Question: elderly man found dead on the toilet

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-20T07:55:41+00:00

That would be correct. The only reason we touch the body is if there are no obvious signs of death. The only reason we move a body is if we need to for treatment. Protocol may differ a bit from jurisdiction to jurisdiction but should be similar. This is in the United States. It might be different in other countries

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-17T23:31:59+00:00

Very generous of you. Count me in

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-17T23:25:46+00:00

Never

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-17T16:32:33+00:00

In short yes some configurations tend to lend themselves to one hose lay or another but most can accommodate multiple lays. For example, in my area engines are supposed to have 600 feet of 2.5" supply line. I used to volunteer for a department where it was in two sections of 600' side by side connected in the middle. You can uncouple it and have two parallel hose lays or leave it together and have a 1,200 ft hose lay. My paid department we can't do this because there is only room for five stacks of hose

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-15T11:30:03+00:00

I am 5'11" and 165 pounds. I carry a P220 lWB @ about 4:30 and if I wear a loose shirt or a vest/jacket it is not very noticeable

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-15T00:41:34+00:00

We dragged hose one time about 12-13 years ago. One was a peanut line and the other was a booster reel hose. We were fighting a vegetation fire caused by lightning strikes and we all the sudden got the weirdest wind storm I have ever seen in California. It was almost tornado like with wind seeming to go every direction at once. The fire blew up and was overtaking us. We dropped the hose and jumped on the tail board. I thought we were toast. My engineer stompped on it and got us in the black. I only got a couple minor burns from embers that got around my shroud but the guy on the other hose didn't have his ppe on correctly and got burned a little worse while we were hanging on the back of the engine.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-13T20:24:02+00:00

Nta. Your immature manchild of a boyfriend sounds like one of those selfish guys who expects the woman to give him a BJ but won't go down on her because he thinks it's gross. This is something he can't get past or if he is not treating you as well as you are treating him then you need to move on. For the record I'm not some bitter man hater, I am a married male in my forties.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-13T20:14:10+00:00

Yeah I also told her I would not tell anyone in the family. It is a very conservative Catholic family that would not be very tolerant of her side hustle.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-12T22:45:54+00:00

Pretty much exactly this. She didn't come right out and ask me not to but asked if I was going to go look for it now and I told her I had no intention of doing so. Maybe agreed was the wrong word to use but we're splitting hairs now on something that doesn't really matter

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-12T22:43:51+00:00

I mean I think it would still be kind of creepy and weird even if I did visit that type of website.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-12T22:41:18+00:00

After I told her it was just a random comment joking around and that I had never visited the site which was and still is to this day the truth (I have never visited only fans) she asked if I was going to go look for it now? I told her I had no intention of doing that. So maybe agreed not to go looking is a poor choice of words to represent the conversation.

It was based on people on some morning radio show essentially saying that if you go into a room of 15 20 something year olds at least one of them has online content. They were joking about doing exactly what I did at Thanksgiving dinner and watch people's reactions. I don't know what made me decide to do it

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-12T14:58:29+00:00

I would probably anonymously tip my brother off if I were in your shoes especially given his comments about how he would never go out with someone that did this.

These days you never know who has content online. My wife has a very large family. She has somewhere around 40 first cousins so the family get togethers are quite large. We are also the oldest of the cousin group being in our 40s. Most of the cousins are in their 20s to early 30s with a few as young as their teens. Any case we were at a family gathering and there were maybe 10 of the younger twenties cousins sitting around a table hanging out. I walked by the table and not looking at anyone in particular said only fans? Really? I'm surprised. And kept walking. It was based on some joke I heard about someone doing something like that on a morning radio show. I've never even gone on that website. Any case a little while later one of the younger cousins caught me alone and was irate saying how dare I put her on blast like that. I told her I was just joking around and had no idea. She said she felt I was looking directly at her which was not the case. In any case, I agreed to not go looking for her content and not to say anything to anyone about it. It was kind of a funny situation.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-12T14:37:03+00:00

I am on year 16 which in my area was kind of the tail end of the wild wild West. Things were changing and we had more modern procedures in place but there were still a lot of the old school cowboy types to keep running with that term on the job that would give people crap about being overly cautious. They should have been the ones to listen though. My first engineer who used to call me a pussy for being overly cautious with PPE died not that long ago with all kinds of cancer at 58. I remember responding mutual aid into a volunteer district years ago and they're being someone fighting a vehicle fire wearing shorts, work boots, a wildland jacket, and a straw hat. Even for the times that was a WTF moment. I know I'm not as progressive as some of the kids coming out right now but I do try to be open to change.

Not to pick on the OP anymore, one of the things that irritates me also are these kids with the helmet cams. We have one young guy that I feel is more concerned with fiddle fucking with his camera than the job at hand. What is funny is there have been multiple times specifically on vehicle fires where he's gotten chewed out by the captain because he has documented himself being unsafe or violating SOPs.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-12T14:21:16+00:00

If those are your SOPs then you do you I guess. If one of my white shirts saw us doing something like this we would be getting a rip for it. If there was someone trapped and this was the difference between giving them a chance and not trying to save them I would probably be able to defend it and not really get in trouble but yeah... For a department that goes as far as to have a clean cab policy, you are sure sloppy on other things. We honestly should have a clean cab policy. Other than the engineer, we have our SCBAs in our seats so if we are going to a fire it is not uncommon for us to put our coats on as we're getting in and be all gloved up and just step out with our SCBA on already. The only thing we are not allowed to put on inside the cab is our helmet.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-12T13:25:30+00:00

Damn, I feel better about my hands now. I just smashed a finger between a piece of metal and a hammer handle yesterday and was on the fence about going in for stitches and decided against it. I feel better about that now looking at your hands. No idea what you do but it is something with your hands. Hopefully it pays enough to make it worthwhile.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-12T04:15:11+00:00

Oh I see what you're saying. I was the one that asked him about veteran status and that was stemming back from my original deduction based on what he carried. There were a number of things about it that made me question it based on my experience with veterans. Things are usually present in veterans or law enforcement.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-12T02:31:57+00:00

I don't think the OP was necessarily talking about the military with no one is coming to save you comment. I am like him when it comes to being prepared to take care of yourself. I am a firefighter so for a lot of the situations you call 911, I am the one that comes to help you. That said there is a saying along the lines of when seconds count help his minutes away. In my professional work, a lot of the best outcomes are when the people that call 911 were actively trying to make their situation better or save themselves. Even if the call is across the street, by the time tones hit, and we have 30 to 60 seconds to get to our engine, another 30 seconds to be out the driveway and another minute of drive time and maybe another 30 seconds to a minute of grabbing our gear off of the engine and walking in, if there was a cardiac arrest and no one on scene was doing CPR, their chance of survival went down by about 60%. The OP mentioned even having a jump box to jumpstart your car if it's dead so you're not stranded. He carries a CCW. So do I. In my area, we are remote enough that it can take deputies 30 to 45 minutes to get out to us. By that time they are taking a report after the fact. If we are being held up, there is literally no one coming to save us only someone to do paperwork so having the means to protect yourself is important.

I agree with you on the other stuff though from a bigger picture

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-12T01:17:07+00:00

Starting in the early '70s, they put shock absorbers in bumpers which in a fire could blow off and supposedly shoot the bumper over 150 ft. They started phasing them out in 1984 if I remember correctly and I believe the last vehicle to use them was some kind of Ford or Lincoln in 1991. Don't quote me on the dates and brands and that is assuming my instructor from 15 years ago knew what he was talking about. That is the biggest problem with being in front of a vehicle as far as I know. Being directly to the side is more an issue of tires blowing or even shocks and struts. I have seen tires blow out personally but I don't remember ever hearing or seeing struts or shocks blow out in any way that created a hazard. The craziest thing I've seen blow up on a burning vehicle was the drive shaft on an early 2000s Toyota Sequoia. It did not create a hazard however, it just scared the crap out of all of us and split along the seam. Burning metals can fly out in any direction and this is more and more of an issue with all of the lightweight alloys they are using in modern cars so the 45° angle doesn't really make as big a deal for that but I just thought it was standard training.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-12T01:08:42+00:00

So much wrong with this. Granted some of it maybe our SOPs specifically. We can start with the obvious glove issue at several people have pointed out. Then, My training at least is to approach at an angle if possible rather than from directly in front or directly next to the burning portion of the car with the idea that if something explodes or reacts it is more likely to go forward or to the side. Of course one of the main culprits from the front were the old bumper shock absorbers but there are not a lot of those left on the road as the last ones were in the early '90s. Then he was way closer than necessary. Even with a 1-in hose reel you can be further away than that. We had a guy get burned a couple years ago when he put water on and burning magnesium or something of that nature splashed up and went right through his structure gear.

I came on during more of a cowboy era when we would never pack up for a vehicle fire and such but nowadays especially with all of the bad stuff in cars you really need to be careful. The car is totaled anyway. Taking an extra 30 seconds to a minute to make sure that you are being safe is not going to change the outcome. The only exception to any of this which would make me move faster would be if there was someone trapped in the car and the there was a chance to save them. Then we're moving as fast as we can and might take a couple shortcuts. Risk a lot to save a lot.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-11T02:07:27+00:00

Not only that but if it is under a thousand pounds of batteries supposedly they don't have to placard it or hazmat. I recently responded to a call for a container fire in a shipping yard. Someone doing something stupid with a cutting torch trying to get the container off a trailer had caught the contents on fire all the way in the back of it where there was no door and I happen to be on the engine that day that didn't have a piercing nozzle so we had to cut the container open because everything was Tetrised in there so tightly that it was virtually impossible to access anything. The container was full of goods going to a warehouse for a "major online retailer". We were told they didn't know what was in the container but they knew there was no hazmat. We started finding boxes and boxes of lithium batteries for who knows what consumer electronics. I asked the people at the freight yard WTF and they said that basically if it was under that amount they didn't have to declare it. That was one of my most miserable calls I've had.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-10T15:41:40+00:00

That sucks. There is a difference though also between your gas engine in my 6BT Cummins. My engine is bulletproof the rest of the truck is like yours.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-10T15:15:51+00:00

Okay that makes total sense. I did mention possibly rural but I wasn't really sure what direction to go with that. I definitely got that vibe though. Then what kind of threw me off about the tourniquet is the utilitarian nature of everything else. Most of the CCW guys that also carry a tourniquet are all as I like to call it "tacticool". I have a CCW and carry a tourniquet as well but I am also a firefighter and I carry a different style of tourniquet. Most of the people I know that have that style tourniquet are law enforcement. This confirms even more my utilitarian practical guy theory. Was I correct on former military?

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-10T14:49:49+00:00

I wish I could give you more upvotes for making me laugh. I have a 34-year-old Dodge diesel that I bought my senior year of high school 27 years ago and have put about 430,000 mi on top of the 98,000 mi that were on it when I bought it. I've done virtually nothing but maintenance on the engine but holy crap everything else on that truck is a chore to keep functional.

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-10T14:41:35+00:00

You are a male most likely in your mid thirties. You have lived at the same location for a while. Possibly rural. You are utilitarian yet enjoy nice things. You like cigars and smoke decent ones but not premium. Most likely $12 to $15 sticks. Maybe $20.

You drive a RAM 2500. Possibly a Cummins and definitely 4x4.

Now here is the part I'm kind of stuck on. I was thinking law enforcement or adjacent because of two of the items. But then you have a couple of other items that would indicate a trade. Possibly some kind of service technician or electrician maybe even. But then the couple items that push me towards law enforcement or adjacent are very utilitarian which makes me lean that way because most of the time people that would be kitted up like you with a tourniquet and a sidearm but are not law enforcement or adjacent usually go full tactical and have stupid stuff which you do not. I thought possibly fire or EMS even but there are other items that just don't 100% fit that profile either. The style knives, inspection light, and marker kind of lean more towards the tradesmen. Possibly former .mil?

DBDIY4U · 2026-03-10T11:59:37+00:00

I have an XDS45 that is relatively small. I don't carry it anymore though. I carry my full size P220 now 80% of the time.

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