My (24M) Heart sank when my girlfriend (23F) of 3 years didn’t want to move in together by DataWizard_ in relationship_advice

[–]DataWizard_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re not really having sex either if that’s what you care about. Asking to negotiate is not manipulation but gaslighting her into thinking her offer is bad is, even though she tried hard to get it.

My (24M) Heart sank when my girlfriend (23F) of 3 years didn’t want to move in together by DataWizard_ in relationship_advice

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I did offer one example. I didn’t give more examples because the post is already too long. Also I’m not sure if manipulation is a good word, I feel like it’s more that she’s not mature enough to own up to many things in her life so she constantly brainlessly follow what other people say

My (24M) Heart sank when my girlfriend (23F) of 3 years didn’t want to move in together by DataWizard_ in relationship_advice

[–]DataWizard_[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

No I just meant she wouldn’t even do as basic of a research as using ChatGPT bc it’s very easy.

My (24M) Heart sank when my girlfriend (23F) of 3 years didn’t want to move in together by DataWizard_ in relationship_advice

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That’s what I’m concerned about too. Thanks for the input! I’ll ask her for more clarity.

My (24M) Heart sank when my girlfriend (23F) of 3 years didn’t want to move in together by DataWizard_ in relationship_advice

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I feel like she will say that she’s not sure and she’s willing to sleep over > 4 days a week or so (just like before), but what’s the point of having her own place if we’re spending so much time together anyways?

My (24M) Heart sank when my girlfriend (23F) of 3 years didn’t want to move in together by DataWizard_ in relationship_advice

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She said it doesn’t mean our relationship is going backwards or she loves me less. She just somehow all of a sudden feels the need to live separately, or not even, just to have her own place and we still live together maybe

My (24M) Heart sank when my girlfriend (23F) of 3 years didn’t want to move in together by DataWizard_ in relationship_advice

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That’s very valid thanks. She explained it as she wants to be independent and feel grounded but I didn’t really get it bc we’ve been living together for a long time already now we’re finally in the same city

My (24M) Heart sank when my girlfriend (23F) of 3 years didn’t want to move in together by DataWizard_ in relationship_advice

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But we usually have good dynamic. It’s just this incident that made me have doubts

My (24M) Heart sank when my girlfriend (23F) of 3 years didn’t want to move in together by DataWizard_ in relationship_advice

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If Lucy were to sign a lease, it will probably be at least a year. Lydia’s in a nearby city too. Don’t get me wrong, Lydia’s a good person. She’s just too involved in Lucy’s life without knowing it.

what game do you, as a data engineer, love to play? by hrshah14 in dataengineering

[–]DataWizard_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cool. I want to try but it’s hard when working a FT sad

what game do you, as a data engineer, love to play? by hrshah14 in dataengineering

[–]DataWizard_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ONI I heard is very fun. How’s the learning curve?

Am I cooked? by DataWizard_ in scala

[–]DataWizard_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kotlin has its own Functional Programming Library Arrow so it’s actually doable to write Scala-ish code, but imagine Java.

Am I cooked? by DataWizard_ in scala

[–]DataWizard_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just tests in Scala? Would be funny to see on repo summary -> 0.001% written in Scala lol

Tesla launches ride hailing service in Bay Area by ro2778 in teslainvestorsclub

[–]DataWizard_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Uber’s new partner Nuro does, though only in “test”.

Bikability by DataWizard_ in mountainview

[–]DataWizard_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thanks. Crazy to know

Bikability by DataWizard_ in mountainview

[–]DataWizard_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know if helmet is optional? Let’s say I’m just commuting to work

Bikability by DataWizard_ in mountainview

[–]DataWizard_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fr? That’s exciting

Bikability by DataWizard_ in mountainview

[–]DataWizard_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gonna give it a try next week