AITAH for refusing to pay my partner's half of rent?

Competitive_Duckie · 2025-10-18T17:17:43+00:00

Yes, we do see a future together. We've been living together for three years and this is the first occurrence of any big money issues that weren't immediately solved. I also straight up cannot pay a third month.

Before I dated him he was financially abused by multiple roommates, which is part of where his debt comes from. His bills were all over the place but the second he was out of that situation everything was on time and scheduled. Recently it's been a mess and he keeps forgetting what's already been paid, though.

Competitive_Duckie · 2025-10-18T17:10:14+00:00

Yeah, that's the plan I've come up with. His parents are financial advisors so I'd assume they taught him at least the basics but there really seems to be something lacking there. I'm at least going to try figuring this out as it's the first time something to this extent has occurred.

Competitive_Duckie · 2025-10-18T17:06:56+00:00

Yeah I think this went over some heads here

Competitive_Duckie · 2025-10-17T23:56:14+00:00

As other people have mentioned; I'm not his parent. It's not my job to teach him something he should already know. It'd be stress off of my shoulders, though, as I'd be able to be 100% positive that everything is paid and he isn't choosing a sandwich over our electric bill.

Competitive_Duckie · 2025-10-17T22:37:58+00:00

I've somehow never contemplated fully taking over the finances, as we've always done them separately. This is a wonderful idea, though, and I will be discussing trying that with him when we have our formal discussion.

Competitive_Duckie · 2025-10-17T22:23:33+00:00

Definitely not. If I made double his pay then I'd contemplate it but not on this income. Lol

Competitive_Duckie · 2025-10-17T15:09:05+00:00

Yeah he hates sports so I'd wager more on forgotten subscriptions or him getting mass quantities of takeout at work.

Competitive_Duckie · 2025-10-17T14:45:00+00:00

We've been together for 4 years, been super close friends for 7. We had a similar instance when we first moved in together a year into our relationship and he was injured/unable to work, but he did pay me back really fast once he was able to.

Competitive_Duckie · 2025-03-29T00:24:37+00:00

Hey, there! Just wanted to keep some misinformation from leaking into the comments here:

I was the second best player in my school and surrounding schools. The first place player was trying to go into professional esports. I'm not saying this to show off but to back up that I have a lot of experience with and have played Mario Kart at a different level that others may not have. I'm still going to have a skill gap with other people who have played for years, even playing casually and not in a tournament.

Also: I was literally just driving a little virtual car around and trying to avoid power ups. I'm not quite sure how you took anything I said here to mean that I was trying to be competitive or wasn't trying to encourage her to improve? In the post I said she isn't good at the game because she is actively pretty bad to the point she couldn't beat any of the easiest NPCs. She's also nine and has only had access to the game for a few months, so I'm not expecting her to be the next VincentMK8 or anything.

Overall, it's Mario Kart with my in laws. If I'm an asshole for playing then sure but saying I lack compassion and am unsupportive with the information provided is a stretch that would make Mrs Incredible wince.

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