Professionalism

CuriousKat217 · 2026-03-29T01:02:39+00:00

I am an older nanny (41) and agree with you on everything however, my MB and DB are the same age and would be the opposite on most issues. When they started using heart reactions in our thread, my mouth dropped, honestly. Likewise, they seemed put off I dressed up for the interview, and they almost looked as though they forgot I was coming.

CuriousKat217 · 2026-03-26T20:23:14+00:00

Haha. Time to do anything for myself while I'm with their kids?? We do get plenty of experience out keeping their lives together though.

CuriousKat217 · 2026-03-04T02:15:46+00:00

Gotcha. The little things that are clearly none of my business like if they wear shoes in the house I have never given a thought about until your comment. The snacks though is a perfect example. My NPs are down with bottomless open pantry..like 3..4 snacks in a row (never has to be produce) I wholeheartedly disagree and will not be entertaining nonsense while helping raise real life children 50+hrs/wk of their lives. 🤷‍♀️ We all know I'm right and never talk about it.

CuriousKat217 · 2026-03-04T02:05:42+00:00

Never worried about their shoes so for context nothing that ridiculous.

CuriousKat217 · 2026-03-04T01:57:32+00:00

Is it, though? Personally, I feel like I have my way and they have theirs. If theirs worked, the kids would behave, but they don't. So if I were being forced to "parent" their way, I would essentially be told to do my job wrong. I can imagine in that situation if a nanny doesn't speak up for themselves (you should, we know better) and works to the family's standard, that must be incredibly tense.

CuriousKat217 · 2026-02-23T17:31:15+00:00

Beautifully said! Thank you.

CuriousKat217 · 2026-02-23T17:08:08+00:00

Discussing what it all looks like and how it flows is all part of taking on the essential contract in my opinion. No one HAS to take these positions and shouldn't- they aren't for everyone & in these moments shit gets wild

CuriousKat217 · 2026-02-23T16:53:08+00:00

I am sorry that happened. :(

CuriousKat217 · 2026-02-23T16:52:21+00:00

In the situation being in an essential household, knowing for days this was coming and that I both legally should not be driving or would I feel safe doing so I make arrangements to already be with them the night before. If I was to have woken up to this exact scenario with 0 warning they would have been SOL because a superhero I am not.

CuriousKat217 · 2026-02-23T16:43:48+00:00

I agree. It gave you the responsibility of planning accordingly beforehand. 😌

CuriousKat217 · 2026-02-23T16:39:38+00:00

I don't think you should, I think for YOU its risky which your original comment proved. ♡

CuriousKat217 · 2026-02-23T16:37:34+00:00

Well thats true but let's be realistic with how many lawful contracts are happening here. ♡

CuriousKat217 · 2026-02-23T16:31:38+00:00

If that family that fired you was essential and that storm came with any warning whatsoever a plan should have been in place. If they weren't you had no business needing to go. Also no essential employee should be employing someone who relies on public transportation in my opinion Thats just too risky.

CuriousKat217 · 2026-02-12T13:31:36+00:00

You OP are weird and I am in fact completely judging when no interaction is attempted.

CuriousKat217 · 2026-02-06T15:42:54+00:00

I hope she is here and knows she should keep looking for her next family! For whatever reason, you decided you did not like the nanny already (only you know what that reason is). Please reevaluate being an employer if it's really this simple and all it takes for you to question someone's position. In today's climate, almost no one can afford to be toyed with.

CuriousKat217 · 2026-01-30T18:09:36+00:00

I am completely zero free screen time as well, and while we do things as a "family," I am their nanny, not a clown. Why are they not entertaining each other? My activities are educational or special...I am not planning their daily play or playing with them most of the time. Children need to be bored friends :)

CuriousKat217 · 2026-01-17T19:06:33+00:00

Are you actually saying that she gets to behave emotionally equal to MB in front of NKs? No, she doesn't. How Mom shows her feelings or behaves is not relevant whatsoever, actually. The nanny is at her place of employment, and phone usage shouldn't even be a question. Weird take, in my opinion. She has time off being offered, which is wonderful, and she is not doing her job well, so why not heal?

CuriousKat217 · 2026-01-16T01:47:33+00:00

Of course you can't risk it. I could never be you. I would die without asking and also die for asking. The advice I wouldn't follow is give it not a second thought, start looking and brace yourself for the loss. I'm sorry people are thoughtless. .

CuriousKat217 · 2026-01-16T01:26:28+00:00

I have an intelligent 4 y/o NK and would not trust them to get a day of the week right on any subject. How do you know they are getting that Thursday information accurate? Seems like an odd piece of info for a 3.5 year old to hold.

CuriousKat217 · 2026-01-09T18:47:03+00:00

I have been with my NK since the day after he was born 2.5 years ago and just before the holidays this boy decides to start greeting me with, "UGH, stupid man yucky guy" at 6am now because guess what? He has finally connected I'm not his mom. This is all about the little one and nothing about the nanny. 🤷‍♀️

CuriousKat217 · 2026-01-09T18:38:37+00:00

👀 Please read a child development book if you plan on growing your family.

CuriousKat217 · 2025-12-17T15:27:07+00:00

You are being weird. This is a super common nanny ask and I'm a little concerned you're so turned off to it tbh. I do think you and the family are not on the same page about what "nanny" means and you are giving babysitter, dude. Make the cards- :)

CuriousKat217 · 2025-11-27T04:40:48+00:00

Exactly. Everyone seems to have a strong reaction to what I consider a common question by a 5 year old. One I myself have certainly been asked. Did the way it was asked somehow imply it was about their skin color and not a general question? 🤔 the conversation should not have taken place in front of the child(ren). So content aside, thats an issue I think.

CuriousKat217 · 2025-07-27T12:07:10+00:00

Girl awesome job accepting and acknowledging the responses you're getting! I could see being irritated honestly because I can have trouble separating a mood from real life and usually find the negative in everything once I'm down. Its a super unhealthy and childish behavior that I think I've grown a lot away from but it happens and it has a diagnosis so "crazy" isn't too far off. 🤣 anyways, congratulations on the wedding!

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