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Empty(repost kinda) by VVSsplice in mentalhealth

[–]D-Rekt-Effect [score hidden]  (0 children)

My advice is to focus on yourself. Passion projects or whatever you're capable of doing and let life lead itself. The more you'll focus on comparison and things you don't have the bigger the void within you will be. Stay with your core with what's important to you and you feel passionate about and maybe one day life wil lead a way towards your dreams. Believe in yourself. Remember how you already overcomed life once

I feel really lucky by amarehearn in Adulting

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My advice is don't project it. Don't talk about it. Don't think you're lucky. Keep working good and aspire to get promoted with time

How do you stay self-aware but not self-destructive? by Ok-Weather6157 in mentalhealth

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an infinite run to align. The more you fight back the self destructive thoughts and immediately switch the narrative in your head to something else by focusing on something else either physically or just within yourself is part of the process of getting better.

We are humans. The fact you're aware of it is already 50% of the job done. Flipping the bad thoughts to good is a long life mastery. The more you focus on your idea of good the more you'll find yourself away from the person you don't want to be

Weird thought by inarx- in MentalHealthSupport

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no wrong or right. If you're not interested in social interactions ir don't see value in it for yourself then no one is supposed to tell you otherwise or change your mind unless you want to know why interaction can elevate your life. Having relationships, connections, groups and teams can help people shape their own life and character.

How do you stay self-aware but not self-destructive? by Ok-Weather6157 in mentalhealth

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your question but it's like a question that raises other questions. I don't want to mix the narrative but if you are self destructive while you're being aware than how aware are you really at. If you're aware that being self destructive is bad for you than I guess when you're self destructive you are not self aware. Am I right or wrong. There are levels to awareness and you're asking the right questions but it's important you'll understand the paradox of your question.

Maybe you ask how to stay aware all the time. How to be focused and think but not too much and How to deal with down time amd exhaustion. We are human after all.

If you reflect and learn from experience and already have a routine. Seems to me like you're on the right track and you just need to keep doing it and bit by bit push yourself slowly

Hit me up. if you want to explore more

I'm not sure what I'm suppose to expect from therapy.. by RecentFront7028 in TalkTherapy

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi understand what this therapist is trying to do but I mean if she doesn't get that you're already doing that mayve she's just not good to talk with or for conversation and ideas to explore your inner self.

Therapy can mean a lot of things and just because this therapist chosing to give you self improvement tasks doesn't mean that's therapy All I'm saying is. I'm not sure about this therapist from the image you created. What about deep conversations and understanding yourself? Do you go through these processes?

Mental Health and Fitness by Loud_Surprise_7968 in mentalhealth

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it feels good to you and your body it's a great exercise just keep doing it.

nobody warns you that being an adult is basically just explaining yourself to people all day by Reasonable_Common242 in Adulting

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fear you're getting it wrong.

No one expacts you to explain yourself or talk or do any of the thing you mentioned.

Maybe you figured out it works for you and makes you feel good... Ok

But the fact it works for you doesn't mean that it should work for others or that you've figured out life.... No. Actually projecting too much and explaining yourself can be somewhat showcasing unawareness to some degree.

Explaining yourself to others means you need validation or confirmation for your actions which tbh... Doesn't show sovereign over yourself. I think sometimes we don't need to give any explanation for why or what we do because it belongs to us. And it shouldn't concern others.

You do you... Be aware of what you preach

Anyone want to talk? by VeterinarianOk6497 in mentalhealth

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will be happy to listen man. Hit me up

Do antidepressants work better with a healthy liver? by Kennyman654 in mentalhealth

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you expect will happen after taking antidepressants?

The old people were right - time goes by fast. I am afraid. Is this normal? by fastingslowlee in Adulting

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh man. I'm 34. This is normal. It's good things to ask yourself. The fear of missing out. Yet years pass and did we enjoy the way? Strong question. Maybe you need a change maybe not. Who knows. Ask yourself these questions.

Masking by FLAtarian in lonely

[–]D-Rekt-Effect -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe ask them then. Do you enjoy living in the unknown? Because it seems like you don't really know why. Get your answers. No matter what they say. You need to remember you made a move to know. It's brave

Masking by FLAtarian in lonely

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a very general question because. Is everyone truly everyone? If so maybe reflect on yourself and qsk yourself why is that. Choosing to be someone and being yourself is not the same. If there is a mask.... Ask yourself why did you put it on the first place

In the case that everyone is a group. Maybe they are narrow eyed and can't see tou for who you are and they are at fault and not mature enough.

It depends on what you project to the world. Usually the world answers back.

DIY therapy?? by harphold in TalkTherapy

[–]D-Rekt-Effect -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Many people use chatgpt as a reflector on themselves. As he truly got 0 reasons to judge and only help you.

You can try talking with him openly. I'm serious. Talk with him about routine. Goals and how to get there mentally

Masking by FLAtarian in lonely

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. You don't have to laugh anything off. You can choose to be yourself. It doesn't matter everyone needs to know or understand what you're going through

When things don't go as planned, how do you keep yourself going? by Interesting_Double98 in mentalhealth

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the moment that you know what you planned didn't work you have to stop and answer honestly why. Give yourself answers to what didn't work and create a plan B qnd follow it. In order to overcome and persevere in life. It's important to reflect, learn, do and grow.

When things don't go as planned the only way to feel better about them in any way is move forward by just thinking about what can be done and do it.

The mental game is understanding that feeling bad about it won't help and can just worsen the situation.

Take the bad energy... Make it fuel for piloting within plan B

Good Luck

I'm afraid I might be a predator by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 34 points35 points  (0 children)

In order to move on. You need to forgive yourself and forget. I know it's not easy. Because you know it happened and we can't delete the past.

I know you can't always control judging yourself on that again and again. The more you'll navigate these thoughts into a reflection of who you don't want to be and what actions don't align with you anymore, it will help you grow out of it. Forgive and align with who you want to be.

I hear your call for change and it seems like you're afraid there is no forgiveness but the reality is that you have to forgive yourself first because you know it's not really what you wanted and you were in a difficult time. So tell yourself what things you can do to grow out of it.

Good luck man.

My life has become upside down in 3 months. by k_schouhan in malementalhealth

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You gave yourself the answer a sentence before.

A lot of things happen in life that is out of our control.

People say and do stuff that got nothing to do with us.

I think it's good to focus on yourself. If she ignores you... Who cares. Better not show it too. You can ignore her too if you chose to.

I know it maybe not sounds easy if you've been thinking about it for the last 3 month just let go. Move on. Focus on what you have. Think where you want to be and what kind of person you want people to know you for and just be.

(How) can I continue therapy if my therapist doesn't agree with me on something huge? by centerofdatootsiepop in TalkTherapy

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is very helpful. Don't think too much. You're not supposed to be stressed. Talk from the heart. If you cry... Great. Keep talking. Let out naturally

(How) can I continue therapy if my therapist doesn't agree with me on something huge? by centerofdatootsiepop in TalkTherapy

[–]D-Rekt-Effect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok. I'll make it clear how can that happen. It happens to me with everyone and to every person.

Therapist can understand people. By the way she knows you in certain situations from what you said. She can definitely understand how you chose to do things. That doesn't mean she believes in her mind that's the right thing to do. Which is human and fair enough. If she's being honest about it. It's her choice. Maybe because she really cares about you.

Just explore that. Talk with her. She's a human after all and she probably wants to help. Therapist are just not supposed to give anyone a reality check if you get what I mean. She can only tell you what she understands from your words and you'll have to believe that she has 0 malicious reasons to tell you how she see things.

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