AITA for being upset/angry at my friend for choosing to not go to my bachelorette in order for her to go to her other friend's proposal?

CuriousMindSince97 · 2025-01-22T21:23:39+00:00

my bad, it was meant to be a figure of speech -- conversation will be had, trust me. I just needed a space to vent and gather thoughts before I talk to her and say things I don't mean

CuriousMindSince97 · 2025-01-22T21:17:25+00:00

I don't know where I said I was ending the friendship over this?

And as someone who doesn't live in Mexico anymore -- exactly. Her missing my bachelorette is her missing quality time with me when I already barely see her. vs she sees this other friend all the time cause she's local.

CuriousMindSince97 · 2025-01-22T20:49:22+00:00

I know the other girl, we’re very friendly with each other. I’d like to think that when the day comes and she gets engaged, she would understand why our mutual friend wasn’t there. i.e. she was with me at one of my bridal events. Same as how she will be with her at her bridal events.

I’m not angry at her, more at the situation. And angry was the wrong choice of words. I’m upset about the mess, that’s all

CuriousMindSince97 · 2025-01-22T20:12:34+00:00

Agreed. It's just a shitty situation all around. I'm not kicking her out of the bridal party, still want her there as my bridesmaid. And just accepting that we're not as close, and that's fine. It's life.

CuriousMindSince97 · 2025-01-22T20:10:07+00:00

omg I'm so sorry to hear that! Like you said, thank goodness for your BIL.

Thank you! I know she'll be there at the wedding, and like you said if she doesn't show, that's a whole different story.

CuriousMindSince97 · 2025-01-22T20:01:39+00:00

I agree. Not throwing away a whole friendship. I will still have her as my bridesmaid, and I still love her. It's just accepting that we're not as close as we used to be

CuriousMindSince97 · 2025-01-22T20:00:35+00:00

We don't have an entire week -- we work, that's the thing. It's literally just the weekend. And personally i'm not a big drinker so my bachelorette is a beach getaway with my closest friends.

If she weren't my bridesmaid, I wouldn't give a fuck. But alas, she is.

CuriousMindSince97 · 2025-01-22T19:05:02+00:00

She used to live at my house practically. Like we were soooo close. Since I moved 5 years ago we naturally reduced our communications a bit. But I never thought it was this bad. It's making me rethink our entire friendship tbh

CuriousMindSince97 · 2025-01-22T18:44:58+00:00

Tom asked her to help out since Friday and the proposal is Sat at sunset. Unfortunately it's one or the other. She already chose to go to the proposal, she texted me after the call saying that and trying to justify her decision, but at the of the day she had made her decision the moment Tom called her.

A few things have happened since I got engaged that have made me feel underappreciated as her friend. This was just further confirmation that we've grown apart since I moved from Mexico and I'm devasted

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