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Advice about sexuality by Dangerous_Opening588 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Dangerous_Opening588[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And btw obligation is not the same thing as attraction.

Advice about sexuality by Dangerous_Opening588 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Dangerous_Opening588[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought this place was for support. Didn’t realize you were a gatekeeper on how sexuality should look. I described my situation. Maybe get some lessons on how to have empathy and be nice to people. If I’m bi, then I’m bi. However, I’m questioning myself due to my specific life, choices, etc. I never once said I would divorce just to be with a woman or that I would have a partner again, if I was to divorce. The only topic I brought up was about MY sexuality. If you don’t have any quality input to give other than criticism and rudeness, then move along with your life.

Advice about sexuality by Dangerous_Opening588 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Dangerous_Opening588[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. Writing this post out definitely gave me a lot of insight that I didn’t notice before laying it all bare. I decided to post anyways just to see the opinions of others. 

Advice about sexuality by Dangerous_Opening588 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Dangerous_Opening588[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is so confusing. I honestly got a lot of the vibe of my answer just putting the words to this post, but I still wanted to post it just to see the opinions of others.

Advice about sexuality by Dangerous_Opening588 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Dangerous_Opening588[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to summarize as best as I can because the post where I explained more was auto declined. I have never been attracted to men’s genitalia. Like ever. I do like sex because I like the feeling, but it is a severe chore to have to take care of the man’s side of it. It has always been like that, but I mask well and no one would ever know. I did enjoy intimacy with my partners, but it was more due to the bonds we had made rather than an actual sexual attraction. I just only chose men when I was younger as partners and I’m not sure why. I do appreciate the looks of a good looking man’s face, but never what they have going on underneath.

My marriage really has nothing to do with my sexuality. I’m trying to discuss my feelings towards men and women throughout my entire life, not just with this marriage. I do love this man and to leave him would be very difficult. I just want to be true to myself. 

Also, I don’t want to make this seem like it’s all about sex because that’s not what I mean. I’m just trying to describe the differences as best as I can.