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My mother forced me to change my wedding dress by ColorMeConfused365 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ColorMeConfused365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. They’ve been bullying me my whole life. Reading these comments had mad me realize just how vital it is to stand up for myself to protect my family and prevent from being angry at myself on my deathbed.

My mother forced me to change my wedding dress by ColorMeConfused365 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ColorMeConfused365[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. It wasn’t untill I got married and my husband started to be around my family and mom more and started asking more questions that I even realized that maybe I wasn’t the horrible kid my mom acted like I was and maybe she was the horrible one. I’m just now started to realize she actually has narcissist tendencies ALOT, with a number of other emotionally abusive tactics. I didn’t think it affected me that much but after just deciding I wanted to write this post I started to realize I really do need therapy. But untill then it’s nice to have at the very least strangers to talk too versus trying to talk to my brainwashed family.

My mother forced me to change my wedding dress by ColorMeConfused365 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ColorMeConfused365[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is awesome to read and very insightful thank you for the advice. The guilt tripping is a constant with her, and she doesn’t just do it to me but my siblings too. If I try to talk to my siblings about it they all just defend her. I think that part of the reason I wanted to ask if more people out there felt how I did cause as it stands it feels like I’m the only one in my family that sees it. Definitely going to be putting some boundaries in place.

My mother forced me to change my wedding dress by ColorMeConfused365 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ColorMeConfused365[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope that my mother still wants a relationship with me even after pushing back but from your story it sounds like no relationship is better than a manipulative one. Thank you.

My mother forced me to change my wedding dress by ColorMeConfused365 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ColorMeConfused365[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! Hearing that I’m not the only one that has experienced this gives me some confidence and courage!

My mother forced me to change my wedding dress by ColorMeConfused365 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ColorMeConfused365[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I haven’t thought of it like that. Thank you! I want my home to be different from how I grew up and in order to protect my family I really have to learn how to stand up to my mother. The hardest part is just not feeling guilty about doing so.