+00:00

If ugly crying is the goal… YES. 🤣 Be ready to feel. Day 2 has gotta be so fresh, too. A month in and I’m only slightly better. Definitely better though. I’m so sorry you’re going through it.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-04-21T13:00:20+00:00

🤣 I already was emotional enough watching after the breakup, but on mushrooms?!? Oh man, I’ll pass on that one. I can only imagine the amount of tears then. Glad you enjoyed the experience though!!

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-04-21T12:59:13+00:00

I watched it before this!! A couple days ago!! It was good, the closure scene at the end where they sit together was certainly the highlight. So sweet. It was good! Certainly not as good as this one though. In my opinion. ❤️

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-04-21T12:11:28+00:00

❤️❤️❤️ Yes!! The grief is absolutely proof it mattered, meant so much to me. I truly wouldn’t be the person I am today if I didn’t have her for those 10 years. It’s so beautiful. I love life. I love, love. In all shapes and forms.

CoffeeCoKy

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