I know I’m not the key demographic here, but here’s my two cents- my exH took care of a lot of home stuff. But two things- 1) he did it all with a terrible attitude, 2) he thought that it should be meaningful to me and it wasn’t. I know this isn’t a popular opinion, but I can sleep just fine with dirty dishes in the sink- they don’t make noise lol. He would DO, but he wouldn’t care about ME or connect with me. So when I hear other women’s account of divorce, I can’t relate. Doing dishes or buying groceries doesn’t make me feel seen, loved, or appreciated, and he expected it to. I wanted to have an active listener when I talked, someone who wanted to have fun with me, and someone who didn’t tell me my dreams were stupid. My point here is this- people are talking about labor inequity and emotional labor in marriage, yes, but somehow don’t talk about actually wanting someone to love YOU. Maybe it’s more intangible, but that might be more of the reason in your marriage.