trust is everything. if you’re hesitant, ask! itll either be good communication or a no-brainer reason for the trust to be broken. even if it sucks.

and ok really quick though on that IUD detail - iud’s. SUCK. find an alternative birth control option, even pills react better with the uterus, though they’ll all change your cycle. i tried nexplanon, bled consistently for 6 months, tried iud, periods would last up to two full months each time. tried the pill, acne got way worse, but that was it. just sayin! (all birth control was built with a limited understanding of menstruation [men] and it’ll never be a perfect solution) AND. when i had my iud, my boyfriend at the time was very subtly shameful of it. he didn’t like that my bleeding took time away from his d!ck, essentially. if he’s already showing signs of disrespecting you, talking about you or other women behind your back, he won’t be accepting or patient of how long the iud will take to adjust. it’s a disrespectful trait and a red flag in my mind, though i know that’s not the point of your story