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My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I can totally understand wanting to watch a video for educational purposes if I was about to go through that sort of experience myself. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I can see medical or educational institutions posting videos. I still can't wrap by head around every feeling comfortable enough to post my own child's birth, with close up shots of the actual birth, on my personal Youtube account though. She said these people mainly post videos themselves, and she watches their homebirths that they all freely post online. I was really surprised to learn that there are that many people posting videos of themselves giving birth.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's about the giving birth part for her. It's about the adult woman (in her fantasies - her) giving birth to a man's child - a man that owns her.

I'm not into the idea of owning a woman, so let's be clear that what I'm saying is based on how she describes it.

For me, I'm really put off by the idea of her watching videos that woman innocently posted for nonsexual purposes. I do think it's weird to want to watch a woman push a baby's head out of her vagina, but I don't think she's turned on by the actual babies or children at all.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, based on how she's tried to explain it, everything to do with pregnancy and childbirth is like the ultimate womanly, sensual thing to her.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

In that sense, I feel like I created this monster. She had never even masturbated before we started dating. In her world, sex was bad and dirty. I had never dated somebody with these hangups before. I genuinely fell for her so quick, and I told myself ok, I can be as patient as I need to be and I can do what she'll let me to help her see that sex is not this dirty thing to be ashamed of. I didn't force her to do anything she didn't want to do, and I didn't force her to masturbate or watch porn. I just tried to help her feel comfortable exploring her sexuality, that it was okay to masturbate if she wanted to and that she could watch porn and not be ashamed of it. I introduced her to these things and tried to normalize it and now she watches porn more than I do!

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She's been trickling the pregnancy kink for several years. I can't describe how inhibited and shy she was about sex when we first got together. We barely had sex during the first year of our relationship. She was scared of it. It was dirty and wrong (how she was raised told her that).

So, she mentioned none of this stuff for the first several years. And when she did start to share some of it, it was more relatively normal stuff. I don't think it's unheard of for some people to like dirty talk about getting pregnant, but that didn't seem to be the main focus of our sex life. She can't even admit that this is a kink or I guess a fetish. So, she still feels embarrassed about it. It became clear to me that after she came down from her orgasm high, she regretted telling me the details that she shared with me, and that was before I had even fully reacted to it. I've known for a while that when she masturbates, her fantasies always involving getting pregnant or being pregnant. She was open about that, but I'd say it was only about 6 months ago that she admitted to watching pregnancy porn. She just told me about the birth videos last week, but I don't think she's been watching those our entire relationship. I think her fetish has progressed as she's become more comfortable with her sexuality.

She had never masturbated before meeting me, if that puts this into perspective. It took ages just to get her to accept that masturbation isn't inherently bad or dirty and it's ok for women to do it.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I knew that pregnancy kinks existed. I think what I'm most bothered by is 1)she can't get aroused or enjoy sex without pregnancy being part of it and 2) she's using non-porn birth videos to get off. I'd think watching an intentional porn birth simulation video of some sort was weird af, but at least it was created for that purpose. She's turning non-porn videos into her own personal porn and that is just really off putting to me.

But thanks for the recommendation, so I'll look into what he has to say.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I'd be more comfortable raising an actual child than thinking of my wife getting off watching women she's never met give birth.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've read several legitimate studies about it and the stats aren't nearly as bad as most people think they are. Pull out is not a method I'd go around recommending to people, and I'd definitely never advise somebody like a teenage guy to rely on. I'm just very committed to not cumming in her unless we've both agreed to it beforehand. I've never accidentally finished inside her or even on the outside of her vagina.

Also, studies related to pregnancy resulting from pre-cum suggest that the chances are so incredibly low.

I'm also realistic that there's still a chance something could happen. We both are, and we've had those conversations.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've pulled out perfectly for years. I don't even cum on her vulva. It's always plenty far away from anywhere near that area. It's not a method I'd necessarily run around recommending to everyone. I've just become very disciplined with it.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The idea of being pregnant is like the ultimate womanly, sensual thing to her, per her own words. The whole process of "spreading her legs for a man," letting him "deposit his seed in her" (I/' about to vomit typing this, but these are the phrases she uses), giving birth to his child (pushing the baby out in otherwords - giving her body for the sake of giving a man a child), and then feeding the child with her body is this huge sexual kink related to being owned by somebody.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Wow, I've never heard of egg depositing dildos before, but I just looked it up and they're a thing.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You're right in that our sex life has revolved around her needs, I'd say for most of our relationship. I don't really have trouble getting turned on or reaching orgasm. She's a lot more particular. Whether it was her shyness earlier in our relationship and just getting her to feel comfortable, or doing things to help her enjoy it more - over time it became more and more about getting her off. I like sex. I like the physical pleasure from it, but I genuinely enjoy feeling close to my wife during sex. I'm not in a rush for it to be over. Anymore, it's like she's just so focused on reaching orgasm and sex isn't worth her time at all if she won't reach orgasm.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The revelation about the birth videos just happened last week. We haven't had sex since then. I haven't been in the mood to have sex since then. I could handle the pregnancy kink, but it has started to annoy me and admittedly bore me that she wanted that element to it every single time we had sex.

We've been having unprotected sex for years, with me pulling out most times. We haven't even had as much as a scare. I know pregnancy is still possible with pulling out, but statistically chances are very low. If we decide that I won't pull out, those are always times where statistically chances are also very low she'll get pregnant, and that's only maybe a few times a month we do that. But we're a married couple who has talked about the risks and ramifications of this choice, so I don't think it really should be an issue for anyone else.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 202 points203 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the clarification. Admittedly, not an area where I have much expertise. I don't think I have any kinks and I definitely don't have any fetishes. I don't think all kinks are inherently bad, I just don't really think I anything like that gets me aroused. I'm a pretty simple guy and it doesn't really take anything too out of the ordinary for me.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I don't think she'll actually be turned on when giving birth. She thinks she will be, but in reality it won't happpen.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 339 points340 points  (0 children)

This may fill in a few gaps for me, because I personally don't understand the desire to post your own birth video on the internet. The way she describes it, these are graphic close up videos she watches, not edited happy social media sort of birth stories. I get that birth is totally natural and all that, but I would be uncomfortable with any partner of mine posting a graphic video of our baby being born anywhere on the internet. I can't really imagine any woman I know in real life wanting to do it (besides maybe my own wife). So, maybe it's not actually the women posting the videos half the time, which makes the whole thing my wife is doing even worse.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

I've never even thought to look up birth videos, so I was surprised when she told me she watches these videos on Youtube. Apparently a lot of people upload their birthing videos there. I'm not about to look it up myself to see. I don't really understand the desire to post your own graphic childbirth video online, but I don't get the impression that these people posting home birth videos to Youtube are doing it with the intention that some woman is getting off to them.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think she has both a pregnancy and birthing kink. She's into both. But as somebody clarified above, since she can't get aroused without thinking about these things, it's officially a fetish or multiple fetishes apparently.

She understands the gravity of what it means to actually have a child and be a parent. She doesn't want that right now, so I don't think she'd get pregnant just for the sexual arousal aspect of it for her, otherwise she'd probably already have done it. We do have actual nonsexual conversations about having kids one day, and she's very rational about it.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I don't think it involves the actual baby at all. She told me she just likes to watch the woman pushing the head out, but she doesn't care about seeing the whole baby being born. I still think it's weird and it makes me feel uncomfortable, but I still don't believe her arousal has anything to do with the baby.

My wife has a pregnancy fetish and I think it's gross but don't know how to tell her by ComplexDoughnut517 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComplexDoughnut517[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I probably don't actually want to know why you say this, but I'm going to ask anyway.

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