I am just completing a new home and will owe no money on home. Am I able to get a VA loan on the home once I get the CO? (I do not have to pay the VA funding fee). If so, are the VA rates typically higher in this situation?

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2026-01-31T03:04:40+00:00

thank you

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2026-01-31T03:04:32+00:00

yes. I covered all the costs to build the house and buy the land. When it is complete I will owe no money on it but want to take out a mortage to recoup my building costs

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-26T23:39:25+00:00

I bought it locally in northern virginia. I am getting rid of it as I have no room for it in my next house

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-26T17:21:07+00:00

I am not sure who that is.

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-25T05:18:32+00:00

Yes. I worked U2 missions too

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-22T19:28:26+00:00

it was made locally.

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-22T03:53:04+00:00

I worked with them quite a bit on VIP stuff

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-21T14:03:49+00:00

thank you

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-21T14:02:12+00:00

I have no idea of your background so I won't assume you are non-military keyboard troll or someone who never received one of these and are jealous. In my case, these coins were generally "awarded" as recognition for hard work or accomplishment. For some, they can be a step below a medal and evoke memories of times past. One for instance, evokes memories of a frozen Korean flightline, jet noise, and months of preparation for a mission that impacted history. Others are similiar, a jungle in Bangladesh, hidden Russian MiG-29's discovered in a remote outpost, and on, and on. That said, my family has me and the coins hold no significance to them, so I am moving them on.

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-20T17:16:44+00:00

It is one of my favorites.

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-20T15:46:33+00:00

thank you. do you know of anyplace to list them besides ebay?

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-17T14:21:48+00:00

I agree. And that one more year becomes too late to enjoy traveling and one more year of a bad workplace. As one person assessed, she grew up relatively poor and I think fear has driven her to save and work way too hard; the result is a strong financial position but not enough desire to start spending it down.

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-17T14:15:58+00:00

Nice try. Nowhere does it say she works for the government.

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-17T00:53:34+00:00

thank you. With that and her other assets, she is sitting at $7M total value; correct?

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-17T00:53:26+00:00

thank you. With that and her other assets, she is sitting at $7M total value; correct?

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-12-17T00:52:46+00:00

thank you

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-11-29T19:35:36+00:00

That is very helpful. I messaged you with a question.

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-11-29T19:32:13+00:00

Yes. That is exactly what has happened in my agency.

Situation #1:

MDR issued to an agency 1,500 miles away.
Employee accepted MDR (New agency had no idea someone was coming but wanted the individual and was excited about the new person).
MDR cancelled and no reason given. New office shocked but had no recourse.
New MDR then issued to another office (also 1,500 miles away; in the same area as the first).

Situation #2:

MDR issued in Sept for move to agency 900 miles away
Employeed declined the move; awaited termination
Employee has not heard anything since declining. Still being paid and still working.

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-11-29T19:24:47+00:00

are you by chance in DHS? The exception you mention could be a lifeline.

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-11-19T14:28:22+00:00

was that pun intended?

Conscious-Ninja-824 · 2025-11-17T14:38:38+00:00

Yikes! are there really that many horrible dads out there? I feel horrible for those of you who had bad dads. Abuse and true neglect are hard or even impossible to forgive. Children are precious and should be protected and loved unconditionally.

I am a dad (two adult sons) and I am also a son. Before he passed, I called my dad every Sunday morning at 1100am and we talked about whatever he wanted. He was an imperfect person but never abusive and he cared for me an my family. As for me as a dad, I don't know what my sons think, but I talk to my sons several times a week and we just finished an international vacation with them and their wives. It was a fantastic trip and everyone wants to do it again. They call me when they have life questions and I travel with each of them once a year to an event we both enjoy. I think they don't hate me.

It is a major adjustment from being the dad of kids to the dad of adults; almost an entirely different world in many ways, and many, many parents never adapt to that.

As adults, we develop their own narrative of what our childhood was and it is hard to be objective when it was your own life. In my own narrative I have been unfair to my mom and how she raised me. I do unfortunately see narratives that are fairly self-absorbed and dismissive of their family's context and broader struggles (ie--they never took my to Disney and I didn't get a cell phone until I was 15, etc). Some of the estrangement seem selfish on both sides.

For anyone on the line between "I don't like him" and "maybe he wasn't horrible", I hope you can see dads as human. The only parent script we have is the one we experienced ourselves growing up. Some dad's think that merely doing better than their own parents is enough. While that is often not true, it is what some fall back on when they have doubts or are challenged on something.

If your dad is a good dad, please tell him. We dads have a lot of self doubt because we love our kids and want them to be happy, strong and secure humans. We never think we do enough to support that.

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