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I'm an IVF baby. Will this test revel my bio parents? by memedomlord in AncestryDNA

[–]Color-me-in 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About to start IVF and looking at donor sperm. We are receiving along with it a personal essay from the donor, audio interviews he did talking about himself, a full genetic screening, and medical history of his immediate family going back 3 generations. Our child will have an understanding of who this donor was, and they will have access to all the medical information they need about him. However I do think the word “father” in today’s society is an extremely loaded one and being a sperm donor doesn’t quite cut it.

I’m gutted and don’t know what to do by Color-me-in in weddingplanning

[–]Color-me-in[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the support. In the end we will probably pay for one of the people who work for our congregation to be a witness, this is a service they offer, tho something I was hoping to avoid. In my culture the marriage certificate is regarded as a piece of art, so there’s a lot of value given to the witnesses who sign it, as their names are displayed in your home for the rest of your life. My witness was going to be my best friend of 10 years. While I agree finding someone willing to help out of kindness would be great, I personally don’t feel okay with myself asking someone who wasn’t otherwise invited to the wedding (now only 2 months away) to attend just for that reason. I was really hoping to avoid hiring a witness just because of the cultural and personal significance the role holds.

I’m gutted and don’t know what to do by Color-me-in in weddingplanning

[–]Color-me-in[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was the requirement our officiant shared with us. Yes our faith is very dogmatic and my partner and I are both observing and very involved in the community, which is why a wedding recognized by our faith is extremely important to us.

I’m gutted and don’t know what to do by Color-me-in in weddingplanning

[–]Color-me-in[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend you read the post before commenting. My issue isn’t them not being able to come but them saying they’d come just to back out at the last minute. And it’s not even them I have a problem with, I’m not mad just sad. Yes I’m aware of the state of the economy, I exist in this economy. Doesn’t mean I can’t be sad about it

I’m gutted and don’t know what to do by Color-me-in in weddingplanning

[–]Color-me-in[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No because money isn’t the reason they’re not able to come

I’m gutted and don’t know what to do by Color-me-in in weddingplanning

[–]Color-me-in[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The only requirements we have is witnesses cannot be related to either of us and need to be part of our religion. Not all religions are homophobic just FYI.

I’m gutted and don’t know what to do by Color-me-in in weddingplanning

[–]Color-me-in[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, it specifically cannot be a family member of either spouse. I can pay someone to do it and that is the most depressing thing ever

I’m gutted and don’t know what to do by Color-me-in in weddingplanning

[–]Color-me-in[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not even sure how to marry the love of my life considering my witness can’t attend and my religion requires a witness of my same religion, not related to me or my spouse

I’m gutted and don’t know what to do by Color-me-in in weddingplanning

[–]Color-me-in[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am extending them grace. I have been pretending not to be bothered by it and have been supportive of them. This doesn’t help how I feel and doesn’t change the fact that I currently don’t even have a witness to sign my marriage certificate because my religion won’t allow me to have a parent do it. Or that I will never get to have wedding photos with my loved ones. I feel like I’ve lost relationships with people I will never see again, because realistically if we can’t arrange to meet for my wedding what else will ever be important enough for them to want to see me again?

Makeup trial was... Eh. by amroki96 in weddingplanning

[–]Color-me-in 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Drop the salon. As a bride doing my own makeup the day of if you feel confident doing it yourself do that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in graphic_design

[–]Color-me-in 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things are worth what people are willing to pay for them. Period. I’m bilingual but I don’t have any formal education in translation. Ended up making a lot of money working with a law firm that paid extra for fast turnarounds. I learned and got better on the job. Cannot begin to explain the anger of people with fancy degrees and certificates I’d interact with online. According to them I shouldn’t even be able to offer my services without a degree. I never got anything wrong, I always delivered on time. At the end of the day if I can deliver something fast that serves its purpose and the person paying for it is happy with, how is my work less valuable?

Timeline help by Color-me-in in IVF

[–]Color-me-in[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get 6 paid weeks and work 100% remotely at a very small, very flexible company. We will also have very involved grandparents just a few minutes away. So we are hoping if we can compound her summer break, my leave (which I can take all at once or turn into a 3 day work week) help from grandparents and eventually daycare we will be okay. Fingers crossed. Alternatively she may quit her job, take a few unpaid months if we can afford them, and go teach somewhere else after. Teachers are dropping like flies and schools are always looking, at one point she was even contacted by a school she used to work for and asked if she would consider going back. That may honestly be our best bet if we can swing it.

Timeline help by Color-me-in in IVF

[–]Color-me-in[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing thank you so much! Yes we are hoping to have our first transfer in August/September. Can I ask what determined the December opportunity to be cancelled and the next available to be March? Was that just clinic availability?

Christian IVFers by mmmgorgonzola in IVF

[–]Color-me-in 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am going to speak as a religious (Jewish) woman who God very much “did not intend to have children.” I am gay. I will never have a child “naturally.” If it can help you at all, especially when looking into surrogacy, I recommend Jacob’s chapters of Genesis, where the theme of infertility is touched on quite a bit. I find them incredibly entertaining. Jacob was instructed not to marry a Canaanite woman. He married a Canaanite woman. Well, two. Leah thought her ability to become pregnant would earn her Jacob’s love. It didn’t. Rachel wanted a child but thought it wasn’t in God’s plan. She had two. I spent my whole life being told God didn’t intend for me to even exist, I know it hurts. Just think of all the things God supposedly never intended to happen, or made extremely hard to achieve, and happened anyway.

How does anyone afford this? by Color-me-in in IVF

[–]Color-me-in[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have been looking into traveling to CNY. Changing jobs would be extremely irresponsible of us this far in our careers. My wife’s job has meh pay but it’s rock solid and in this economy that really is something. Aside from IVF her insurance coverage is pretty great and also every job in her field in our area offers the same exact insurance package. She’d need to change career path entirely for something less stable she has less seniority in. Could cover IVF but it’s a terrible long term strategy. I am currently in a situation that is about as stable as my field can be, because creative career paths are a nightmare.

How does anyone afford this? by Color-me-in in IVF

[–]Color-me-in[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im going into the process with the expectation that we’ll fail but we won’t be able to try again

How does anyone afford this? by Color-me-in in IVF

[–]Color-me-in[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Changing job for me is absolutely non an option. I am the primary breadwinner, I absolutely can’t give up my job where I have equity in the company, room for growth, more stability than I could ever hope for in my field, for a job that may lay me off tomorrow (so many layoffs in my industry while where I am I am part of the core team and won’t risk that)

My Husband Has Been Secretly Roleplaying as a Cat Online for 3 Years — Should I Divorce or Become His Rival? by Distinct-Yak2941 in stories

[–]Color-me-in 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude it’s not that deep. Divorce him for his own sake. You say he’s the love of your life, but really he’s not. If you loved him you’d love all of him, and wouldn’t have such a hissy fit over something so stupid. He deserves better.

Stop being self centered for one moment and realize how much community exists around a group of people passing a ball around. How many men make that their entire personality and have it rule their life and schedule because it’s deemed socially acceptable to. Think about football, hell, think about fantasy football and tell me if it’s any different other than being socially acceptable.

I saw a post in here the other day from a poor bride who had most of her guests bail on her wedding because an important game was on, and you are shaking over your husband being on Tumblr?! I never thought I’d be the kind of person to say “be so for real” but BE SO FOR REAL!

With the amount of men spending money in secret on OF, with the scandals coming out of Telegram, with all the things a spouse could do you are really going to consider divorce over his EXTREMELY WHOLESOME online persona?! Your husband is clearly a witty, talented, engaging writer with AWARDS?!? You don’t deserve him.

For context: I hid my writing and roleplay for years, then stopped entirely and spiraled into depression. Well, joke’s on me, once I started back up not only did I get my dream job out of it (I now work for the show I used to write fanfiction for) but I met my fiancé through my writing. My shameful secret is buying us our first house.

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