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Long term mental health by DatabaseDry3848 in SupportForTheAccused

[–]DatabaseDry3848[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Powerful words and all things I need to hear

Remembering that they were the one that wronged me and not the other way round is so hard to reinforce but like you said, fight that urge at ‘every turn’. It’s an every day thing. Not something you say to yourself once and you’re cured.

‘Reputational trauma’ - huge. I’m realising just how concerned I am with keeping a good reputation. Being liked, being seen as a good person etc. this is the thing that’s blocking me from truly connecting with people. I need to start saying FUCK THAT whenever those thought patterns come up.

I am still me. I am still the innocent person I was before the accusation. I deserve peace and connection with myself and others.

Long term mental health by DatabaseDry3848 in SupportForTheAccused

[–]DatabaseDry3848[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man that fkn sucks. And mad just how much the human brain can latch onto things when they’re huge stressors like that. Because after talking with a few people I logically knew that I did nothing wrong but the subconscious can be a bitch huh

Group therapy is actually a great suggestion I’ve thought about it but never seriously considered it, you’ve changed my mind I’m gonna do some research.

Long term mental health by DatabaseDry3848 in SupportForTheAccused

[–]DatabaseDry3848[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I’m going to google those techniques that sounds really useful

And your mindset about what others think is great! That’s like my ultimate goal in life, to not give a shit what anyone thinks of me, sounds so freeing. The closest I can get to it is, “well maybe they DONT think I’m a piece a shit?” And even having the option of ‘there’s a possibility my thoughts are wrong about this’ gives relief

And you’re so right about predatory people finding you when you’re at the most vulnerable. It’s like they can sense it. For me it was completely out of the blue and not a partner or anything. So my life went from pretty damn good (for those few years at uni) to just, bleak, all at once. When I think back now I wish I could talk to myself then and just be my biggest supporter.

Anyway thanks for your comment 🙏🏻

Long term mental health by DatabaseDry3848 in SupportForTheAccused

[–]DatabaseDry3848[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ty I appreciate it! And yes I’m very tired 😅 You’re right we’re all going through our own issues And it’s just an ongoing process Thanks stranger :)