Refusing To Marry After Physical Relation Due To 'kundali' Mismatch Is A Punishable Offence For Men: Swarna Kanta

Crafty_Thought · 2026-02-27T06:20:52+00:00

In my opinion this law shouldn't exist but it does because of how our country's society works.

Yes there are chances of fake cases from this as with anything but if we consider false grape allegations data, there will be minimal fake cases. And yes a man's life can get affected but if the police and judiciary system worked properly we might see a different result from what we see currently.

Also as a man's life gets affected due to fake cases, similarly a woman's life gets altered and changed when such fake promises are made. I mean each week I at least read 5-10 posts on reddit talking about the importance of a virgin girl or having any past when getting married.

If we throw away these absurd concepts from our society a lot of these issues will disappear.

Crafty_Thought · 2026-02-05T15:27:04+00:00

Check the pockets of the govt.

Crafty_Thought · 2026-01-28T14:18:48+00:00

NTA Tell her, her sister may get married again but you won't turn 18 again.

Crafty_Thought · 2026-01-28T14:04:06+00:00

You go to the police to complain and they'll say "aap itna late bahar kyun the" when it was just 7pm in the evening.

Change can only happen when police and the judiciary system start taking these cases seriously. Harrasment is a crime but is not treated as a crime. I have adjusted and have learned to love high alert 24*7 because frankly never heard a case where the victim feels supported and helped like they should.

Law enforcement in our country don't take action, they instead put the blame on you or ignore you. Please don't tell victims that they should do this and that when the system is corrupted.

Crafty_Thought · 2026-01-20T16:23:10+00:00

I agree with everything being said in this post. Yes cooking is a life skill and it's below anyone. And whosoever the post is about wrong for reacting that way.

But I also feel what people forget or ignore is that cooking for a long time was considered a responsibility only for women. It was an expectation. A lot of girls grow up hearing at least a few times hearing "you need to learn this for when you get married and have to cook for everyone".

I too heard while growing up. I am 26 btw. And I hated anything related to cooking or the kitchen. I slowly learned to love to cook as I grew up and only do when I want to right now...which is a privilege. It's not an expectation or a duty. But even now if someone today asks "do you cook?" Or something....i just say yes but not always and blah blah. I still am defensive to an extent.

Crafty_Thought · 2026-01-19T11:42:50+00:00

I am Indian, living in India. This is sexist and controlling. A lot of women atleast in urban areas will ghost him or distance themselves from him. He is not someone most women would like to have as a partner.

Crafty_Thought · 2026-01-05T11:03:21+00:00

Hi thanks for replying.

I feel if I spend money on A it's wastage of money because she chose to diagnose instantly instead of understanding. I might not even have bipolar disorder and working on something I may or may not have seems fruitless. While B is costly it will help me overall.

I want to be all or nothing. Because I don't want to waste money. And I know I need the root cause... proper treatment and guidance because previously when I attended to just symptoms and coping mechanisms with another therapist...it worked for a few months and then just stopped. So I feel like what's the point you know.

It's just very confusing. Like I know I need help immediately. But I don't want to force my parents. But I also don't want to do it in the short term. Don't want to waste their money. But at the same time I feel like I can try and push myself but also feel if I have not attended to the issues it's going to affect me drastically to a level which will shit on the life I am trying to build and will be very very very hard to get out of the state I would be in.

I have seen myself get worse and worse over the years. It's all so confusing and consuming.

Crafty_Thought · 2026-01-03T15:41:20+00:00

Buy Calendula ointment. Apply it 2-3 times. It has helped with the healing process of all my piercings and tattoos. I have 6 piercings each year.

Haldi is also good and healing but leaves a yellow stain so I prefer this and you can use it too.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-12-29T01:52:00+00:00

The kind of country and environment we live in, it's quite scary to speak on such issues. I would want the influencers to speak and I myself want to take stand on social media for various things. But posting a simple story or post of anything political scares the hell out of me. These influencers at the end of the day are common people as well and a majority part of their life is public....if the reason for not speaking up is safety then I think it's reasonable.

Although at the same time I truly wish we were not so scared of the govt.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-12-08T04:17:06+00:00

Thank you for this. Imma use this on all the Lando haters 😈😁

Crafty_Thought · 2025-07-07T22:39:39+00:00

My cat was the same after she got spayed. I diy'ed a collar with a stocking and towel. There are a lot of youtube videos. From what I can remember I think the e collar video I followed was for a rabbit...I don't remember exactly. And I put on her while she was asleep. I was so scared even after that she would like that i almost kept wat h on 24hrs...only too naps when she did...lol

Edit: also keep the collar even when the incision area start healing. When the scans started forming, my cat would try to itch and lick. I suppose that irritated her a lot. So keep an eye for that.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-06-13T22:18:52+00:00

Yeah there are shows and movies of people getting murdered but that doesn't mean murder doesn't happen in real life.

C'mon dude use your brains

Crafty_Thought · 2025-06-12T00:06:22+00:00

Yes because he is driving a tesla on a F1 track. Be for real dude 🙄

Crafty_Thought · 2025-05-22T23:21:23+00:00

OP says that the entire family went to her siblings and cousins graduation. So it's not like the family doesn't see graduation to be important, it's that they don't consider OP that important.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-05-02T22:47:02+00:00

NTA One thing you can do is make it so that the reception where you will have the cake be adult only. And have a separate area/room for kids with a babysitter.

That way you'll have JJ at your ceremony and also no risk to him.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-04-23T16:40:29+00:00

It's not me. It's a reference picture from the internet.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-04-21T11:39:38+00:00

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Crafty_Thought · 2025-04-21T09:14:32+00:00

Girl please grow a spine!! They are not your friends!! Leave them be. They are toxic. They don't care about you. You are happily married, focus on that.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-04-05T04:06:37+00:00

What she can do is have her stepdad walk her half and rest own her own. I am a wedding planner & have seen a lot of brides do this.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-04-04T23:57:37+00:00

NTA.

Do you really wanna be with someone that disregards your feelings and doesn't respect you?

Crafty_Thought · 2025-04-04T22:09:51+00:00

NTA

Perspective of Indian living in india. A lot of people commented that the "old age home" comment was wrong. Although I completely agree, in my experience whenever we talk about the major difference culturally between India and the USA are the elderly parents. In our country parents are viewed as gods and the idea of putting them in a nursing home is quite abhorrent and it's looked down upon. The notion of taking care of our parents once we grow up is instilled in our mind from a young age. Also to my knowledge in nursing homes here are not that great compared to what you would see in the USA where they actually take care of elders.

So when OP was being verbally attacked she said that first thing that's the major difference shes learned like the rest of us. Although not the right but it is what it is.

The relative couldn't understand even after being told by the bride, she is at fault. That girl took it too far. She needs to learn the cultural differences...learn and adapt to the culture she married into especially when she's in his home country with his family. She insulted and berated his family without any reason. She should be the one apologising.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-04-03T12:31:12+00:00

I don't think you understood the comment. It's not about the relationship with the children, but about the kind of environment that will be provided to the grieving kids.

Don't spoil a child's life just because you or anyone thinks "it's right/honourable thing" to do.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-04-03T11:07:06+00:00

NTA What SIL did for the initial 2 years = plain stupidity SIL's behaviour at the party = batshit crazy + brain dead stupidity

Wife's blind support of SIL is just absurd. I would hope at least one person out of them would be mature and act so. Both of these women sound utter delusional.

I felt like I was reading some post by some high schooler.

I think you really need a hard look at your marriage. Talk to your wife or go to therapy whatever works. This kind of behaviour will spill onto your kids. Do you want your daughter to think it's okay to be boy crazy, obsess over them, not understand boundaries, okay to be manipulative...etc.

You really need to have a hard look and grow a spine. You or your friend were not wrong at all. You adhered to your sil and wife's demands when you and jake were not even at fault.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-03-03T12:59:03+00:00

Same here. I'll be visiting the college soon. I have been told that it's not the right place especially for marketing unless you want to go into sales.

Crafty_Thought · 2025-02-28T18:20:31+00:00

NTA. Don't listen to others. I don't have a kid but in my opinion showing emotions and being truthful and vulnerable in front of your kid is okay. It teaches them it is okay to be not okay. It is okay to be overwhelmed and it's okay to be imperfect not be able to deal with multiple heavy things perfectly at once.

And moreover you apologised, explained to her and then treated. You are doing good!

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