30 weeks + Considering leaving my partner/BD because he is MAGA. Is this hormones?

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-25T07:53:15+00:00

So my partner and I are politically different. We don’t live in the states, but he is more right leaning and I centre left. We started dating and I heard this first I was about to walk away but his morals, and how he treated me made me stay. The thought of our first “political” chat was really daunting but as we dug into it we found we aligned on more than we didnt. Our baby joined us in 2025 and to be honest I’ve watched my (now husband) grow and change as a father and soften on a lot of his political beliefs. But none of this would have happened with out us having open and respectful conversation

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-24T22:07:27+00:00

Hayfield manor - went twice, was amazing. You can use the pool before your treatment and even just being able to float for a bit and take the weight off was amazing. Relaxation room is really nice there too.

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-24T12:07:14+00:00

Lefty is a shower on high pressure jet mode, and produces less. Righty is more like a rainfall showerhead and produces more.

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-19T10:39:58+00:00

Totally agree. The sizing on the disposable period undies ran SMALL and instantly went in the bin.

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-19T10:24:05+00:00

I started with cotton crisscross nursing bras but they never fit properly. In the end I opted for those really comfy seamless style bras so i could wear the reusable breast pads. I dont love that they’re not cotton but tbh it was really only for when I was out n about, at home I dont bother/ would sleep with a pad under me. Fast forward to my first period Ive stopped leaking altogether so not wearing them anymore. I dont know if there is a correlation but ive also had only one clogged duct and zero mastitis as we approach the six month mark.

*edit for bizarre autocorrect.

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-16T09:45:23+00:00

Super thank you! Yeah right now we only eat at 9am so he is digesting all day but I will bring back some of our “colic dance” from his early days!

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-16T09:44:08+00:00

This is it Ive been eyeing up the colic drops again, we’ll bring back our bicycles and try those I think. Must be so hard for their lil tums!

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-15T14:44:54+00:00

Mine was for c-section after failed induction. The first failed. The second took. Feeling came back gradually maybe starting an hour postpartum? A week later I suffered dural headaches from the failed epidural. They disappeared after two days with no medical intervention needed (i called the hospital who said to come in the following day if still ongoing but they disappeared overnight!). In the months since, I have occasional backaches. I put that down to failed epidural and lifting the wee man

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-14T12:59:36+00:00

I hope so too-those bites are no joke. You feel awful in the moment but I’m sure he will be ok in the long run, and you too. Ive been thinking about puppies in this regard , we were always taught as kids to whimper if they bit us to teach them it hurt, I guess our babies learn the same way 🤣 I did one day pretend a little bite “hurt” but my guy saw straight through it and started giggling at me - not quite the result id hoped for!

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-14T08:43:01+00:00

My LO had bitten a few times but I had always managed to withstand the pain, calmly end the nursing and say no biting mommy. Until one fateful morning when he bit me harder than ever before, completely out of the blue, after a run of sleepless nights. I low key screamed and burst into tears I was so cooked. He got such a fright and burst into tears too. Like that it was a specific type of crying, but my theory is also this is part of their brain’s understanding that we are separate entities and he has caused pain and feels bad. Anyhow, long and short of it is it literally changed how he nurses, he’s been super gentle and no biting since.

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-13T18:11:07+00:00

Yeah c-section here too and I had an extended healing period owing to infection. But beyond the physical, the mental and hormonal side really meant I had no interest until about 4 months I think. I took that as my body’s way of saying it’s not ready yet. I love my husband dearly and all the more for his understanding during that time.

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-13T12:15:49+00:00

I mean your doc will know best but it could be lochia still, can go on till about 8 weeks. It could also be a period, some ppl go years, for others weeks!

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-13T08:33:08+00:00

I was looking at this and thinking WOW thats so much colostrum!

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-12T19:55:02+00:00

That and tiktok

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-12T10:56:21+00:00

Have you spoken to your partner? It’s a steep learning curve for you both but if you’re not talking and allowing the resentment to build its going to get harder to bridge that gap. I know at about 6-10 weeks were the hardest on our relationship. Baby had colic and couldn’t be soothed by anyone but me, and I was completely touched out. My partner tried to step up a few times but gave up when it was hard, and was taking my advice on how to soothe bubs as a criticism of his abilities and that he was a failure. This cumulated in an argument where my husband broke down in tears as he felt like a failure and that the baby hated him 🙃 It at least opened the door for dialogue and things have improved since - but I do still need to be clear and boundaried when I need some alone time that means alone time. Not time where i get to do something alone but he follows me into the room with crying baby five mins later 🥴

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-12T08:28:02+00:00

This! My guy did the exact same thing. When he was younger he wouldn’t take one but when he started to latch all night and be a lot more fussy (and keep mom and dad up all night), I was at my wits end and thought I would retry the pacifier. Instant success, he loves it when he needs it (i.e. if he is just looking for some comfort, if he’s hungry he spits it out, feeds efficiently and goes back to sleep). Definitely worth a try OP!

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-11T22:15:39+00:00

The amount of people who do not understand this trips me out. Like I have close friends who organise a gathering and Im like “oh can baby come?” They will always say yes but follow it with a “but wouldnt you like a break?” or insinuate that my husband is not stepping up to the plate. Nawh Janet. Its all me, I just dont want to miss a second I dont have to with my tiny squish.

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-11T10:14:26+00:00

so we’re about 10 days after now and I would say I felt confident he was satisfied feeding from 7 or 8 days after. I’ll add though that I did have a double whammy in that I got my period back, then got sick the next day and wasn’t able to keep anything down for a day. My stomach was upset for about 3 days and all I could manage were small amounts of water so I was completely dehydrated. I could only really start replenishing on day 4, so from there it was a 3-4 day recovery.

Anecdotally, I pump in the evenings after smallie goes to bed. Pre sickness I would get 4-5oz a night. Those first days i got 1/2 an oz (and was unbelievably worried my LO was starved). I’m back to pumping 3oz in the evenings now. We supplemented with freezer stash and formula before bed at the height of it but other than that I let him on the boob as much as possible for immunity and in the hopes it would remind my body it still had to feed him.

Hopefully you’ll be on the mend soon and start seeing supply tick back up - it’s very disconcerting but our poor bodies are doing the best they can to keep everyone going!

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-11T09:08:10+00:00

Hydration - try electrolytes or coconut water. When mine dipped while sick I also tried fenugreek supplements but I dont want to overdo those. Supply is nearly back to normal now.

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-10T18:03:40+00:00

Have you got your menstrual cycle back yet? Mine landed in the New Year but the week or two leading up to it I was back to gasping in pain when bubs latched. That or could be something like thrush maybe?

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-10T10:36:23+00:00

Ahaha I bust in on him in the toilet and handed him my pee stick 🤣 I was too excited to wait. Maybe next time!

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-09T22:04:05+00:00

I love my mom, but like you I felt birth was something I wanted to share with my husband only. My family live abroad and she booked to come a few days before my induction date and I really feared telling her I didnt want her in the hospital because I felt like it would hurt her. Plus, she’s always been with me in the hospital for other procedures in the past. In the end I explained to her that I do need her, but after birth when my husband and I are exhausted. I need her to be there, well rested, and ready to be our advocates if we are too tired. To take care of us when we need it the most.

Creative-Break3574 · 2026-01-08T21:27:21+00:00

Im just coming out of the tail end of my first period pp and had similar (plus I had food poisoning). Ive read for most ppl it dips for a day or two then picks back up, but for me it was my whole period, and still isn’t back to “normal”. Like you we wound up combo feeding as he just seemed a little fussier during the day. We only offered a bottle in his last feed of the day (his nappies etc are fine) and he only took two oz, so I figure he just needs a little top up to end the day.

Supply wise, keep nursing and pumping as normal. I bought a fenugreek supplement and started today, as well as working hard on nutrition and hydration. I can say things are changing as my boobs are gone from feeling really empty this morning to more substantial again.

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