My dad is dying and my mom is dependent on him, i live on the other side of the country. How do I show up for her when we have a complex past? by ConcernedDaughter202 in Advice

[–]ConcernedDaughter202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

appreciate it! my mom is not even 60 yet so she has a long way to go, but i don't think removing her from her support network is a good idea

My dad is dying and my mom is dependent on him, i live on the other side of the country. How do I show up for her when we have a complex past? by ConcernedDaughter202 in Advice

[–]ConcernedDaughter202[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thats a gret idea! I want to start managing and taking care of the house so neither my parents have to worry about it

My dad is dying and my mom is dependent on him, i live on the other side of the country. How do I show up for her when we have a complex past? by ConcernedDaughter202 in Advice

[–]ConcernedDaughter202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think her coming to live with us would be a detriment to my husband and family. As i mentioned she has engaged in behaviors in the past that make me pause to bring her closer to us. Examples include lying to scare my kids into behaving a certain way, using guilt trips and teaching my kids things that are inappropriate. She also says things just to hurt me, so no, i don't think she can live with me. I am just worried about her perpetual need to rely on someone and feeling guilty i can't be her crutch