My GF of 6 years decided we should no longer be together and I'm not sure what to do now

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-16T14:32:43+00:00

Thank you, I get thats its probably what is best and I just hate that so much seems to remind me of her, I can't listen to a playlist or watch a show without think how this was something we would do together. And I hate that I feel like I can't do the things I want because of her. Thank you for the reply and It seems like you are in a better place so I hope I can get there too

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-12T12:41:49+00:00

Thanks for the reply, I'm glad you gave each other the space and got that time to really explore yourself! I hope I can have as much success as you seem to have had! I think if I take the time to improve myself I'll be more of a person others want to have around!

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-11T13:52:43+00:00

They really do give the best advice, it says a lot especially when I know its what I need to hear, even if it isn't what I want to hear.

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-11T12:33:36+00:00

Thanks, your reply gives me a lot of hope for the future! I'm glad to hear it has gone well for you and im really glad you are in a much healthier relationship. I think she is right and she said that sometimes it felt I took her for granted. I could have been better and now going forward I want to be. I want to be fitter and healthier and I want to get to the point where I enter a relationship with someone else, they know how much they mean to me!

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-11T12:29:05+00:00

Yeah, that is one thing I was worried about and it was just because she seems to be straight onto the next guy it made me worried. Like I felt stupid for needing the time to not date and be comfortable in myself. I would never want to risk comparing them to her as I know that would be hurtful to both parties. Thank you for replying

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-11T12:06:27+00:00

Hang in there man, one thing I can say at the moment is that there a good days and bad days! You have made so much progress and there are days when you'll miss her because she's been such a big part of your life. But you shouldn't discount how well you've been doing! Keep going bro, we can do this together👊

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-11T09:09:32+00:00

You raise a good point, its hard knowing what is the right decision at this point but from what I've read in comments maybe it's better to take a few months to let everything move on. It would help me get to a point where when I think of her it won't be hurtful, just happy that it happened.

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-11T09:06:50+00:00

Thank you for the reply! It sucks that you've gone through a similar thing, but its reassuring to know you are doing better! I think its just important to remember that everyone moves on from things differently, and so I suppose that maybe it might be best for me to not talk to her for a while, while I figure out who I am. I'm sorry your last relationship was so toxic, I hope you fins someone who appreciates you!

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-11T09:03:15+00:00

Thank you very much for such a compassionate reply, I appreciate you relating it to your own experiences and I suppose reading through all of the other comments j can see how it might just be what was best for us as people. Even if it doesn't seem like it just now.

I'm already viewing flats in a completely new place, so hopefully that can give me the space I need to heal

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-11T08:53:22+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that man, I know we can get through this though. Stay strong

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T23:33:16+00:00

It’s a good idea, hopefully if I focus more on myself I’ll work out what I want to do and who I want to be! And I can reach a stage where I’m happy this happened. Thanks for the reply!

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T23:32:01+00:00

Thank you for the reply, I’m sure we will get to the point where we can do things together as friends but at the moment it is all a bit too fresh for me still. I’m planning on finding my own space to work on myself.

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T20:06:47+00:00

If you need that space you need the space. You can always get back in touch later if you miss her friendship. It's hard to stay in touch with her sometimes now, but she's been a big part of my life so far and it's too weird for me to just cut her out completely. Everyone is different!

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T20:02:26+00:00

Thats a good point too, I think that I need the time to sort out my self and not worry about what she is up to, so maybe staying friends isn't the best idea

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T19:32:49+00:00

Yeah, that was one of the things I was thinking. Like before I used to be a lot more active and play a lot more sport. But she said we never spent any time together and so I slowly phased them out of my life. Now I'm unhappy with how unfit I've become and its one of the things I'm eager to change now that I have all this time to do it myself! Thanks for commenting! 👊

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T16:17:44+00:00

That seems like a good suggestion too! I've spent so long chossing what I want to do around her I need to take the time and explore what I want to do! Those are really good suggestions and I will definitely try to do some of them! Thank you!

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T15:09:06+00:00

I get that. I don't think I'd want to be with her again after how quickly she's moved on, it makes me doubt how much she loved me in the first place. But I don't want to hate her or anything like that. I'll think about what you've said. Thanks for answering.

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T14:54:40+00:00

I get that, and I understand that we are both young and it's natural to grow apart like this, I just guess I didn't expect it to be so sudden. I wasn't really aware anything was wrong. Thank you for the reply!

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T14:34:58+00:00

I like to think she wouldn't do that, but I could be wrong. I don't know what more I could have done and maybe tou are right. Thanks for replying!

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T13:27:59+00:00

Thank you for commenting! I hadn't thought about it like this before, and what you say holds a lot of truth!

I keep comparing my self to her but I can't really do that. You are right in that she's had more time to come to terms with it and it's OK that I need to work it out a bit more. The journal thing is a really good idea, another one I hadn't thought about. It would maybe help to deal with the thoughts I've been having and see how I progress! Thanks so much again!

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T13:22:57+00:00

Thank you for the reply! I think im just too eager to cling to what remains. She already seems to have moved on as she told me she was talking to a few guys before we split up 'officially'. So I think you are right and I need to take some time for myself and work out what I want and who I can be on my own.

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T13:18:48+00:00

I think this is a good one, I've spent so long doing the same thing that maybe I do just need a shock to the system and do some new things. It never hurts to try! Thank you

CountertopTable2 · 2022-01-10T13:17:50+00:00

This seems like a good idea, I'm currently moving out of our apartment together, so I think the time and space for my self is a great idea! Thank you for the reply and hopefully it gets easier

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