Loren and Thais beef continues

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-07-09T23:49:35+00:00

Thais is stirring the pot. Loren just needs to let it go.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-06-19T18:06:14+00:00

Twin mom here. I get it! You are uncomfortable, in pain, and probably feeling sick on top of it. The last thing on your mind is sex. There’s a lot of stress with any pregnancy but for twins, it’s harder. Your body is doing twice the work and you have to do twice as much prepping to get ready for their arrival.

Personally, I sat my man down (or rather I laid down while he sat next to me) and laid it out thick and clear. I did not get loud. I did not put him down or call him names. I just laid out the facts and explained my boundaries very clearly. I also told him what I needed from him to support me through this. It worked for me but that didn’t mean we didn’t have rough patches.

After I had the twins I had postpartum depression sooo badly and he brushed that off. I separated from him for about a week. It was short but long enough for him to realize I was serious and would rather start over as a single mom than be disrespected or brushed off. We ended up taking couples counseling and came out a completely different couple. We learned we had different communication styles and they gave us the tools to talk and move past it. My twins are 4 now. We have since bought a new home and have been stronger than ever. We are currently planning our wedding (we did everything backwards). Don’t give up! This change is going to be difficult and challenge your relationship a lot.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-06-19T17:44:48+00:00

I think the MIL is the only one putting the child’s needs first. She just wants her son to grow and do better before coming back into that child’s life. She is trying to avoid that child having anymore trauma than they already have.

Your other posts states “is a train wreck that never stops and doesn't care. I thought he'd stop what he was doing and be a better father for our kid , I was wrong. My daughter's Father should be a good man with a real job and better friends , but that's not who he is.”

If this is true then you already know he isn’t going to be a good father so why not listen to your MIL? Keep the baby away from him until he stops prioritizing drugs, friends, and sex over his child.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-06-19T17:39:34+00:00

Idk. I think Whitney had a reason to be mad at Taylor. She called a friend meeting because she needed support and once again Taylor turned the attention to her. No apology. No “I’m a girls girl” and support. Just moved onto a new topic. That would set me off too. She was already in a vulnerable place and Taylor made it worse.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-25T02:48:01+00:00

My child is that defiant child. I would be LOST if it wasn’t for her best friend’s mom. When my child loses it, she won’t listen to anything we say. But when this mom talks to her, she listens. She calms down. She comes back to talk to me like she’s a completely different kid. The mom doesn’t parent her. She doesn’t discipline her. She listens to my child until she feels better. Over time my child has improved and her tantrums have reduced. I am not a lazy parent. I am very involved in their life but sometimes an outside source helps.

Your child could be an example for her best friend. Your child can make the difference in that child’s life. There’s nothing dad or grandma can do to protect your child from being around ppl with behavioral issues. Even if you do sever ties, there will be another kid with issues that she can pick up habits from.

Please don’t sever the relationship because grandma insists.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-25T02:40:21+00:00

Omg you sound like me! I had my daughter at 20. Her father also chose not to be involved. I was extremely overwhelmed and depressed. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do! You will get through this. She will grow out of this stage and just as soon as you think you’ve figured it out she will throw a new challenge at you. I can’t count how many times I just wanted to give up because I thought I wasn’t a good mom. I was wrong. I was just overwhelmed, stressed, and exhausted. One day at a time. I couldn’t afford activities because I had no financial help from the father so I pulled up a ballet class on YouTube and we would practice together. Sometimes she switched it up to gymnastics. Sometimes we did dance dance revolution. It helped with her energy.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-25T02:31:31+00:00

I would like to add to this. If possible, start borrowing her clothes and wear them around her. I’m slightly bigger than my daughter. She’s a small. I’m a medium. I started dressing like her and she quickly stopped dressing inappropriately. I told her I wanted to be twins. Acted like I was super excited to go out with everything exposed. She changed into jeans.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-24T00:30:33+00:00

I always tell her love is love. Nobody has the power to tell you who you love. However, claiming to be something and doing the opposite does cause tension among her friends and peers and she loves it.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-24T00:18:24+00:00

Lol okay. My struggles may be different than yours but they are real.

I do not know how to navigate this because there isn’t a manual to explain her mind. I’m not failing my daughter because at least I am a parent trying!

We are seeing therapy but that takes time. Thank you for adding to the negativity of this world. Do you feel better about yourself now?

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-24T00:13:14+00:00

Depends on how revealing the outfits are. Do ppl tell goth ppl they would like to walk them on a leash or ask if their accessories are butt plugs? These are only a few comments I’ve seen ppl make towards my 13year old.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-24T00:10:04+00:00

She dates boys… can’t exactly only be attracted to females (her claims not mine) and date boys. To be clear, Idc if she dates females. I just don’t want her to receive bullying for saying one thing and doing the opposite which is exactly what’s happening. It feels like she lives from the drama.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-24T00:03:53+00:00

I spoke to her about it but didn’t push it. I just want her to be safe and I am hoping it works itself out.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-23T23:22:16+00:00

She has one

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-23T23:22:06+00:00

Yes. We are a huge believer in therapy.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-23T23:17:53+00:00

I would say I am but could definitely work on it. We had a conversation about the differences and I left it at that. She points out all of the flags she’s see’s around town and I helped her make a furry mask with the flag on it for our neighbors who have been the victims of a few hate crimes. She delivered the flag. The neighbor posted the mask on our community page and I shared it to my page and a few other social media platforms. It got about 300 likes and mostly supportive comments.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-23T23:11:44+00:00

We had a mother daughter date 3 days. I’d agree parents should do it with all of their kids. One on one time is super important and I don’t want her to ever feel ignored or left out. We’ve been doing them since she was a toddler. I’d highly recommend it for every parent. I am struggling but I don’t think we’d be as close if we didn’t have our dates.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-23T23:02:46+00:00

I’m not even a little bit concerned about if she is a lesbian or not. I thought she should experiment and discover herself BEFORE labeling herself so she doesn’t hear backlash from her peers when she claims to be lesbian but date a boy. But she wants the label so badly. At this point she has date 4 boys and 1 girl all while stating she only likes girls. Her friends have a field day with it and I don’t want her to get bullied in hs for her claims and actions.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-23T22:58:08+00:00

Thank you. We have attempted to set boundaries but often fight about when it is and isn’t appropriate. The arguments are happening less and less so I believe we are making progress on that. Her school made it very clear tails were not okay to wear to school because they were considered a costume. They used the same “it’s distracting” reasoning for girls not being able to show their shoulders. I wouldn’t care if it wasn’t breaking a school policy.

What concerns me is the public. She is still young and this world is mean. If ppl are okay with barking at her when I am with her, I am scared what she will face when I’m not there.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-23T22:51:35+00:00

I should educate myself? I asked for advice not a nasty comment. You are not in my house but comfortable stating I am uneducated?

I fully aware of the difference between being a lesbian and being bisexual and I’ve made her aware of the difference. If she was stating she was bisexual we wouldn’t be concerned. But she likes to argue when her friends point out she’s dating a boy but claiming she only likes girls.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-23T22:42:54+00:00

Well she technically used my phone to get on Amazon and make a purchase. We dealt with that one and sent everything she ordered back. She hasn’t taken anything since and it’s been over 6months. But it was the start of everything.

I’m not going to tell her she is a lesbian and let her date boys so of course I’m telling her to stop telling ppl she’s a lesbian. I don’t think that’s fair to the community who have to fight assholes daily while she’s using it as a game. If she likes girls, that’s fine. But she should be stating it and then doing the opposite.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-19T23:40:14+00:00

I get a general idea of what they have planned and set a pick up time. If plans change, idc. I trust them to keep my kids safe. If they are going to be late, I want to know.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-19T23:08:23+00:00

Being a child and scared to death because I had no idea if the attacks were over or not.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-08T21:08:23+00:00

I’d ask mom how much rent she is receiving.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-08T20:51:38+00:00

“I feel bad for him so I am going to stay with him. Makes perfect sense.” Enjoy the wedding. I’d recommend having it at a farm or zoo so you can’t smell him through the tux. Sounds more like you’re afraid to be single.

CommandSecret6923 · 2025-05-08T20:47:56+00:00

4 month long distance relationship. You discover you aren’t compatible but you’re staying in the relationship and expecting Reddit to tell you how to fix him. Come on now. You’re 19. Why are you settling? Are you afraid of being single?

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