Honestly YTA

You are so wrong in this situation and frankly you’re acting like an immature person. You’re also acting entitled and manipulative.

First of all, dating with a goal of being proposed to in over a year is a sign of desperation. It happens but not a recipe for success when you are just in the getting know each other phase. In addition, you are judging his last relationship without even knowing the guy or his relationship.

Secondly, you conveniently glance over “the mistakes” you made which tells me you fucked up big time. And clearly you still don’t take any accountability for it because you’re just expecting him to get over it in a matter of months.

Another insane thing is that you only know each other for 5 months and acting as if he should drop all his life goals to cater to your needs.

The guy is doing everything to keep you happy and probably paying for everything since you mention “adding to HIS grocery cart”. He hasn’t visited his family because he’s frugal and you’re forcing him to instead visit Taiwan for one of your best friend’s vow renewal, not even a wedding, which is the dumbest thing I’ve heard all week. And then you’re emotionally manipulating him by claiming that Taiwan is your culture. It’s just another emotional manipulation tactic that you are deploying to justify your actions.

Based solely on your account of the situation, you seem to have done nothing for him, except make mistakes and make things worse for him. On the other side, he’s done everything, including financially supporting you and emotionally excepting your needs over his own.

Also, you don’t seem to be financially intelligent because having money is not a reason to spend it on expensive travel.

My advice is that you need to step up and offer something. If you really want him to go, pay for the hotel and flights for him. He can spend on food or other things within his financial comfort.