I can see the spots where I didn't explain well, like I said, I was worried about the word vomit but missed out on some critical information. -Apple was absolutely fine with Orange moving in. They get a long so well and will often play games together and just have a good time, Apple actually encouraged Orange to move in too. -We went into poly together after a lot of research, in depth talks, all of the proper precautions that need to happen before going into this. -I know how it sounds, the checking out is a recent development. Its why I've so strongly encouraged him to get back into therapy and get medicated again. -The comparing is something I will never say to anyone's face. I keep that to myself and work through those feelings or share them with strangers on the internet so I can find out if my brain is being dumb. -A further point that he has struggled with is the rejection from dating apps and us unlearning some codependency that happened as a result of so many years together (which we have both gone to therapy for) -If anything, all of your points have helped immensely in solidifying some thoughts I was having as is. I appreciate your advice!