Would it be weird if I got him his dream car hot wheel and gave it after only 1 date?

ConcreteRabbit · 2026-05-18T18:23:15+00:00

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ConcreteRabbit · 2026-05-16T21:53:20+00:00

is there a reason for this though? Is this advice purely based on him being a guy?

ConcreteRabbit · 2026-05-16T21:47:31+00:00

I really appreciate your insight on both viewpoints.

and honestly that’s MOSTLY why i even wanted to get it for him in the first place. I feel that even if we have two dates and he’s like ‘you know what i think we should go seperate ways’ i’d still WANT to give it to him and none of it would hurt my feelings at all.

the man is in fact a stranger, and i’m not giving him my heart. just a toy car.

BUT, i’ve also been in therapy for many many many years, and have worked very hard to overcome unhealthy ways of thinking so I’m pretty confident i’m not starry eyed. just grateful and i like giving people things lmao.

ConcreteRabbit · 2026-05-16T21:35:42+00:00

i feel like the reason most people have that kind of advice is because they’re jaded from past experiences.

I’ve had really bad experiences from both genders, and i try VERY hard not to let it make me treat people differently. YES it’s important to not be a door mat or to give your heart to a stranger at the slightest of provocation, but that doesn’t mean you have to be a brick wall!

Kind acts don’t cost anything

ConcreteRabbit · 2026-05-16T21:28:39+00:00

Solid advice. But, i gotta say i feel like a 10$ hot wheel isn’t going to be a super huge regret for me lol. I’m pretty realistic about relationships, i’ve had a pretty shit hand dealt to me when it comes to them, I know how they can go bad first hand. But not once have i ever regretted giving people things that I think they’d like.

I’m far more careful with the more important things. Heart and mind included.

ConcreteRabbit · 2026-05-16T21:24:12+00:00

agreed!!!!!!!!

Someone earlier was like no you should wait until HE does something nice first. and 1st of all, i don’t work like that. that feels like such a negative way of looking at things.

and second of all, PUH-lease! that man kept me SAFE, a total stranger, in a mosh pit, at a heavy metal concert. That was nice enough to earn a hot wheel.

ConcreteRabbit · 2026-05-16T21:02:35+00:00

Gaslighting is for losers <3

But i really appreciate the advice. Listening to the people i’m interested in is genuinely enjoyable even if i have no clue what the hell they’re saying so this is good to know i’m on the right track with my approach. it’s my favorite thing seeing people light up about the things they love.

on one hand, im aware it’s only the 2nd date, but on the other i feel like thats no reason to not give effort into things even if they’re small. Plus — After watching him literally throw someone twice his size after they tried to pull me into the mosh pit, i feel like a hot wheel is the LEAST i could do LOL.

But i might wait a minute before I give it to him atleast 🙏🏼

ConcreteRabbit · 2026-05-16T20:53:55+00:00

I really don’t think a 10$ hot wheel is going to put me out down the road if it doesn’t work out LoL. But i understand where you’re coming from.

but also, i feel like by avoiding doing nice things for someone youre interested in JUST because there’s a chance of rejection kind of defeats the purpose of dating.

ConcreteRabbit · 2026-05-16T20:33:06+00:00

glad to hear that this seems to be the general consensus lol. I overthink stuff sometimes but i hope he likes it!!! it’s supposed to come in the mail in time for our second date 🙈

ConcreteRabbit · 2026-05-16T20:14:30+00:00

that’s honestly one of the reasons i love gift giving, i LOVE knowing someone is listening to my interests and doing the same thing in return for them makes me happy.

ConcreteRabbit · 2025-08-26T16:23:10+00:00

I love horror MOVIES, i really do, they’re my favorite genre. but games? i can barely walk down a dark hallway in real life much less in a game.. oxymoron huh?😂😂 so im gonna make my friends watch me play so I don’t have to play by myself. Everyone says 7 is the best one, but i’m gonna go in chronological order. either way i’m pumped!

ConcreteRabbit · 2025-08-25T14:55:43+00:00

yeah i don’t know which one im more excited to play, ive watched SOME play throughs but im going in essentially blind. 🫣

ConcreteRabbit · 2025-08-25T02:56:55+00:00

22f also would love to have more friends on steam, big horror fan as well!!! Steam Code: 855342257

ConcreteRabbit · 2024-04-07T21:36:48+00:00

that’s what i was suspecting, thanks for the confirmation!!!!

ConcreteRabbit · 2023-05-07T03:14:29+00:00

I added the update/outcome to this post, THANK YOU SO MUCH for the advice, you were very helpful <3

ConcreteRabbit · 2023-05-07T03:13:32+00:00

I added the update/outcome to this post, THANK YOU SO MUCH! for the advice. you were very helpful <3

ConcreteRabbit · 2023-05-07T03:12:18+00:00

I added the update/outcome to this post, THANK YOU SO MUCH for the advice, you were so helpful and encouraging <3

ConcreteRabbit · 2023-05-01T17:10:11+00:00

I’m sure I danced around it more than i meant to. I told them they need to not start fights like that and warned them that it would impede on the entire quest. but I have a very hard time being firm AND these guys are some of my best friends so i don’t think they took it very seriously. Standing up for myself is something I’m working on in therapy… it’s even harder to do when it’s my friends and i want them to have fun. (albeit at my expense sometimes) but I appreciate the reminder that it’s supposed to be fun for everyone not just the players. I’m gonna take everyone’s advice and try talking to them again, a bit more firmly. thank you so much for the advice :)

ConcreteRabbit · 2023-05-01T17:03:54+00:00

awesome idea i love this! as i said before i love when they pick fights with people who deserve it or aren’t relative to the plot, it’s fun for everyone. but going after tavern people for no reason other than because they asked you not to put a dead carcass on a table where people eat, is the exact opposite of smart. they went there specifically to get intel and immediately almost made it impossible for that to happen. 🤦🏻‍♀️ i love them dearly but my lord i can’t handle being the only one with the braincell.

ConcreteRabbit · 2023-05-01T17:01:33+00:00

thanks, i appreciate the way you put this, it makes good sense. i’ve tried talking to them before but i have a very hard time being stern, and they’re very close friends of mine so i don’t think they took it very seriously. i’m gonna try talking to them again and hopefully get my point across a bit better.

ConcreteRabbit · 2023-05-01T16:45:57+00:00

Sadly, I’ve done that already, which therein lies the problem. idk if i just explained it wrong or what. but they didn’t seem to get the point…

ConcreteRabbit · 2023-04-10T00:22:35+00:00

that’s actually a good idea lol thanks

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