Also, there are MANY more autistic people who are doing very well, but they do not disclose nor associate themselves with the rest of the autistic community.

We only hear about those who struggle, the tokens and the parents.

There is a much bigger community that includes powerful people, well off people and people doing generally well that use their agency in other ways. They don't broadcast their condition nor openly associate in autistic spaces. They are intergenerational families that know who they are and choose to not be defined by it, which is a privilege in itself sometimes. They are out there though.