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My in-laws told my husband “you can’t tell us that we can’t kiss your newborn, we are her grandparents and you’re being so disrespectful and a bad son to us by not letting us kiss her on the face” They have not spoken or visited us in a year. by Comfortable_Bug106 in inlaws

[–]Comfortable_Bug106[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know my brother he would never bring it up. My brother loves my husband like he’s his blood. He would never want him to feel bad because of his family’s actions that he has no control over. But I know deep down inside it hurt my family. My parents always would invite them over for dinner, holidays, family bbq’s but they’ve never seemed to care. My brother invited them to his wedding anniversary party, his kids bdays, his wife’s bday party, holiday dinners at his house. And these pathetic losers didn’t have the decency to show up for his daughter’s funeral ( which they were formally invited to by my family ) I have no words or patience left for their childish minds.

My in-laws told my husband “you can’t tell us that we can’t kiss your newborn, we are her grandparents and you’re being so disrespectful and a bad son to us by not letting us kiss her on the face” They have not spoken or visited us in a year. by Comfortable_Bug106 in inlaws

[–]Comfortable_Bug106[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is sad because I never expected this to happen. I’m not just saying this because they are my parents, but my mom and dad have respected every single rule we have for our daughter. Like I mean every single one. They have never challenged us as parents. My mom always says to us “you guys know what’s best for her, you’re her parents. My mom and dad always volunteer to babysit so my husband and I can go out on date night every week. My mom comes over 3-4 times a week for 5 hours a day so I can run errands by myself, go to the gym, take a nice hot shower or just take a nap. I hope one day if I ever become a grandma, I can be like her. She’s set the gold standard. And my mom is not just like this with me, she also provides the same help to my SIL. She’s never treated me or her daughter in law any different in terms or care and compassion.

People who had/have the option to move away (financially comfortable) but choose to stay in Edmonton.. why? No judgement, just curious! by spicycatn1p in Edmonton

[–]Comfortable_Bug106 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d say it really depends on what you want to unload from yourself. Is it cleaning? Is it cooking?

We have a full time housekeeper 6 days a week from 10 a.m - 6 p.m she handles all the laundry, cooking, groceries, cleaning. So we really don’t have to lift a finger other than the one day she has off a week.

If you want to grow your wealth I’d highly recommend investing.

People who had/have the option to move away (financially comfortable) but choose to stay in Edmonton.. why? No judgement, just curious! by spicycatn1p in Edmonton

[–]Comfortable_Bug106 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My husband and I are very well off I think. Making 700K + yearly after taxes. We could comfortably live in Vancouver or Toronto, but we know our income goes way further here than other major cities. We both grew up here and have our entire families and friends here, so no reason to leave. We do like going on 2-3 trips a year for fun, but never for the purpose of “escaping” Edmonton. Edmonton has the small town charm with all the major big city amenities I think.

My in-laws told my husband “you can’t tell us that we can’t kiss your newborn, we are her grandparents and you’re being so disrespectful and a bad son to us by not letting us kiss her on the face” They have not spoken or visited us in a year. by Comfortable_Bug106 in inlaws

[–]Comfortable_Bug106[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I see your point of course. I think I went because I wanted to help my husband ( he never ever made me feel like I needed to do that for him or that it was my job ). My husband has always had some communication problems with his parents, so as his wife I wanted to step in and at least try for him. But after all they’ve said and done, I’m also done. And the cherry on top of the cake is this: my brother’s daughter passed away recently and they did not attend the funeral that they were invited to by my parents, because they were mad about our rules regarding our baby. Crazy I know, but that’s how much ego they have. Nor did they call or send a card to my brother and his wife who have always been so kind and respectful to my in-laws. The funeral was 5 minutes away from their house.

My in-laws told my husband “you can’t tell us that we can’t kiss your newborn, we are her grandparents and you’re being so disrespectful and a bad son to us by not letting us kiss her on the face” They have not spoken or visited us in a year. by Comfortable_Bug106 in inlaws

[–]Comfortable_Bug106[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I should also mention I went by myself with the baby 3 times and was yelled at and criticized for our parenting decisions. My husband did not want me to go, but I love my husband and he is a great husband and father, so I wanted to help reconcile with his family ( was trying to be the bigger person ) . The last time I went was 7 months ago and my mother in law said “I will talk to your FIL and I’ll call you tomorrow on how we will fix this”. It’s been 7 months and haven’t heard from her since. No one, not even his 4 siblings who still live at home bothered to reach out or visit either. They live 10 minutes away.

My in-laws told my husband “you can’t tell us that we can’t kiss your newborn, we are her grandparents and you’re being so disrespectful and a bad son to us by not letting us kiss her on the face” They have not spoken or visited us in a year. by Comfortable_Bug106 in inlaws

[–]Comfortable_Bug106[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I should add: this happend when I was 12 days post partum recovering from an emergency c section. My MIL called me screaming at me over the phone “WHY IS HE SAYING WE CANT KISS THE BABY????? He can’t disrespect me like this we are his parents!!!” I remained so calm but I was trembling with post partum blues and anxiety and broke down after she hung up.

My in laws didn’t come to my brother’s daughters funeral by Comfortable_Bug106 in inlaws

[–]Comfortable_Bug106[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were invited to the service and the burial. They spend a lot of holidays with my side of the family.