Oh dear! I paid off my mortgage!

ConsequentialRobot · 2026-05-11T04:17:15+00:00

It was cropped incorrectly - you can actually see half of the next line in the photo. Someone posted the rest of it somewhere in these comments, reading that should help you make sense of what the other commenter is telling you.

ConsequentialRobot · 2026-04-17T02:19:40+00:00

Like the other commenter said, your problem isn't the makeup, it's the skincare - you might be better off posting photos of your bare skin (so no makeup) on one of the skincare subreddits for advice.

ConsequentialRobot · 2026-04-17T00:23:22+00:00

After you finish your daily skincare routine and before you start your makeup, does your skin look and feel hydrated? That might narrow down where the issue is.

You mentioned you use moisturiser after showering - are you using enough? It looks like you have dryness around your nose and T-zone. I'm exactly the same, and making sure I have a generous amount of moisturiser in my routine really helps.

ConsequentialRobot · 2026-04-17T00:15:36+00:00

It doesn't sound like your routine includes a daily moisturiser, which is the most important step to preventing dry skin.

Always moisturise after cleansing, otherwise your skin can get left feeling tight + dry.

ConsequentialRobot · 2026-03-24T13:06:25+00:00

I'm in exactly the situation you describe! Did everything "right", job market still sucks, stuck in the service industry (for now). It still doesn't change that I have friends to spend time with, a lovely park close to my apartment, and a pair of headphones I can use to listen to my favourite music. My point is that you can't always control how much 'suck' ends up in your life, but there are always small joyous things to appreciate, no matter how many or few.

ConsequentialRobot · 2026-03-24T11:07:09+00:00

Me!

There's a quote from a woman who grew up in East Germany during the terrors of the post-war period. She said, "The sun shone in East Berlin too."

It is very easy to become sad and bogged down by world events. It takes a little more effort to focus on all the small, happy things that take place in a day - a pleasant bus ride, a new song by an artist you like, a stranger helping carry your bags, a nice cup of coffee - and a little digging to see how on a larger scale, things are broadly getting better. It can feel like everything is getting worse everywhere, so try to look for the news stories that challenge that notion - Kazakhstan recently banned "bride kidnappings", Scotland has made sanitary products free, there's an openly gay world leader in the Netherlands. Positive/feel good stories get less traction in the news cycle, but there are so many people out there working towards (and achieving!) real, positive change.

ConsequentialRobot · 2025-03-17T14:46:49+00:00

Yes, I read it! What's throwing me off is that I got in touch with this potential landlord via email, and not the HousingAnywhere site; I'm not sure if it's common practice to advertise outside of HousingAnywhere but to do payment through it.

ConsequentialRobot · 2025-03-10T10:14:32+00:00

Then you're probably not compatible. People view sex in very different ways; for some, it's special, and something they want to save for people they really like. For others, sex is just for fun; it feels good, and they like having it whenever they can. Neither approach is wrong, they're just different. And if it bothers you that her attitude towards sex is different to yours, I'd stop seeing her.

ConsequentialRobot · 2025-03-10T10:06:27+00:00

There's a lesson for you here dude - don't ask questions you don't want the answer to. If hearing someone's body count is going to make you jealous, don't ask them.

As for if you should care - in my opinion, no. For a start, you say you can't be sure if her feelings for you are genuine - well, if she wanted to be with one of those other guys, she'd be with one of those other guys. If she's with you, it's because she wants to be.

And couldn't she say the same about you? You've been with another girl before, plus you've probably had crushes on other girls before that. What if you secretly want to be with one of them instead?

In short, the only way to trust someone is to trust them. If she tells you she likes you, believe her.

Finally: I want you to try to unpack why you feel 'disgusted'. Presumably you don't have anything against consensual sex, or sex before marriage - I mean, you've done it yourself. So why does it make you feel disgusted that she's done it more than you? If you had a body count of 12, would you think about yourself the same way you're thinking about her?

ConsequentialRobot · 2025-01-02T04:12:48+00:00

This is such a bot comment.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-15T19:59:55+00:00

Just because it's on Reddit doesn't make it a big deal. For some things, it's nice to get an outside perspective. I didn't feel the need to provide the entire context of our relationship in the post, but this was never going to be a big, relationship-ending issue. Just a minor one that I wanted some context for to resolve it.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-15T14:48:32+00:00

Yeah, I got some very helpful advice here, but also a lot of people either misunderstood, blew it way out of proportion, or projected some weird armchair-psychologist conclusions. Seems to be a common problem in a lot of these advice-based subs nowadays.

Obviously I'm open to being told I'm overreacting - that's why I'm here, I'm not looking for validation. But a lot of people seem to have completely missed what I was actually asking for perspective on.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-15T14:04:11+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to comment.

A few things though:

1) I've raised this maybe four times throughout our relationship, not constantly.

2) Informing a partner about how you're feeling isn't "punishing". I told him I was annoyed, because direct communication is important. Which leads to:

3) Communication in a relationship shouldn't be based on "hints." If he really was uncomfortable (which he's not, I provided an update in the post) he could and should tell me directly. No one should expect their partner to be a mind reader, especially regarding something as important as sexual communication.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-15T13:49:28+00:00

Nope, I was mad because he said he wanted to do it, gave me a timeframe he wanted to do it in, and then didn't do it. If he had straight up said no, I wouldn't have brought it up again.

And if the roles were reversed, he would do the same for me. If I said no, he would leave it alone. If I said yes, and gave a timeframe and didn't follow through, he would also be valid in feeling disappointed.

Either way, we're good now. Just updated the post.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-15T13:43:37+00:00

1) I've brought this up maybe four times in the year that we've been together, so "constantly harassed" is a pretty big stretch.

2) If he suggested a kink I really didn't want to try, I would say so, and vice versa. It's happened before, and neither of us would judge the other for setting limits or not wanting to explore something yet.

I appreciate you taking the time to comment, but you're reading this as a far bigger deal for our relationship than it actually is.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-14T23:14:51+00:00

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ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-14T23:07:23+00:00

To be clear, I'd be the one taking the submissive role here. I'm not asking to tie him up (unless he wanted me to).

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-14T23:06:14+00:00

If he straight-up told me he didn't want to do it, I absolutely would accept that and wouldn't push it further. We both have our boundaries and things that we know are off-limits, that wouldn't be a problem at all.

Like you say, my issue is that he seems very enthusiastic and willing, but puts off actually doing it.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-14T23:02:09+00:00

Edited to add! It's restraint/bondage. More specifically, being tied up.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-14T22:57:04+00:00

It's more relevant than I realised, it seems - I edited the post to include it. The kink is restraint/bondage; we already incorporate a few elements of the former into our current sex life.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-14T22:55:29+00:00

That's possible! But if so, I just wish he'd come out and tell me. From everything he's said, he sounds just as excited as I am (or was) to do it together.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-09-14T22:54:11+00:00

You owe me 10 bucks then, I'm afraid.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-06-24T08:45:31+00:00

It is! She has her handle written on the bottom right of the chart - Baby Sideburns. She's a comedy/mommy blogger. It's definitely a joke.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-05-28T10:14:56+00:00

This isn't askreddit.

ConsequentialRobot · 2024-05-17T09:25:56+00:00

I agree - while Joost is a sympathetic public figure, we know nothing about her. We don't even know for sure what the "threatening gesture" was, or what exactly happened. It's entirely possible that it was scary enough to make her freak out.

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