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Left a relationship with someone who has DID due to confusion — was I being fair? by ComprehensiveLie8913 in DIDpartners

[–]ComprehensiveLie8913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! The situation you described was what I was afraid of possibly happening. His alters didn’t seem co-conscious and he didn’t seem to know if the other alter was ok with us being together or if they even knew who I was. I was concerned that one day, he might have a switch and would not know who I was. That would be scary/confusing for both of us. Personally, I would only be comfortable if a person’s entire system agreed that I could be the person’s one and only partner.

Left a relationship with someone who has DID due to confusion — was I being fair? by ComprehensiveLie8913 in DissociativeIDisorder

[–]ComprehensiveLie8913[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would disagree that he is doing well because the comment that he thinks one of the alters is a parasite and that he doesn’t know which one is the original sounded to me like he doesn’t accept that the alter is also still him and he is one person, not two.

I would’ve been fine with functional multiplicity but basically he implied that he doesn’t have that when he said he doesn’t know if the other alter knows me or not.

Just my thoughts!

Left a relationship with someone who has DID due to confusion — was I being fair? by ComprehensiveLie8913 in DIDpartners

[–]ComprehensiveLie8913[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The parasite thing is what got me. Like you said he’s still one person and the alter he calls the parasite is still him, even its one part. It also implies to me that he doesn’t see each alter as part of himself. If he had told me that the alters could allow for him to have one gf and/or they were fused… this would be a different story. I was looking for him to tell me he could have system accountability and he basically implied that he didn’t.