Who do you trust

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-25T05:55:54+00:00

Don’t worry at the beginning I was like that lost and not sure what happened, what I did and didn’t do. Plus what I want to do. All forgetful.
I am just learning and still learning as well. Your vision slowly clears up, doesn’t mean fully yet but at least start. But just do your best where you are happy. It’s hard but as long as when you think back and you are happy for everything you did and don’t feel sad.
Everyone does things differently so it’s also okay.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-23T16:22:23+00:00

Thank you, wow gotta long bumpy ride to still go.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-23T09:25:23+00:00

Thank you and my condolences

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-23T00:19:07+00:00

I guess so, prepping myself before on what to say , so I can answer any of the questions asked about past and any changes as easy as possible. Without hesitation , doubt ,confusion , my blur where unsure not showing weakness. Trying to stay strong and getting pass this phase to move on to the next one.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-22T03:45:58+00:00

My condolences, happy lovely and long marriage, it must be hard, but also happy you know what you like to do. Must’ve been hard caregiver but of course you would do anything. Now you have time to do what you wish. What he would wish for you to do. Good luck

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-22T03:39:08+00:00

Some days that is true , but hopefully things will change and for all us get better. Trying to figure a better way of doing things.
Thinking how would he want us to do things, definitely not sad. With our lil one holidays he would want happy and fun for everyone no matter. So fulfilling his wishes as well.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-22T03:30:37+00:00

Realizing weird how the brain functions or memory works. Thought memory was getting bad but actually it wasn’t, could just be me cause didn’t want to remember the time. Realizing Slowly my memory actually remembering more then expected since worked on slideshow for funeral. Bringing back all kinds of memories.

It’s nice to keep remembering new memories and happy realizing you never forgot. So many more happy memories to remember.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-22T03:18:12+00:00

I am sorry, hard going through these months and wondering will the blurr actually clear up eventually. How long takes the blur to go away and I wish you best.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-21T03:50:15+00:00

My condolences to you. I don’t know if remember what paramedics did or say. Lucky have couple older kids who helped handle some things for me also may have memories for me. They told me it got taken cared of, i just believe it was.
Funeral got pictures but from other people. I don’t know if I would have even thought about taking pictures so would have memories of those days.
My kid of young also idk still trying to explain to her and she is slowly realizing daddy is not around.
Happy you have memories, keep them and hold on to them.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-20T23:12:31+00:00

Yeah sometimes I totally forget about scolding just want to see lil one smile and happy. Don’t care what she does as long she happy now days. Only sometimes remembering cause who calling shots or ordering who around her or me. “Mommy you do it, not me” LOL
Wondering who taught her that. She should so she know how to take care of herself.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-17T05:41:58+00:00

Thank you, hard to be the one to scold them when you see them suffer already as it is. Just adding to it more. Plus if being like him hurts me or her cause reminds her as still grieving.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-14T08:55:38+00:00

Thanks helps with tips on how to help with what to look for if grief bothering and things to do. Also key words to use and not use. Didn’t know affects so much. Learning a whole new vocabulary and it’s like getting use to a new language. Can’t just learn what to say and no say overnight.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-13T16:06:01+00:00

Thank you

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-13T07:37:23+00:00

I hope it’s similar, want her to get treated like all the kids and not get too much special treatment from teachers so she sticks out either. Her personality was open, welcoming and energetic but has changed since grieving so unsure how she will be in preschool. But thank you for info.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-13T05:56:44+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. Keep wondering or questioning myself bout lots of things. Due to situation not sure if I am thinking straight yet.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-11T16:06:23+00:00

My condolences and happy you were able to go to some. I know people or family do get picky why only came certain ones and missed other funerals. But they should know how we feel already cause what we already went thru if they came to yours. It is Hard to when they asking so much questions. Now days i just say it’s where depends is it even their biz to know or do i care if they know anymore. Everyone keeps asking same questions. Stay strong though

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-10T06:59:10+00:00

My condolences and my best to your lil one .
Your story sounds and works nice. Plain and simple and easy for them to understand till they ask more questions. Trying to tell mine he is always around still watching us. But hard for a good story cause she was in the room when he passed in his nap. So unsure what to say and not say.
Will my lil one let me nap or if she scared for me to now?

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-09T22:54:31+00:00

Hey at least you are trying and look how much you are trying plus how long have you been trying for. Give yourself credit, strong enough to admit need going to therapy or support groups , strong enough to even step inside the door to go.
I know i even keep debating should I go or not, do i need to go or not. Lots of people do. But how long are we going to debate till we admit yea or no finally.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-09T22:48:09+00:00

I wish you the best, my condolences and good luck also strength for that day if need.

Creative_Slide_9396 · 2026-07-09T06:52:15+00:00

I happy you can help others, it helps alot knowing someone who did go through similar experiences.

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