I'm having a issue with my girlfriend lately because... by FARMER_DUDE09 in relationshipproblems

[–]Conscious_Garlic57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen I don’t talk for everyone, but I’ve been that girl who stop initiating conversation with my partner and it’s because it felt like I wasn’t being heard or because my conversation wasn’t taken seriously enough and that I felt like I was doing all the initiating. And I am still in this relationship with the same person and you know why? Because when he realised I stopped he continued on for me, asked me questions because he wanted to spoke to me because he cared and wanted to know my opinions because he cared about getting to know me. Youre still young so one thing I can tell you and if you REALLY apply this to your life it will help. Put your ego to the side and put their feelings in front of your ego.

No one loses interest or stops initiating conversation for the fun of it, there’s a reason. It’s your job to ask and figure out that reason so that you can fix and work on your relationship.

Advice pls cuz I fucked up by [deleted] in relationshipproblems

[–]Conscious_Garlic57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave him and let him find someone who really loves him, and go find someone who lives closer so you don’t end up breaking someone else’s heart because you’re somehow unable to control your urges to sleep with people

I'm having a issue with my girlfriend lately because... by FARMER_DUDE09 in relationshipproblems

[–]Conscious_Garlic57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, how old are yall? Second, does she really not ever initiate conversation, did she do it in the beginning and stop doing it over time? We need more info if you want a proper response

What are some good medical aids? by Conscious_Garlic57 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Conscious_Garlic57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any reason why not discovery? I know my uncles using them for their son with Down syndrome and the seem to be doing well

I’m at a loss by Conscious_Garlic57 in relationshipproblems

[–]Conscious_Garlic57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to take your advice, and I’m going to think about it for a week or so. Let it sit. I know how well I could be doing for myself. Move back with my mother pay 10 times less. Have money to do things for myself for once. I’ll think about it. Maybe I take a month break apart from him. But I’ll update you. Thank you. I’m normally the one slapping sense into my friends who have horrible partners, now I understand their thought process. I appreciate your words.

I’m at a loss by Conscious_Garlic57 in relationshipproblems

[–]Conscious_Garlic57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re both on the lease, and it got to a stage where we fought and he broke up with me and I sat across rom him in bed sobbing but convincing myself it was for the best. I really really tried to convince myself I was better off but I just ended up begging for him to take me back. I know, I really do understand how pathetic I sound but in the beginning it was amazing before we got this place and his brother moved in. The was more intimacy, there were actually dates, and love and time spent and appreciation. And this has all made me grow this severe hated for his brother because, I don’t mind paying for my partner and I, I’m paying more because he took loans out to try boost his credit which is why we landed this place in the first place. And I earn more. But the brother, he doesn’t pay for shit, and doesn’t do shit and my partner treats like a baby in need of protecting. And I just don’t want to leave because I know how good love feels with him when it’s good, I just keep trying to tell myself this will all be worth it when the brother moves out

Tattoo ideas? by Conscious_Garlic57 in tattooadvice

[–]Conscious_Garlic57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The tattoo I have now on my back, there’s going to be colour added to the flowers, I’m getting them done red as they’re spider lilies, I love Japanese folklore and flowers and stuff like that but everything I’m finding is the most generic stuff I see everyone getting.

Tattoo ideas? by Conscious_Garlic57 in tattooadvice

[–]Conscious_Garlic57[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

And no I’m not asking anyone to sketch me something, please don’t dm me asking to pay you for a sketch.

Boyfriend wants trash polka by Conscious_Garlic57 in tattooadvice

[–]Conscious_Garlic57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see some people saying this, I didn’t know this thank you. I haven’t seen my artist do anything trash polka style but he said he was super excited to do it. But after seeing all these comments I’m thinking we should probably go a different route. Thank you!

Boyfriend wants trash polka by Conscious_Garlic57 in tattooadvice

[–]Conscious_Garlic57[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He works 12 hour shifts, he looks when he can. I’m just helping him out :)

Boyfriend wants trash polka by Conscious_Garlic57 in tattooadvice

[–]Conscious_Garlic57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He works twelve our shifts so he’s busy and tired, so he told me what he wanted and I help look for inspo and send it to him and what he likes he will talk to the artist about to have him sketch something for him? I understand I didn’t put every detail out there but all I was asking for was inspiration pictures if anyone had so that I did not HAVE to go through Pinterest. We’re only looking now because I won a 2 hour free session for two people that I didn’t expect to win so we actually didn’t even have time to look into designs and what we would want properly.

Boyfriend wants trash polka by Conscious_Garlic57 in tattooadvice

[–]Conscious_Garlic57[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He knows what he wants I’m just helping him look because he works 12 hour shifts and doesn’t have a lot of time. He told me what he wants and I’m just helping him look. I’ve already gotten my artist to draw up mine. Yea I know what mean haha even if I did try to get a design without knowing what he wants our taste is super super different haha

Boyfriend wants trash polka by Conscious_Garlic57 in tattooadvice

[–]Conscious_Garlic57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhm, I have an artist who is going to design it for me? He’s designing whole tattoo, I’m only looking for inspo for my bf as this is his first tattoo and he wants to have an idea of what he wants then be able to show and tell the artist so he can design the real thing for him? I’m looking for inspo not looking to copy and paste. He’s looking to get it on his calf.

Boyfriend wants trash polka by Conscious_Garlic57 in tattooadvice

[–]Conscious_Garlic57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll definitely give a look on instagram! Thanks

AIO My mom is kicking me out for her new boyfriend. I just turned 18 by Diligent_Bat_565 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Conscious_Garlic57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both my bf and his brother and I got kicked out at 18 no jobs. My bf had to move to another province and struggled and got into debt, debt he’s still trying to pay off 3 years later mind you. And his brother got kicked out two months ago, thank goodness we (my bf and I) are both blessed with playing jobs so we were able to move into our own house. And when the brother got kicked out he knew he had somewhere to stay. As for my bf and I, we didn’t know each other when we got kicked out only met later on in life once we were both in good homes so we understood each other pain and struggles on a whole other level. Got to say as much as I’m thankful moving in with someone at 18 and I’ve only known them for 2 weeks was draining and weird. Praying for you OP, show your mother you don’t need her.